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  • in reply to: Chill Out Zone #450375
    anita
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    Dear Jana:

    Excellent, we both will.. 🤗 ❤️

    I didn’t have the time yesterday to read your post in regard to the novel you read. This morning, as I read it, I am finding it very meaningful.

    Each chapter of the novel was dedicated to one member of the family describing his or her unique ways of dealing with the family trauma. You wrote that it reminds you of the complexity of people “and that we should respect each other.. even though we don’t understand each other completely, or we don’t even like some ways of healing, we should respect and accept each other. ❤️”-

    So true, Jana. I am moving more and more away from black and white/ directive thinking (as in, thinking or expressing something like: “this is the way it is, and this is what you should do!” Or “this is what’s true to me, therefore it must be true to you too!”)==> toward shades of grey thinking: being open to really listen to the other person as a unique person, to really consider the person’s viewpoint (to not prejudge), and to be open to changing my views/ thinking according to what I learn.

    Thank you, Jana, for this space to articulate the above, and for being the uniquely perceptive and resourceful person that you are! You are an asset to this small tiny buddha community.

    🌿 🤍 Anita

    anita
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    Dear Gregory:

    You are a good, principled person and I admire you for trying to make the world (particularly South Sudan) a better place. I understand how much stress you’ve experienced for a long time. Please slow down and proceed with caution and wisdom. I am rooting for you and for your family and country!

    🤍🌿 Anita

    in reply to: Too invested in others- feeling tired of that #450367
    anita
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    Dear Milda:

    As much as you ever cared about anyone else, as much as you ever placed anyone else (other than you) as No 1 in your life- it’s your turn now. It’s time for you to place you (MILDA) as No 1- not as No 1 in the whole universe-

    Just No 1 in this one life- your own.

    ???

    Anita

    in reply to: Understanding someone who's recently divorced and not ready #450366
    anita
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    You are very welcome, Dafne. Thank you for your message, and lots of love sent back your way ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

    Looking forward to reading from you again 🌸🫂💕

    Please take good care of yourself!

    🤍🌿 Anita

    anita
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    Dear Gregory:

    I am bringing up this thread because your other thread got deleted this morning following my request.

    After much consideration this morning, I came to realize that talking about politics in South Sudan, particularly when mentioning real names, real government titles and locations- all in a public forum- is unsafe for you, for me, and for others.

    And so, I asked for that thread to be deleted (I copied all the poems you submitted for me 🙂, thank you again!). We can continue to talk about other topics right here, or in a new thread that you can choose to start.

    But please: no more mention of any politics. And also, please don’t mention my name to irl people in politics anymore. Thank you!

    🤍🌿 Anita

    in reply to: Seeking clarity about a relationship #450359
    anita
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    I am sorry, Going Through Life, ran out of time. I’ll be back to you tomorrow, take care!

    in reply to: Too invested in others- feeling tired of that #450358
    anita
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    Dear Milda: I am sorry that I ran out of time today, but I will get back to you Sat morning (it’s Fri afternoon here). Take care!

    in reply to: Feelings for co worker? #450357
    anita
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    I ran out of time, will reply by tomorrow, take care, me!

    in reply to: Chill Out Zone #450356
    anita
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    Dear Jana:

    So good to have you back here! I hope that the forums become a reliably safe place for you and for everyone else. I will do my best to cocreate and promote safety and inclusivity in the forums, a place where everyone feels welcomed, respected, and valued.

    No, I won’t be dancing this weekend (no outdoor music in the place I frequent). Got to run, have a great weekend, Jana!

    🌿 🤍 Anita

    in reply to: Feelings for co worker? #450242
    anita
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    I get it, me- and I happen to like you- just as you are!

    in reply to: Chill Out Zone #450240
    anita
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    “I see trees of green, red roses too- I see them bloom for me and you- And I think to myself- What a wonderful world

    I see skies of blue and clouds of white- The bright blessed days, the dark sacred nights- And I think to myself- What a wonderful world

    The colors of the rainbow, so pretty in the sky- Are also on the faces of people going by- I see friends shaking hands, saying, “How do you do?”- They’re really saying, “I love you”

    I hear babies cry, I watch them grow- They’ll learn much more than I’ll ever know- And I think to myself- What a wonderful world

    Yes, I think to myself- What a wonderful world. Oh, yeah.” (Louis Armstrong, 1901-1971)

    in reply to: Feelings for co worker? #450239
    anita
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    It just occurred to me, Me, that you are a man of extremes, ME (your screen name)= extreME.

    Could be 🍷talking…

    🥴Anita

    in reply to: Seeking clarity about a relationship #450236
    anita
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    You are not blabbering, Going Through Life 🙂, You are making sense! Got to run, will be back to you in the morning.

    in reply to: Too invested in others- feeling tired of that #450231
    anita
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    It’s a good thing, Milda, that you no longer participate in ingenuine friendships. Please express your genuine feeling here. Including your genuine anger. In your communication with me, you are safe, safe being your genuine self 🙂

    (I will soon be away from the computer for the rest of the day).

    🤍🌿 Anita

    in reply to: Compassion and respect during times of conflict #450225
    anita
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    Dear Lucidity:

    I know what you mean about being black and white when in the midst of conflict. I used to experience this all the time during conflict… First for me was to recognise that other people can be hurt just as much as me”-

    Before I get locked into black and white thinking again, I will open myself to the possibility, or probability that the other person is hurt too. Thank you for this, lucidity!

    “So, there has to be patience and that’s SUPER hard for me when in conflict bec I am the type of person to not be able to let things go, be aggressive, confrontational, intimidating.”-

    Are you saying that at times, during conflict, you are aggressive, confrontational and intimidating? Or did I somehow misunderstand..? If I understood correctly, I’d be curious to know in what ways you’ve been these things (your image on the YouTube channel is that of a soft spoken, gentle woman)

    “Black and white thinking is a cognitive distortion tho. It simplifies the situation…”- agreed. Black and white/ all or nothing/ binary thinking is adequate for the understanding of simple, black and white situations, but it either distorts or makes the understanding of complex situations impossible.

    “In the end, when outside of toxic situations that really are impossible, the focus should be on all parties feeling heard, included and validated and black and white thinking doesn’t help to achieve that. Hope that helps ❤️”-

    Agreed, and yest, this helps, thank you!

    ❤️ Anita

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