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October 24, 2022 at 1:35 pm #408994
AnonymousGuestDear Shookie:
So good to read back from you… guess who is smiling?! I read only part of your message because I am in a hurry to leave on my walk+ while it is still not raining- it rained a whole lot in the last 2-3 days so the fires are out and the smoke is gone. I like how faithful and loving you are to your fur babies! I’ll reply further later.
anita
October 24, 2022 at 7:36 pm #409006AnonymousGuestDear Shookie:
I was sad to read about the precious chocolate Labrador who died in your friend’s arm. I never met her, this special dog, but I am sad nonetheless. In regard to your ex, I didn’t exactly understand his message but he sounds like an a**, from what I do understand. It is 7:33 pm here, and since I was up and about since 4 am this Monday morning, I am very tired now, especially after dinner and some red wine. I am closing this post with (what feels like) a late night smile. Good night, Shookie.
anita
October 25, 2022 at 12:41 pm #409033
shookieParticipantGood Afternoon Friend,
Can’t believe I just woke up. LOL~ I have a hard time sleeping right and taking care of my babies. One is doing very well, one is incurable & my Balinese head looks a bit rough because he keeps trying to pull the scabs off and it opens the wound again. I am going to let it air out today since he wanted outside to play, except tonight I will flush it out wash & bandage where he can’t pull it off.
He is such a good boy, didn’t fight or try to get me to leave him alone like he knows I am helping him.
So happy your weather is better and I am so happy for you. It has been about 30 years ago & I was living behind my parents, and our property lines touched with the exception we were 15 acres apart, A huge fire started which was about 30 miles away & burned so bad it was terrible because we had never experienced a catastrophe type of weather like that. Fire/smoke & being told to evacuate. I could only watch and smell the smoke and see fire burning the trees. I knew how many animals were losing their homes and felt helpless since there wasn’t anything I could do to save them. It was the worst fire recorded here due to our mountains burning so bad and seemed no relief in sight. It took years for new trees to start growing back. Not far from the Blue Ridge Mountains in NC back in the 80s I believe~ Those Mountains are so Breathtaking.
As I started traveling and going to other countries I have learned how many natural disasters are out there, even now with all the crazies out there now talking about nuclear war. So sad people with power use it in destructive ways.
My ex has been texting & calling nonstop since yesterday afternoon. I turned my phone off. I just turned it on and he is still texting and leaving messages.
I was shocked at how desperate he sounded in messages as I read the text. I believe it is more of a pride thing because he can’t control me. I didn’t block him but I did remove his number from my phone and delete all messages after I read them. That was I would have to make an effort to call back because his number won’t be in my phone. I am capable of looking at old cell phone bills for the number but will not.
I don’t like causing anyone pain even if they have caused hurt to me. He will get over it.
Will be looking for our next read. Once again, Thank you so much for helping me to get my smile back and life on track.
You are a very giving and caring person and have helped many.
You are truly Blessed with compassion and Caring for others.
Until the next read.
Your Friend,
Shookie~
October 25, 2022 at 1:30 pm #409036AnonymousGuestDear Shookie, my friend:
Good afternoon and good thing one fur baby is doing very well and that you got some well-deserved rest. Regarding your Balinese: no such thing as a proactive collar for cats?
Nothing like lots of rain to put out fires and clear the smoke, and it is sad how fires destroys homes of people and animals.
“So sad people with power use it in destructive ways“- sad indeed. “My ex has been texting & calling nonstop since yesterday afternoon… I believe it is more of a pride thing because he can’t control me“- it’s about control, not love, is it? “I don’t like causing anyone pain even if they have caused hurt to me. He will get over it“- he’ll get over it. He wants to control you.. a way less terrible situation than Putin trying to control Ukraine and the world.. yet, I don’t appreciate the motivation of either one of the two.
Thank you for your kind words, Shookie, you are indeed very kind!
anita
October 28, 2022 at 9:56 pm #409283shookieParticipantHello My Friend,
The time here is 11:35 & I had the urge to let you know something I was unaware of and I hope it will put a smile on your face even if you are sleeping. I can almost feel you smiling. 🙂
I don’t sleep much and watch many documentaries. I will take an educational guess and write you are aware of what Angel numbers are & if not you are Blessed and an Angel is with you when you wake up between 3 am -4 am, also 4:44 and 11:11 which is the most popular because it is the only time of day all 4 numbers are the same. I usually wake up between 3-4 even when I fall asleep for a bit if I am totally exhausted. I notice 11:11 at least 5 times a week am and pm.
