Overwhelmed.. ? I understand, me. Too much. No mention of her from me, me 🙂

We’re on the same time zone, not far away.. totally dark, and it’s only 8:15 pm.

You’re ready to go to bed? (I’m hoping to stay up for another hour..)

Dear Nichole:

Thrilled to read from you this Mon night!

C o N g R a T s for your new kitchen counter tops!

“this is a marathon not a sprint, this healing journey.”- and I am here to run (walk, really) this marathon alongside you 🚶‍♀️🏃

“my responses are sometimes more delayed than yours but I am here and will always respond.”- I am cool with that!

Anytime you want to express, to share.. Please do.

Seven minutes to 8 pm here, seven minutes to 11 pm where you’re at, soon going to bed?

🤍🌿 Anita

And she chooses not to answer (really, I am slow in this regard.. not kidding).

She receives your messages, reads them, and doesn’t answer?

In other words, she gets your messages and chooses to not answer???

Dear Peter:

“However, the inner monk wants me to point out..”- “inner monk”, funny, funny Peter 🙂

“once the teaching are realized they are straightforward… direct experience… living truth… the experience itself… direct awareness… God as a.. verb”-

God as a noun- a being, a person, a deity; external, worshipped, obeyed; distant, hierarchical

God as a verb or symbol- a process, a presence, a way of being.

When “God” becomes a verb, the Ask shifts: “Love God” becomes “Love like God”, a practice.

I wonder—does your experience of love include me, Peter? Or is it more spacious, less personal?

I’m not trying to trap you in duality—I’m just curious how this living truth feels when it meets a face, a name, a smile.

How does it feel, that realized, direct, living-truth.. the experience itself? Is it a feeling of love that’s detached from people.. nothing personal..?

The experience itself, for me, feels like affection, that smile on my face and the softening of my heart when I typed out earlier “Hi non-hyena Peter 🙂”, and right above: “funny, funny Peter 🙂”. And the affection and gratitude I feel for Tee.. and my growing ability/ opening to love people.

Am I missing the point of wisdom, non-dual traditions here?

🤍🌿 Anita

Dear me:

I know you work many, many hours, so, I understand you not having time to visit her.

I just looked at your earlier post, you wrote: “which I said don’t feel lonely”. I misread it, I thought you wrote: which I said I don’t feel lonely.

I apologize for the misread!

“Nothing wrong with what I said.”- true, nothing wrong. I misread.

I don’t understand the current situation between the two of you. What does she want? What do you want?

Do you think the two of you are having an honest, straightforward communication?

🤍🌿 Anita

I’m on the phone, not at the computer, will reply in a few hours.

Hi non-hyena Peter 🙂

Your post brought the first smile to my face this Mon morning.

(I am using Copilot to refresh my mind with Freud’s terms)

* Peter’s Id/ inner child/ inner puppy: “a Labrador Retriever — enthusiastic, loyal, and occasionally getting itself into trouble… And the puppy? It can be house trained”.

The Id needs boundaries, structure, and gentle training. Like a puppy, it can learn when it’s safe to express desire, how to coexist with others, and how to channel its energy without causing harm.

* Peter’s Super ego/ inner critical parent/ inner critic (the moralizing force- —the one that judges, scolds, or praises): “the inner monk”. Monk, a figure of contemplation, ethics, and discipline. Not harsh, shaming or punishing, but thoughtful and principled.

Copilot: “Ego — The Negotiator- The Ego is your inner adult. It tries to balance the Id’s cravings with reality. It says, ‘Okay, I hear you—but let’s find a way that works in the real world.’… The Ego judges to protect you—not punish you. Its purpose is to balance your inner desires (Id), your moral ideals (Superego), and the real world around you.

“Peter’s metaphor invites compassion toward our impulses. Instead of demonizing desire, he suggests we treat it like a loyal puppy—trainable, lovable, and worthy of care. The monk doesn’t punish the puppy; he guides it”.

Back to your words, Peter: “You’re right wisdom traditions, especially when codified, are often interpreted as saying “Do not judge.” But I think that’s a misreading. Look closer, and it’s less “Thou shalt not judge” and more ‘Judge with care.’… judge with humility and self-awareness. That lands in a similar space to what you’re pointing toward.”-

Okay, this is a relief because I cannot not judge, but I can practice judging with care, humility and self-awareness.

On a side note, I judge wisdom traditions for not being clear and straightforward. If they were clear and straightforward, they wouldn’t be so easy to misinterpret.. says I.

“Through the lens of nonduality, everything is connected. So when we judge our neighbors, we’re also judging and revealing ourselves.”- Next time I judge another person, I will think: what does my judgment reveals about me?

“P.S. I’d also argue that the moment a thought arises and gets translated into language, we’re already judging, measuring, dividing, labeling. So again, you’re right: it’s not possible not to judge. That’s why it’s so important to be conscious of what we think and say… and to keep training that puppy.”-

Thank you for the clarity= “it’s not possible not to judge”. I wonder how many people out there, reading non-duality literature, are trying very hard not to judge, then scolding themselves when they inevitably fail..?

🤍🌿 Anita