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  • in reply to: I just randomly and suddenly fell out of love #456610
    anita
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    Good 🌄 Confused:

    Confused, April 1: “Is it dissociation?… idk… Gemini is better but nothing satisfies my obsessive search, I have to stop it”-

    I’ll do my part in helping you stop it, or at least, to not fuel your obsessive search for answers-

    By no longer answering questions you ask ( and offering answers to questions you don’t ask 🤪).

    I mean, how 🤔 much better can I do than AI, 🙂

    That’ll be difficult for me because I have a sort of an obsession with offering answers.

    Let’s see how we’ll we both do with our respective obsessions 🤞

    🤍 Anita

    in reply to: Sister takes long to respond to messages #456603
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    Good to read back from you, Lucidity 🙂

    I looked up feijoa and I don’t remember ever seeing it or eating it. But I do remember seeing you drinking tea and baking in your kitchen (YouTube). You look and sound so calm. Your writing is calm too.

    As far as regulars here, that is, members who respond to multiple members, there are only a few.

    Take care 🍐 Anita

    in reply to: I just randomly and suddenly fell out of love #456599
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    Hey Confused:

    Before you didn’t feel connected to any of your parents, definitely not to your mother- you felt very connected. It’s natural.

    A person’s early life experience with one’s parents have a lot to do with a person’s love life, in general terms.

    B Back in the morning 🌄 Anita

    anita
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    The idea 💡 that you and your girlfriend might get married in Poland 🇵🇱 crossed my mind.

    How long have the 2 of you been together- in person and LD?

    🇵🇱 🇷🇴 🇪🇸- where is your heart at this time, Robi?

    🍃 🤍 Anita

    in reply to: Zen Story #456596
    anita
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    Hoping you’re okay, Thomas. Hope your daughter and wife are okay 👍 and that all the practical tasks are not too overwhelming for you.

    I miss reading from you

    🍃 🤍 Anita

    in reply to: I just randomly and suddenly fell out of love #456594
    anita
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    Well, Confused: it’s okay if you don’t want meds. Those didn’t serve me well on the long run.

    So, you have conversations with AI on a regular basis? Is it of any help?

    I was dissociated since I was 5, I think. That was how old I was in a vivid memory: running to my mother, wanting her to pick me up and hold me and hug me and tell me everything was okay.

    But she didn’t.

    Don’t underestimate the power of a mother on her boy’s or girl’s life and mind.

    🍃🤍 Anita

    in reply to: Seeking clarity about a relationship #456592
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    How is Going Through Life going through life these days, GTL?

    🤔 Anita

    in reply to: What will my life be now? #456591
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    Nichole.. ?

    anita
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    Thank you, Peter, for 👉 to where the talent was buried. I buried it because I believed the message of the Harsh Authority (HA) in my life.

    That I was the Problem.

    She, my personal HA, wasn’t religious, never a mention of a god. No religious background. Nothing.

    Her rage made her God to me, like the god of the old testament (like the prayer at the pentagon: no mercy to those undeserving of mercy).

    No more surrender to that rage- or that control, no more going belly up.

    I wonder how many parents have taken their children to church, never expressing aggression at their children directly, but letting the church do the job?

    Like I said, it’ll take me some time to process your recent post.

    👉 Anita

    in reply to: I don’t know myself anymore #456589
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    How are you, Kelly?

    in reply to: I just randomly and suddenly fell out of love #456588
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    Hey 👋 Confused:

    Back to my 📱, which means plenty of emojis but no conversations with AI.

    Remembering what happened (events) but not your emotions: that’s classic dissociation, very common. Again, it’s the 🧠 trying to protect you from the intense emotions at the time.

    Your reactions- the dissociation, the shutdown: these are normal reactions to.. abnormal circumstances (abnormal circumstances like mine: a mother who feels dangerous vs safe).

    I understand you 👻 -ing your psych. So, now what?

    🤪 👻 👽 Anita

    in reply to: I just randomly and suddenly fell out of love #456586
    anita
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    Hey Dear Confused:

    Confused: “Hmm it wouldn’t be surprising but it’s very hard for me to connect my past to my present still and I don’t know why!”-

    I asked Copilot (AI) what you asked above. It gave me several answers:

    1. a gentle and normalizing answer: It actually makes a lot of sense that it’s hard to connect past and present. When something was overwhelming or painful, the mind often separates it just to help us survive. You’re not doing anything wrong — this is a really common human response.