As most of the time, I don’t sleep well, happy or not. I have listened to my Dr. and am doing as she asks me to do by taking over-the-counter sleep aids which do about as much to help me as drinking a glass of warm milk. Blah, I do not like warm milk.
She is very Religious and asks me to go to Church as my Best friend whose dog passed a few days ago. I care for and Love her so much, except she preaches to me as my Doctor to start going to a good Church. Who knows what a good Church is unless you know everyone and they are sincerely there for Worship.
Each and every person on GODS earth may believe in what they want.
I do Pray and Thank the Lord above for the Beautiful gifts he has provided for the world which is such ashamed man is the only creature that gets enjoyment from killing them whereas animals kill for survival.
I detest seeing animals mounted on walls in homes some people live in and they seem so proud when a lot of times the animals are trapped and killed or kill older zoo animals who are not cute and snuggly as they were as babies taken from their mothers in the wild. Shame on them!
I learned all of these things when I was doing animal abuse cases.
I am a spirital person and I do not go to Church. I Thank GOD without sitting in a building when many are there for show.
I have seen many leave Church and start talking about playing poker and getting drunk later on when our local Elks Club opens at night for their enjoyment. Yes, another one of my part-time jobs when I was in my 20’s.
I may have forgotten if I told you what my full time jobs were excluding all the part-time jobs. I was a Flight Attendant/ U.S.A.F./Cosmotologist/Estatician and Reflexologist.
My Sweet Mother used to tell me she had never seen anyone with so many different jobs. LOL
I like Uniforms, Probably due to I always saw my Father in his dress blues. He was proud of himself as he walked out the door each morning, he always looked high and tight. His pants always had a break in them and his belt was always lined up to his pant zipper. He always had his Dress Blues Hat holding proudly pressed to his side because you are only supposed to wear them outside. In your home it was fine not to.
It feels so good to write to you my friend and I have missed our contact. I will get back on schedule when my babies are better or if I hear from the Ex first which I don’t think will be too long.
Sleep Well,
Shookie~
October 28, 2022 at 10:08 pm #409286AnonymousGuestI hope to sleep well, thank you, Shookie, my friend. I will read and reply further tomorrow morning,
anita
October 28, 2022 at 10:22 pm #409287shookieParticipantI will look forward to your post!
Shookie~
October 29, 2022 at 12:32 pm #409311AnonymousGuestDear Shookie:
I am sorry: I left what I expected to be the most pleasant exchange for last and now I am in a hurry to leave. I will reply to you first when I return, it will be hours from now. Take good care of yourself and your fur babies!
anita
October 29, 2022 at 5:59 pm #409323AnonymousGuestDear Shookie:
I am smiling because I was awake between 3 am and 4 am this early Sat morning, and it’s a nice thought to think that an angel was with me. I wake up every night/ early hours of the morning and stay up for a while, not by choice, of course. I wish we both slept better every night, wouldn’t that be very nice…
“I learned all of these things when I was doing animal abuse cases“- what do you mean by doing animal abuse cases, if I may ask? In regard to hunters hanging trophies of their hunts on the walls.. I saw that in movies, never in person.
Indeed an interesting collection of jobs: flight attendance, U.S. Air Force, cosmetology, aesthetics and a reflexology. Reflexology is supposed to reduce stress.. I wonder if you can apply it on yourself (hands, feet) before going to bed and when you wake up at night?
I like the adjectives you use for your parents: Sweet, Precious for your mother; Wonderful, for your father. I can see the image of your father (in my mind’s eye) in his dress blue, walking out the door in the morning, proud of himself.
It is almost 6 pm here. I wish your fur babies health and both of us- a better Sat night sleep!
anita
October 30, 2022 at 5:43 pm #409364shookieParticipantHello My Friend,
Isn’t it unbelievable what the univererse gives us and we have no idea what it means? Also, if you are doing something and it’s 11:11 that is what you are supposed to be doing at that moment.
I used to work with my local Humane Society which was trained for and the Sheriff’s Department was very helpful. It was when this little town had no specific place to meet. The volunteers would get together at designated places when we could find places to meet. I was married at the time and my husband would go with me if we felt there was going to be trouble and often the Sheriff would also go or he would send someone. It was terrible. It was over 30 years ago when the police wouldn’t do abuse cases, which now all you need to do is call the Sheriff and they will go out if called.
