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  • #318703

    anita
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    Dear Janus, Earth Angel:

    “The more I am at Stockton University, the more I feel relaxed in the atmosphere.. quiet and peaceful”- excellent, so very important to be relaxed in the place where you spend a lot of your time!

    The positivity rocks to promote mental health awareness is a great idea and resource that goes together with what you shared earlier, there being classed that address students’ anxieties.

    The birds, the colors, fall leaves, trees, the woods and lake- this is your favorite place. You visited such places in your meditations and dreams for years!

    You learned and are interested in the ethics of scientific research, connecting your long-standing interests in science and spirituality (in this post you wrote about Buddhism, karmic influences, the Muslim faith, Catholics and Christians- seems like the latter are present the biggest opposition to the use of embryonic stem cells for research, Wiccans).

    You shared about your career class, “Students have an assignment to look for professionals to connect with their career”- excellent. I would like to read about your future experience connecting to professionals, genetic engineers and other professionals in the area of genetics, like the genetic counselor you mentioned.

    It is a good thing that you are open to “other scientific fields that (you) can go into”- being flexible this way.

    Meditation practice helped you before, so it is a good thing you want to resume it in a consistent manner.

    I know that you want to be transitioned to be a guy.

    I already consider you a guy.

    You wrote that your goal is to live “a life of purpose”, to feel like you are truly living “and not just going through the motions of life”. I suppose the overthinking you mentioned next is a hindrance to truly live. Too much thinking takes us away from our hearts, our emotional experience of life, and locks us in our heads. Truly living does require research and logic, but not so much that we are removed from the emotional experience of life.

    “I doubt the science part sometimes, but the Buddhist wiccan and transitioning I don’t  doubt at all”- this is very telling.

    You wrote that when you think about these two things (the italicized), “there is a part of me that is being filled with positivity”- I suppose that part of you is the heart (or scientifically speaking, the emotional part of the brain).

    The heart is an excellent guide to life decisions and the thinking-part-of the brain, better use it in moderation, just enough to help but not so much that it hinders.

    Good to read from you this morning. I hope you have a good weekend!

    anita

    #318751

    Janus
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    Dear Anita

    Here is a healing blessing for a special soul like you. Thank you for spreading your positivity into my life. I am grateful to have you in my life because your insightful advice helps me better understand myself. Thank you for your guidance that provides light in the darkness to help me when I feel lost. You are the match that helps ignite the flame of my inner spirit candle when the darkness seems to blow it out. May your light keep shining bright and thank you for being the special soul you are. Healing Blessings Poem:

     

    Healing, love and light bring abundance into your life, filling your heart with positivity and cleansing any negativity. Self-doubt, fear and dense energies are being cleared and new opportunities arise for your soul to grow and shine bright. Blessed be, as waves of healing energy clear away the obstacles that block your path and as healing and health shine upon you now making your burdens fall away and leaving your heart feel light. May all souls in the universe be healed from the struggles in their life and have protection from strife. May the healing surround you and uplift your vibrations so that you are walking the path of your life’s highest purpose and each day is a day of peace and love, healing surrounds you and heals all aspects of your life, below and above.

    #318791

    anita
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    Dear Janus, Earth Angel (and Poet):

    Thank you for your kind words and wishes for me and for all, and for your Healing Blessings Poem. You have a mind very rich of images and a rich, vibrant vocabulary to deliver these images.

    I can see a positivity rock in Stockton with your words (and your name, Janus): “May all souls in the universe be healed from the struggles in their life”!

    anita

    #318819

    Janus
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    Dear Anita

    Thank you for your insightful advice that encourages me each day. I have twenty professionals listed in the genetics field that I am thinking of reaching out to. I have reached out to seven so far for my career class project and I have heard from two of them. One of them was a former student at Stockton University and is now studying genetics, stem cells and neuroscience at Rutgers University medical school. They are quite busy with their research studies, but they said they might contact me sometime this upcoming week by phone, so I hope for the best. Another person is a geneticist at Rutgers University as well and they are a teacher there and they said that they will call me on Thursday 10/24/19 to talk about genetic research. In the meantime, I am doing research about the genetics field and thinking of questions that I might want to ask. I have been looking at resources in the library databases and also requested some library books to gain more knowledge. There are two professors at Stockton University that allow students to study with them in lab research that I want to reach out to as well so I can gain more knowledge about how scientific research works. Hope that you are well and blessings in the week ahead.

    #318823

    Janus
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    Week Blessings:

    May your week ahead be filled with positivity and you be protected from negativity

     

    May each day give you something to make you feel happy in life and may there be little strife

     

    Have a blessed week ahead and many blessings for your goals, sending positive energy your way to heal and uplift your soul.

     

     

    #318845

    anita
    Participant

    Dear Janus Earth Angel:

    Thank you for the blessings!

    I will read your post before last and reply when I am back to the computer Monday morning. Have a good rest of Sunday and the week ahead.

    anita

    #318929

    anita
    Participant

    Dear Janus, Earth Angel (and Poet):

    I think the above will be my regular address to you, the Poet part is long overdue.

