Hilarious, Thomas. No, I don’t remember reading this Zen Story before. It shows why it’s so important to check assumptions. Or even better, to ask before assuming.

Thank you 😊

I hope other members enjoy this as well.

🙏 Anita

Thank you for updating me, me (meme, ha-ha).

How was your Christmas? I didn’t celebrate at all. I remember that years ago you handed people 🍬 , in a shopping mall.

Here, I am getting over a cold (I hope). Didn’t go on my daily walk. Do you still exercise?

😨 Anita

Well, is that part of you that you described, is he.. lovable?

Dear me:

I get confused sometimes , not knowing if she’s being cold to you, let’s say on text, or it’s just that the two of you talked on the phone a lot the day before, and she just needed a break (as everyone does), and didn’t feel the need to engage in text the next day.

Maybe she was busy.. and you are very sensitive to any sign of rejection that may not at all be rejection..?

You are very welcome, Mollie!

As far as why it’s happening for us I think that it’s 🤔 about fear and how we respond to fear, well, for me it is, fear and the desire for comfort.

Like right now, it’s my 3rd or 4th day of having a cold, but today, it’s worse, and unlike previous days 😨, I am afraid to go on my daily long walk because I feel weak and not steady and afraid I’ll fall. Now, having a ROUTINE is very important 👌 to my mental health, to my sense of stability and well-being.

So, I’ve been feeling scared 😱 right before I answered you, and then, now, I am not scared because I find contentment in answering you.

In the past, feeling scared like this, I would overeat. Right before I sat down, I poured myself vegetable juice (60 cal) because it has lots of vit C, which I am sure that I need, because I truly need it.

It’s also looking ahead, which I didn’t do before- if I eat cake now. I may feel good for a moment, but I will feel bad for a long time.

So. I am writing to you and drinking healthy juice. It’s about choosing what I think and what I do moment by moment. No good choice is too small, little choices count.

In regard to losing weight, I’ve done keto, still do low carb.

Any of this helps?

😱=> 🙂 Anita

I’ll answer in a little while