July 28, 2019 at 1:17 pm #305379
Hi – it’s not even a week into the summer holidays and I’m already struggling…I’m 48 and a single parent to a 10 year old. I’ve been working 2 crap jobs (cleaning) for six years but was hoping to escape in September by starting a nursing degree…guess what? I didn’t get on the course! Tbh I don’t even know if I could afford to go back to uni – I think it was just a distraction from my awful life. I have no idea what I’m doing or where I’m going – I have no money, no friends and no family. I have no husband/boyfriend. I have no career. I literally just have my son. I have just got to the point now where I have given up on things changing – my life has been crap for 8 long years and when I move over to UC it’s only going to get worse. Back to the holidays – the thought of sitting at home for 6 weeks is killing me…I have no money, not even for a bus trip. I have cried for the last two days as some times I just wish I wasn’t here.July 29, 2019 at 1:17 am #305453
Here’s the positive. You have a ten year old son for whom you have been providing for at least the last six years. Congratulate yourself for coming this far. I am assuming that the father of your son is not supporting you.
You do not need to sit at home for 6 weeks during the holidays. As long as you have your health and are able-bodied, you can pack a lunch and walk – to a park, to a river, to a free exhibition and so on.
Everything changes. It’s the one certainty in life. You have a computer – find out what support systems exist in your area and take advantage of them.
Are there any opportunities to volunteer that you and your son can take up together. Getting out and about and mixing is one way that you can improve your mood and, possibly, future job opportunities. Helping others is great therapy.
Think about it!
PeggyJuly 29, 2019 at 4:31 am #305451
“I have just got to the point now where I have given up on things changing”….
Could that be the answer for your struggling? Not to give up but to give yourself a break? A break from overthinking, -past and future- and labeling (“my life has been crap for 8 years long”). This kind of living is indeed very hard for yourself!
How I see it is that life can pretty much do without our interference and controlling. To just go with the flow and give life the space to unfold itsself. We do not need to control the sunset or our hartbeat. Try to see the love in your child’s eye. Concentrate on your breath… Just let things be…Thank you and namaste.July 29, 2019 at 5:45 am #305465
You have a son, so you have a family.
You have neighbors, people you may or may not know that it would be good to connect with.
There are houses of worship around. I know religion is very triggering for some people, but it is really for people to get together as a community. There are tons of volunteer options there, youth programs, dinners, retreats.
There are the parents of your son’s friends who will become friends with you.
There is the local public library which also has tons of programs.
There are free parades, trails, events and happenings in your community if you just look and venture forth.
August 2, 2019 at 2:08 pm #306337
- This reply was modified 4 months, 2 weeks ago by Inky.
Thank you all for taking the time to reply xx Taking on board your suggestions – and acting on
them …sometimes all it takes is a fresh pair of eyes, so they say!!! Thanks again x