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anitaParticipantYou are welcome, Starlight ✨ and thank you for being here, for sharing your valuable thoughts and reflections and for communicating with me. It’s meaningful to me. I too hope that you’ll be back here 🙏 🤍
anitaParticipantGood morning, Starlight!
I hear what you’re saying about things getting merged together. That happens so easily when different experiences carry similar feelings. It makes sense that you’re trying to tease them apart so each thing can be understood on its own, instead of becoming one big knot.
There’s no rush with that. It’s something that happens slowly and naturally as you look at each piece in your own time.
About your question — whether people would still do certain things if they really understood the consequences — that’s a painful thing to wonder about.
Some people truly don’t see the impact of their actions. Others see it but choose their own needs anyway. And sometimes people only understand the consequences much later, when the harm is already done.
Your question shows how deeply you’ve been thinking about what happened to you, and how much you’re trying to make sense of it.
If you want to talk more about any part of this, I’m here. And if you’re still sorting through things quietly, that’s completely okay too.
🤍✨Anita
anitaParticipantOh, thank you so much, Starlight1, for accepting my apology and for.. being you! Please do take all the time you need.
anitaParticipantIt’s okay when it (dancing) happens late in life
See the photo above my name?
This is me dancing on Halloween 2024 at the Winery I loved so much
Last danced there on a Dec 2025 night under the night sky, before the winery closed for good that month.
Months later, tonight, listening to music, a beagle at my lap, I am dancing in spirit.
anitaParticipantThe Hardening of heart is Softening
The Rigid Dissolving
The Spirit Dancing
Dancing
anitaParticipantHow R U, GTL, 2 months & a day since you posted last?
🌿 Anita
anitaParticipantHey Nichole, Bogart has just asked about you, wondering 🐕 how you’re feeling- thinking- doing 😉
anitaParticipantFour months and 2 days since I heard from me.
anitaParticipantHow exciting it is, for me, to know that somewhere across the world 🌎, Starlight1 has submitted a post exactly 10 minutes ago!
Please do rest, do take the break you need to take. I’ll be here when you return.
🌿 Anita
anitaParticipantHey Dear Confused:
Thoughts and feelings are very much connected.
Confused: “Why can’t (I) stay in the middle like all people”- that’s a thought.
This thought assumes that ALL people feel in the middle, and you are The 🤒 Exception.
This thought leads to feeling like a.. freak of nature, different from everyone else.
While truth is, no one (or hardly anyone) is in the middle you imagine.
If everyone was in that middle, would there be so many, many breakups and divorces and people on street drugs and people on depression medications etc.?
🧠🌿🐰🌙 Anita
anitaParticipantWhat goes up ⬆️ 🤪 must come down ⬇️ 😴
What goes in 😋 must go out 🤢 (or the other way).
The laws of physics and physiology.
Confused 😕 can’t change these laws.
For a while you had more 🏹 ⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️ than ⬇️⬇️ (pre Nov)- but it was not a solid 🪨 type high.
🐰 Anita
anitaParticipantWell, 31 minutes ago
anitaParticipantHey 🙂 Confused:
I feel positively appreciative of her
for her values and her kindness.. even when you “feel nothing again” (exactly 30 minutes ago)Well, I think well of her and had a good feeling a moment ago, appreciating her.
My point is there’s a connection between thoughts and feelings, and thoughts come and go (although deep impressions last) and feelings are like ocean 🌊 not at all solid.
Somehow, somewhere along the way you Confused 💧 with 🪨 ( that’s a rock)
💧 🪨 🌊 🐰 Anita
anitaParticipantIs she religious (praying, you said)? Can you tell me a bit more about what you felt or still feel about her praying and lighting a candle for your deceased mother?
anitaParticipantThank you for explaining (your post in this thread, right above). So, you watch certain programs or read things because people urged you to do so, and you kept reading or watching even though the material felt unhealthy or inappropriate?
If I understood correctly, then I can relate. Not to this specific thing but to anything and everything that involves saying “no” and setting boundaries.
I bet there are online exercises in regard to teaching setting boundaries and other assertive. There’re probably YouTubes on it. Some may be helpful. Did you ever look into that?
But guess who is not recommending that you read or watch anything (even if I had something in mind for you to read or watch)?
Me 🙂
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