Hi James

You raise an interesting point. What is our dress? 👗 I will reflect on that some. 🩵

Immediately, I think pride for me. An unwillingness to not provide for my son to a high standard. Parents are forced into this reality all the time. Losing loved ones. Something else that people are forced into. Attachment. Aversion to suffering. Aversion to conflict. Aversion to being judged. Aversion to loneliness. Normal things. Human things.

I have a question. What if belief in a higher power and fate being in their hands doesn’t provide complete comfort? Of course, it provides some. It is all god’s plan, but I don’t understand it. Part of me still blames god a little for the imprint of suffering his plans have left on me. I suppose we all suffer, it is the human condition. I suffer less than others, that is a blessing. Why must we all suffer? To learn, to love? I don’t know. 🩵

Hi James

I appreciate your enthusiasm. Whilst in some cases that can be true, in others I disagree. 🩵

Some things happen that just cause massive amounts of suffering.

Some people suffer when they want a baby and can’t have one, others don’t. People suffer at different levels with health issues. Some people value wealth and some people don’t. Eventually, once people get ill enough they suffer.

I don’t think anyone is suggesting that people traumatised by war experience PTSD because of expectations. Some things are just horrific to experience.

I think it’s not so much expectations that bother me, trauma is what bothers me. I experienced a huge amount of suffering as a child. I can’t protect my son from suffering. I can only try my best, but some things are out of my control. If I can make his life a little more gentle, a little softer, a little kinder. That is my job as a parent because things will happen that hurt at some point in his life. It is the way of the world. 🌎

Are people wrong to care about what they care about? Most people will never be enlightened in their lifetime. It is natural for them to feel the way that they do. I cannot say that someone is wrong for wishing they could have a baby. For grieving for their loved ones.

There are no answers for why the innocent experience immense suffering. 🩵

I think I might understand what you mean by spirit. 🩵

Hi James

A world where atrocities are not seen as right or wrong sounds pretty bleak. So it is just nature to commit atrocities? It seems kind of unhealthy. 🩵

You don’t need to explain yourself. 🩵

And sometimes the body chooses to speak through ego. Apparently, it serves an essential function.

I wasn’t going to ask. 😊

Hi James

Thank you for explaining. It helps to connect the senses, pain, gratitude and helping. Gratitude and helping are my language. 🩵

And yes, I have been worrying about the future with my child. He will start to make his own way in the world and I won’t be able to protect him. He will go through suffering. As a parent, this doesn’t sit right with me. I am used to suffering. I would not want him to suffer. Maybe this comes from a deep seated wish to erase the suffering I experienced as a child. I don’t want him to suffer as I did. I hope that he suffers much less. No child deserves suffering. 🩵

Thank you for helping! 🩵