    2. a curious + inviting answer: That sounds really frustrating. When you say it’s hard to connect the two, is it more like the past feels far away, or more like it feels disconnected from who you are now?

    3. a reassuring + validating answer: You’re definitely not alone in that. For many people, the past feels like it happened to a different person. Sometimes the mind protects us by creating distance. It doesn’t mean you’re stuck — it just means you’re human.

    4. an insightful + gentle answer: Sometimes the past stays disconnected because it was too much to process at the time. The mind kind of ‘files it away’ so you can keep going. Connecting it to the present usually happens slowly, when you feel safe enough.

    5. an empathic + reflective answer: I hear you. It can be confusing when the past shaped us but still feels strangely separate. Sometimes that separation is actually a sign of how hard you had to work to cope back then.

    6. an encouraging + grounded answer: It’s okay that it’s hard. You don’t have to force the connection. Often it starts with tiny moments of recognition — little ways you notice how old patterns show up now. It’s a gradual unfolding.

    My answer based on our 3+ months communication (from above): When something was overwhelming or painful, the mind often separates it just to help us survive, so the past feels far away, like it happened to a different person. The mind protects us by creating distance. The mind kind of ‘files it away’ so you can keep going. But what it filed away doesn’t die or disappear, it rises to the surface from time to time, like those tears instantly running down your face.

    Sounds like you are indeed depressed. Did you contact the psychiatrist?

    🌿 Anita

    anita
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    Hi Peter:

    At the computer earlier than expected. There’s so much in your recent post. Reads brilliant to me, wow! I’ll need time to process and absorb it, at least a portion of it.

    For now, I invited Jung, Campbell, Krishnamurti and Alan Watts to tell you what they think about your recent post:

    Jung: Peter, you are doing the sacred work of reclaiming a symbol that once claimed you. When you question the identity of the “master,” you are withdrawing your projection from an image that once held your psyche hostage.

    This is individuation: the courage to confront the inherited god-image and discover that the true Self is not the harsh judge, but the one who sees through the mask. You are retrieving the gold that was buried in the shadow of that story.

    Campbell: Ah, Peter — you are rewriting the myth from the inside. The third servant you once feared has become your ally, your mirror, your threshold guardian turned guide.

    You are doing what every hero must eventually do: challenge the authority of the inherited story. You have stepped out of the village of unquestioned belief and into the forest of your own experience.

    And look at what you’ve discovered: that refusal can be a form of courage, that integrity can be a boon, and that the “outer darkness” is not exile but the beginning of your own path. You are living the myth consciously now.

    Krishnamurti: Peter, notice how the story once dictated your inner movement. You were conditioned to believe that fear was failure, that worth was measured by output. Now you are observing that conditioning without judgment. This is freedom.

    When you ask whether the master represents God, you are really asking whether authority — any authority — has the right to define your being. The moment you see the falseness of the image; it loses its power. And in clarity, the “harsh master” dissolves, leaving only what is true.

    Alan Watts: Peter, my friend, you’ve finally stopped taking the universe so literally. You’ve realized that the “harsh master” was never God — just a mask worn by frightened people trying to control life. And now you’re laughing a little, aren’t you? Because once you see the game, the whole thing becomes lighter.

    The third servant wasn’t a failure; he was the only one who didn’t fall for the hustle. He buried the coin and said, “No thanks, I’m not playing.” And maybe that’s the real punchline: you don’t have to earn love, or God, or existence. You’re already it. You always were.

    Copilot

    Anita: it’s like you’re giving the third servant back his dignity, and you’re giving your younger self that same dignity. I like this: to give my younger self her dignity back… To unearth that 1 talent (confidence, self-respect, dignity) that the 3rd servant hid in the ground.

    🍃🤍 Anita

    in reply to: On Purpise and Shame- what is my purpose? What is yours? #456580
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    Just wanted to say I’ll reply further by tomorrow. Thank you, Peter for participating in my purpise 🙂 thread

    in reply to: On Purpise and Shame- what is my purpose? What is yours? #456576
    anita
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    I read just a bit of your recent post and I see you like the 1×2=1 ha-ha. I suppose a wiser, hidden part of me knew better than I did (see my edit a few minutes before your recent post (double posting)

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