My Balinese baby’s head is finally healing and looks a lot better. I was researching the other night about how to use natural remedies and found out the best thing to do is flush it several times daily with a homemade solution of sea salt and hot water to melt the salt, let it cool to room temp, blot gently with a kleenex. He was such a good boy as if he knows mom is helping him. I was using peroxide/ bactrician ointment after I flushed it with a liquid antibiotic solution then I ran out of the ointment and put some Neosporin on the wound. While I was reading about the natural remedies it stated “NEVER” put peroxide, ointments, or bacterial flush on a cat wound it is toxic to use on cats’ open wounds. I prayed and felt so bad, luckily he was not affected by it. He was truly blessed.
It amazed me the mindset some have with animals. I did it for 2 years until it got to the point I couldn’t sleep and knew I would end up in jail because of those cruel sick people. (Not bragging by any means, I was an expert marksman in the Military and got my canceled weapon and did a bit of competition shooting, except there was too much traveling to matches) and most were in the middle of nowhere and the only motels available were like the Bates Motel. (Not for me and usually I was the only female). I believe I enjoy shooting because my father had a collection and enjoyed shooting. My mother was horrified by weapons. I wanted to learn and do most of the things he did. I would give anything if he knew how I have followed in his footsteps. I know he would have the biggest smile on his face and be so proud. I lived for him to be proud of me. Why? I don’t know unless it was because I loved him so much and was his little shadow which he liked.
Sleep well my friend and when I wake up between 3-4 I will walk outside on my deck and look at the Stars and send you a Big Smile~
Your Friend,
Shookie~
October 30, 2022 at 6:40 pm #409367AnonymousGuestDear Shookie:
I will read and reply and reply in the morning, good night Friend!
anita
October 31, 2022 at 9:48 am #409394AnonymousGuestDear Shookie:
“Isn’t it unbelievable what the universe gives us and we have no idea what it means?“- yes, it is unbelievable, this is why I don’t believe it. What is your definition of universe as you used it in this sentence?
“If you are doing something and it’s 11:11 that is what you are supposed to be doing at that moment“- would this include a person who commits a crime at exactly that time?
“I used to work with my local Humane Society…“- thank you for doing this important, courageous and indeed humane work!
“My Balinese baby’s head is finally healing and looks a lot better… ‘NEVER’ put peroxide, ointments, or bacterial flush on a cat wound it is toxic to use on cats’ open wounds“- glad your fur baby is healing. The boldfaced should be presented as a public announcement.
“I was an expert marksman in the Military and got my canceled weapon and did a bit of competition shooting“- very impressive, Shookie!
“I believe I enjoy shooting because my father had a collection and enjoyed shooting. My mother was horrified by weapons. I wanted to learn and do most of the things he did. I would give anything if he knew how I have followed in his footsteps. I know he would have the biggest smile on his face and be so proud. I lived for him to be proud of me. Why? I don’t know unless it was because I loved him so much and was his little shadow which he liked“- the term that crossed my mind as I read this was daddy’s girl. The definition of the term (online): “a girl or woman who is particularly attached to, and indulged by, her father”. The first part fits you very well, but the second part: I don’t think that he indulged/ pampered you. How did your relationship with your dad affect your relationships with the men in your life, I wonder (Feel free to ignore my wondering).
In any case, you were and still are so very emotionally attached to your dad. I do not reject all spiritual beliefs and I do hope that somehow, somewhere, he knows how much you still and always love him.
anita
December 24, 2022 at 12:27 pm #412584AnonymousGuestMeRRy ChRistmaS, Shookie!
anita
December 24, 2022 at 2:43 pm #412605shookieParticipantHi Anita,
I think of our communication which I miss. So much going on, the broken car my power has been out all day & it is only 12 degrees.
I wish you a Beautiful Christmas my friend~
Shookie~
December 24, 2022 at 3:46 pm #412607AnonymousGuestDear Shookie:
Good to read back from you, friend, and thank you! The temperature here went down to 10-11 degrees in the last week but warmed up today, so much so that most of the frozen snow melted and I was able to take a walk outside this afternoon. I hope that you power is back on and that it stays on. Write to me again, will you?
anita
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