    Good thing you have 20 professionals listed in the genetics field, and that you reached out to 7 so far. Hope you reach out to all 20. Preparing questions is a good planning for when they do contact you.

    My suggestions:

    -Prepare only a few questions to ask each, so to not overwhelm them and so that you will be able to focus on one answer as it is given, instead of thinking about the next question to ask.

    -Ask each a few questions for which you cannot find the answers online, or in books/ the library databases, so that you don’t waste their time and yours, questions of the personal kind, so to get more of a feel of what it takes to be a geneticist.

    -Consider asking about your doubts, regarding your difficulties with the physics and later, with the organic chemistry class. Check if any of them had similar difficulties, failed a class and so forth.

    anita

    #319375

    Janus
    Participant

    Dear Anita

    Thank you so much for your advice. The Rutgers professor that responded to my email decided to take a few days off because they caught a cold, so instead of the phone conversation that was supposed to be tomorrow at 1pm, they said that it will be sometime after Monday next week. I recently picked up the library books that I requested about genetics and I am perusing them to catch up on some information and also looking at some online resources. I am going to work on the draft for the questions I plan to ask the professionals to contact tomorrow. Stockton University has opened Spring semester classes for students to view the courses that they are interested in taking and I am considering taking a Stress and Anxiety course because that course describes ways to cope with stressors and may be helpful. The classes are just to view only and to help students plan, students cannot register for them yet because registration opens January 21st. I have some classes planned for the Spring semester. In addition, one of the professors that I am planning on taking classes with offers internships so I am thinking of taking a genetics class with him and looking for a possible internship to help me gain more insight on genetics research. On my professionals to contact list, I have contacted nine so far. One professional is a genetic counselor from AtlantiCare and they do genetic research and they said that they can schedule a phone conversation to talk about genetics research next Tuesday 10/29 at 1pm. Things  are going quite well, it’s quite busy, but it’s also exciting. Thank you for all your encouragement that helps me find clarity in my life when I feel lost. I am grateful to have friends like you. Blessings to you in all your life’s goals!</p>

    • This reply was modified 3 weeks ago by  Janus.
    #319387

    anita
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    Dear Janus, Earth Angel and Poet:

    I never heard of a “Stress and Anxiety course” and so glad it will be offered in Stockton in 2020 !

    An “internship to help (you) gain more insight on genetics research” is an excellent idea. Reads like next Tuesday, 10/29 will be your first phone conversation with a genetic counselor, how exciting indeed.

    You are welcome, Janus, and thank you for your kind words and blessings, I wish you the same. Good to read from you and will be looking forward to the next time!

    anita

    #319503

    Janus
    Participant

    Dear Anita

    One of the professors that I emailed about genetics laboratory research responded that there might be internship or laboratory research opportunities available in fall 2020 semester when I will be a senior at Stockton University. This will be helpful because seniors need a science research project as part of the degree requirements for graduation. I plan to take genetics in the Spring semester with this professor so I get to know him better and since I will be a junior in the Spring semester, the genetics class with this professor can help me prepare for research in my senior year with the professor. I am thinking about building up my research skills and looking for advice on any tips, hope you can help. I was considering taking a research methods class to help me gain knowledge about scientific research, but with the classes I plan on taking for the Spring semester I am not sure if I can fit it into my schedule. So I will look for workshops offered by Stockton University and just search online and books on how to be a better researcher because I am going to need it for my studies. I know for certain that I will take Stress and Anxiety class for the Spring semester because it will be helpful learning tips on how to cope with stress and not to let anxiety overwhelm me. Since I will be taking Organic Chemistry in the Spring semester as well, I am working on building my knowledge about that subject and preparing for it more. The labs are what’s most stressful about science classes and I am thinking if I can prepare ahead of time by gaining insight into laboratory research and the experiments, it will be helpful. The lab notebooks can be stressful and working on analyzing the results and writing reports is something that I need to work on. I plan to reach out to professors ahead of time to see what they need for the labs so I can feel more prepared. Thank you so much for your encouragement and have a great day!

     

    #319523

    anita
    Participant

    Dear Janus, Earth Angel and Poet:

    Taking the Stress and Anxiety class in the Spring semester next year is an excellent idea. Taking the genetics class with this one professor in the Spring semester and then Internship or laboratory research with the same professor in the Fall semester is an excellent plan.

    You wrote: “I will look for workshops offered by Stockton University and just search online and books on how to be a better researcher”- workshops, better. You have to have the practical experience of doing in a lab, no reading can substitute for the actual-performing-experience-in-the-lab, which is what you need.

