August 8, 2019 at 11:42 pm #307257
On 1 Aug, I texted a friend of mine but I did not get a reply from her. So I presume that she is busy or there is nothing to reply to. From 2 Aug till 4 Aug, I texted her asking her about some matters and she doesn’t reply.
I decided to give her some space and decided to text her this morning.
The message that I got from her as followed, the friend as her and me as I:
Me: You ok? Ignoring text from me and all since last week. Is there something going on?
I have no idea what I did to offend you
Her: Nothing uh. I just choose not to reply you.
No reason. Just meh.
Me: I am too annoying?
That’s very sad and hurtful to hear from a friend.
What is her message behind her reply?
What should I do next?
Does she still treat me as friend?August 9, 2019 at 6:07 am #307275
No-one can guess what is going on here. Perhaps something is happening in her life that you don’t know about, perhaps she is just feeling ‘off’ for some reason, perhaps she had other priorities, perhaps she just wants to end the friendship.
What to do next: Focus less on this person and more on other friends, hobbies, interests, activities.
Accept her message: It’s not you, it’s her – she chose not to reply to you. (Not very friendly).
I hope that adequately answers your post even if it is not what you want to hear right now.
PeggyAugust 9, 2019 at 7:27 am #307285
Is it an indication that she wants to end the friendship?
Should I tell her that I am actually hurt from her harsh remarks?
I am feeling very hurt. I am not sure if I did anything that might have offended her in any ways.August 9, 2019 at 8:09 am #307295
You referred to this woman as “a friend of mine” and you referred to a “friendship”.
But she is not your friend and there is no friendship.
Can you consider that she is not your friend and there is no friendship?
anitaAugust 9, 2019 at 8:16 am #307303
I considered her as a friend and consider this as a friendship.
Things between us has been very rocky but we manage to clear the air out. So I am not sure what I did that have cause her to have such reaction towards me.August 9, 2019 at 8:19 am #307305
You mentioned “her harsh remarks”- can you list her harsh remarks, what she actually said or typed to you that was harsh?
anitaAugust 9, 2019 at 8:21 am #307307
People have different ways of communicating. Communicating via text or email does not convey everything that the person feels or thinks. Give her time. Then actually meet with her to clear up any misunderstandings.
MarkAugust 9, 2019 at 8:22 am #307309
The harsh remark was: Nothing uh, I just choose not to reply you
No reason. Just meh
At first, it wasn’t that harsh for me but when I share it with my friends. My friends are astonished and surprised by her remarks. They describe it as very harsh.August 9, 2019 at 8:25 am #307311
I have no idea what I did to offend her that she reacts in such a manner towards me.
I was gonna drop her a text saying: I have no idea what I did to make you have such reaction. I sincerely apologised and I will give you some space.
Will it be better to close things up and leave her be for the time being?August 9, 2019 at 9:06 am #307321
I don’t see these as harsh remarks. I see them as remarks expressing her indifference to you, showing that she doesn’t care how you feel, it is not a priority for her. She expressed that you are of no priority to her. As long as this is the case, she is not your friend. To be someone’s friend, it takes caring how that other person feels, it takes replying to a text within a few hours.
anitaAugust 9, 2019 at 9:21 am #307325
For the past two years, this “friendship” has been nothing at all just because of the one remark that she said towards me?
There is no space for her to be angry or even any other reason that is possible?August 9, 2019 at 9:40 am #307329
I didn’t say “this ‘friendship’ has been nothing at all”. I am saying that at the present time it is “off”, not “on”. Maybe it is dormant and will awaken and resume, maybe it is dead. I don’t know.
anitaAugust 9, 2019 at 10:12 am #307331
Thanks but I have no idea what to do next
Maybe I did or did not offend her in some ways.August 9, 2019 at 10:29 am #307335
Clearly you care a whole lot about this woman and you are scared the friendship is over. I hope then that it is not over and that the “off” will change to an “on” that will benefit you and her.
“Maybe I did or did not offend her in some ways”- it may help if you detail how you think that you may have offended her.
August 9, 2019 at 10:31 am #307339
- This reply was modified 1 week, 2 days ago by anita.
Judging her remark as harsh as one interpretation. That may or may not be true. You don’t know for sure. It just seems that she does not want to communicate right now. When I deal with people like that Ijust leave them alone. If they want to get in touch with me then they will.
Move on with your life with other people.