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  • #388445
    Neha
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    No no…..I never feel that….but when I saw something like that the thought came to my mind that….how girl and boy fall for each other

    #388448
    anita
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    Dear Neha:

    Try to not get scared of a thought. A thought is not a physical activity, it’s a mental activity. You can sense physical activity with one of your physical senses: see it, hear it, feel it by touch.. but you can not sense a mental activity: you cannot see or hear or touch a mental activity. What other people think can’t hurt you, and what you think- can’t hurt you or other people. Here is an example: (1) a person picks up a poisonous snake (a physical action)=> person gets stung and gets poisoned (physical effect), (2) a person thinks: I want to pick up this poisonous snake (a mental activity)=> nothing happens.

    Is this explanation helpful to you at all, in any way?

    anita

    #388529
    Neha
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    Dear Anita.                                                                      So what should I do so these thoughts doesn’t effect me or my behavior or change my behavior?

    #388530
    Neha
    Participant

    Dear Anita.                                                                      So what should I do so these thoughts doesn’t effect me or my behavior or change my behavior? Can you tell why these thoughts effect me so much?

    #388535
    anita
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    Dear Neha:

    So what should I do so these thoughts doesn’t effect me or my behavior or change my behavior?“- (1)  Understand that there is a difference between a Thought and a Behavior. We humans have Thoughts all day long, most of our Thoughts do not translate into Behaviors. Most Thoughts come and go and nothing happens-  because we don’t turn the Thoughts into Behaviors. For example, a person Thinks: I am so angry I could kill someone! But the great majority of people thinking that, do not proceed to take the action (a Behavior) of killing someone,

    (2) Understand that a Thought in itself does not have the power to change reality. For example, if you are overweight and out of shape, the Thought: I am slender and muscular! will not change the reality that you are overweight and out of shape. Behavior changes reality (ex. going on a diet and exercising), but Thoughts do not change reality.

    Can you tell why these thoughts effect me so much?“- because there is FEAR in you, a strong fear, and this fear makes your thoughts feel scary. This fear existed before you started having these particular thoughts aka obsession. Your fear is about something else. Can you go back in your mind to  before this obsession and remember what your fear is about?

    anita

    #388554
    Neha
    Participant

    I literally don’t know about my fear prior to these thoughts….I understand that these thoughts doesn’t have power to change reality….I understand all….but problem is I just can’t shift my focus from these thoughts… whatever I see…. whatever ever do….when I talk to somebody…..these thoughts come to my mind…I just wanted to not to focus on these thoughts…but I don’t how?

    #388559
    anita
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    Dear Neha:

    Did you try the following every day, for a month or longer: (1) daily aerobic exercise: 30 minutes- 1 hour of fast walking or swimming, (2) guided meditations on the theme of Mindfulness,(3) other Mindfulness exercises, (4) having a Daily Routine that includes 1-3,  plus other activities such as studying (if you are a student), working (if you have a job), and other useful activities, so that your day is full and meaningful to you?

    anita

    #388562
    Neha
    Participant

    I do excercise and yoga… sometimes but not on regular basis

     

    #388563
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Neha:

    I suggest that you exercise on a regular, daily basis, make it a daily routine. Also, consider #2, 3 and 4 in my last post to you, making a busy daily routine for yourself. It can very much help to greatly reduce your obsessive thinking. Give it an honest try, and see how it works for you.

    anita

    #388673
    Neha
    Participant

    Dear Anita.                                                        Do you think person who facing problem of intrusive thoughts can become normal person again as they were before intrusive thoughts?

     

    #388674
    Neha
    Participant

    Do you think person who facing problem of intrusive thoughts can become normal person again as they were before intrusive thoughts?

     

    #388676
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Neha:

    You can answer your own question at the end of this year, Dec 31, 2021,  this way: create a daily routine for yourself like I suggested in my previous two posts above, follow that routine every day for the next month and a half, and on the last day of the year post again and let me know if you feel like a “normal person again”.

    anita

    #388837
    Neha
    Participant

    Dear Anita                                                                                         I am right now focusing on my studies I have exam within 15 days…..and I started reading book on intrusive thoughts and I also talk to my sister about this…..I am feeling better than that…but the problem is I am starting afraid of being around girls(disclaimer: it’s not like I have something feelings for them) this is happen because of intrusive thoughts,right? and I am constantly feeling guilty and sort of you know shameful…is there is any way not to feel like this

    #388838
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Neha:

    Focus on your exam best you can. Whenever you feel afraid or otherwise distressed, get up, walk around, do a little yoga, make yourself hot tea- distract yourself in one of these ways- and then return to your studies.

    the problem is I am starting afraid of being around girls(disclaimer: it’s not like I have something feelings for them)“- what is it specifically that you are afraid of when you are around girls, what are you afraid could really happen when you are around girls?

    anita

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