    “The labs are what’s most stressful about science classes”- what specifically is it that is stressful to you in the lab setting?

    anita

    • This reply was modified 3 weeks ago by  anita.
    #319889

    Janus
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    Dear Anita

    I think that the stressful things about the labs is keeping the lab notebook organized and analyzing the data collected from the lab experiments. The professors for Organic Chemistry lab have their students create tables detailing the chemical and physical properties of the compounds they use in lab. During the lab experiments, students have to record the data they have in the lab notebooks and then use that data to write a lab report at the end of the experiment to summarize what they learned. I think that the stressful part is knowing what data to record in the lab notebook and how to read the chemical data sheets to gain insight to create a table listing the physical and chemical properties of a substance that will be used. The lab notebooks have a specific format for the pages such as numbering and where each part goes and I worry about not getting the format of the lab notebooks correct and then having points taken off in lab because the lab notebook procedure and details need to be checked by the professor before students can work on the lab. In addition, each student has their own lab station and they conduct their own experiments which is cool, but can also be stressful because if a student struggles with the lab experiment then there isn’t a partner to help them. Students can ask other classmates for help and general guidelines, but the lab experiments are mostly conducted by themselves. This is why I am interested in learning more about how to conduct scientific research and understand scientific data because I think that I will need it when I do lab experiments and record them in my lab notebook. Also the lab notebook is very important to keep organized because the notes can be used to help with the lab final which makes it a bit more stressful for me to think about. Hope this helps! I am thinking of preparing ahead of time for Organic Chemistry since I will be taking it in the Spring semester and looking into ways to improve my scientific research skills as well as learning about how to record data in a lab notebook.

    #319891

    Janus
    Participant

    Currently I have finished the questions that I want to ask the genetic counselor who works with assessing people for hereditary cancer risk and developmental disorders such as autism that I will speak to in a phone conversation this upcoming Tuesday 10/29. I wonder if the questions are good and if some of them might be revised because they might be lengthy. Looking for advice, thank you!

     

    Informational Interview Questions Template:

     

    1. What is a typical day or week like in the workplace for a genetic counselor?

     

    2. When assessing people for developmental delays or hereditary cancer risks, what kinds of genetic testing techniques are there?

     

    3. What difficulties do you encounter when providing people with advice to improve their lifestyle if they have a high risk for hereditary cancer or have a child with developmental delays?

     

    4. What kind of education, training or skills does becoming a genetic counselor require?

    5. How do most people get into this field? What are some common entry-level jobs, internships, part-time jobs, job-shadowing opportunities that are available?

     

    6. Can you suggest anyone else that I could contact for additional information?

    #319897

    anita
    Participant

    Dear Janus:

    I am not very focused at this time. If I don’t reply to your two recent posts today, I will first thing Sunday morning. I hope you have a relaxing Saturday!

    anita

    #319985

    anita
    Participant

    Dear Janus, Earth Angel and Poet:

    You wrote that the stressful part of labs for you is recording data during the lab experiments in a lab notebook, and later using that data to write a lab report. Seems like you feel uncomfortable with the “format of the lab notebooks”, its “procedure and details”, and when you struggle during lab with this, there is no one to help you. I agree with you that “learning about how to record data in a lab notebook” is something necessary for you to improve until you are very comfortable with it, if you are to graduate as a anything from a lab technician to a genetic engineer.

    Two days before your Tuesday interview with the genetic counselor and you asked me for advice regarding the questions you prepared:

    1. “What is a typical day or week like in the workplace for a genetic counselor?”- I would delete the week, because you can’t possibly get a week worth of answer in a few minutes, a day is good enough. I would ask: Is there a daily routine for you as a genetic counselor; what is a typical day for you?

    2. “.. what kinds of genetic testing techniques are there?”- I wouldn’t ask that because I bet you can find this information online somewhere or in a specific library, plus you are not familiar enough with techniques used, so you will not be able to process the counselor’s answers. This question is appropriate to ask if you were a working genetic professional yourself, using certain techniques, asking a colleague what techniques they are using.

    3- I would ask: what kinds of advice do you offer to people with a high risk for hereditary cancer and are they receptive to it?

    Regarding giving advice in the area of developmental delays, depends if it is prenatal and preconception counseling or pediatric counseling. If you don’t know if the person you are interviewing specializes in one or the other (or both, if such is possible), ask.

    4. “What kind of education, training or skills does becoming a genetic counselor require?”- I wouldn’t ask that question because you can get this information somewhere else, and this will be a waste of time and may annoy the person you are interviewing. If you don’t know where to find the answer to this question, you can ask the person you are interviewing: where can I find the information on the education, training and skills required to become a genetic counselor?

    5- “How do most people get into this field?”- not clear. If you mean to ask how the person you are interviewing personally ended up in this field, ask that

    “What are some common entry-level jobs, internships..?” You can ask: is there a publication that I can find online/ elsewhere with entry level jobs, internships etc.? And I would ask: what was your first job coming out of school with your ___ degree, and what was that experience like, for you?

    Make questions personal and avoid asking questions when you can find the answer to outside of interviewing a professional (you can ask the professional where can I find information on, instead of asking for the information itself).

    Question 6 may be offensive as it may suggest that the person you just interviewed wasn’t satisfactory to you. Instead you can introduce your current status (student, first year in state university, taking X credits, (you can add here that you failed physics in community college and had trouble with organic chemistry) wanting to become a genetic counselor or engineer, do you have any suggestions for me?

    (you may want to look at Wikipedia entry on genetic counseling)

    anita

     

     

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