“The secret to success is constancy to purpose.” ~Benjamin Disraeli
Most of us want to be successful, if not in monetary terms, then by our own definitions.
We want to feel a sense of meaning, to do something worthwhile that we can be proud of. Something that matters to people. Something that will live on after we do.
We often get so caught up in becoming who we want to be that we miss on being those people right now.
We get so focused on striving—getting things done, crossing items off the to-do list—that we forget to simply enjoy that purpose that matters so much. We approach tasks like races, anxious to reach the finish line. And then move onto the next item—get just one foot closer to that dream.
Sometimes when we move closer through achievements, we move further away in passion.
Take the personal trainer who wishes he had more clients, so he obsesses about it all through his workout.
Or the child development author who puts so much effort into publishing her book that she zones out during time with her kids.
Or the gifted artist who works fourteen hours a day at graphic design so one day he’ll have enough money to paint more.
Striving doesn’t have to mean disconnecting from your bliss.
Do what you love today—not to get anywhere, just to do it.
You can absolutely reach your goals, and you should keep doing those things that get you there, but your purpose doesn’t need to be something you reach. It can be something you feel and enjoy right now.
About Lori Deschene
Lori Deschene is the founder of Tiny Buddha. She started the site after struggling with depression, bulimia, and toxic shame so she could recycle her former pain into something useful and inspire others do the same. She recently created the Breaking Barriers to Self-Care eCourse to help people honor their needs—so they can feel their best, be their best, and live their best possible life. If you’re ready to start thriving instead of merely surviving, you can learn more and get instant access here.
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