Thank you for the note, Tee. I am looking forward to reading more from you ❤️

Alessa, I hear you. Safe, Brave and Kind ❤️

On the topic of quoting members, sometimes I will quote a member so to ask for clarification, such as in writing to a member: I didn’t understand what you meant here (Quote), can you explain it to me?

Or when I am so positively impressed with what a person said, I may quote him or her, such as in writing: What you wrote here (Quote) was said perfectly. It resonates so much because in my experience…

There may be other positive reasons for me to quote a member, a reason or reasons that aren’t occurring to me right now, but overall, in my replies- there will be far fewer quoting and none that is likely to create or promote conflict, definitely none that could come across as public shaming.

I will add this one point: sometimes, people will feel offended reading something that’s the farthest from being offensive. Like what I wrote so far in this point- nothing offensive about it, but someone out there reading this post may find it offensive.

I was one of the people who detected offense where there was none (in yours and Tee’s posts in the beginning of the conflict) and I will do my best to pay attention and reflect before reacting to perceived offense, to ask myself: was there real offense, or do I feel offended because something old got triggered within me.

I read about your PTSD and you getting hyper focused because of your Autism, so I am willing to completely let go and move on from any and all past conflicts and create and promote a Safe, Brave and Kind atmosphere in every space I participate in, in real-life and here.

You asked how I’m doing: exhausted, ready to continue to put all that I learned recently into practice and move on.

I wouldn’t want you to leave the forums, Alessa ❤️, nor would I want anyone else to leave. I would like more and more people to participate, all are welcome.

🌿 Anita

Dear Peter:

My answer: what grows when I listen to it is what’s been neglected for too long, brotherly love, sisterly love, loving each other. Seeing the best in each other, and building on that best.

🌿 Anita

Then here it will be, Emma. If you change your mind, we’ll go to email (I copied your email address into my personal record)
I’ll write more tomorrow.

🤍 Anita

Dear Emma:

So good to read back from you. Generally, I prefer communicating here, on the forums, better than on email, but if you still prefer email- if you feel safer there, I will email you tomorrow with a response. I didn’t yet read all of your recent post (had a long day, tired).

So, please let me know if your definite preference is email, and if it is, my next message to you will be via email (tomorrow).

Anita

Dear Alessa:

In general, I understand your point, it’s a good point. You know what? I’ll stop quoting members, here and elsewhere, see how that works.

🌿 Anita

I am trying to understand your point, Alessa: The content of the quote (what Brandy wrote) was not “public shaming” of me? It’s me addressing her post (as part of the direct communication that you advocated for), that’s public shaming?

🌿 Anita

Dear Brandy:

Do you still feel the same way about the concerns you raised 8 days ago, or were some of those things said in the heat of the moment?

Anything at all that you regret saying in regard to any one of the above stated accusations?

I’m looking forward to an honest, direct and kind communication with you.

I will do my best to promote safety in this thread and everywhere else.

🌿 Anita

• This reply was modified 1 month ago by tinybuddha. Reason: Quoted section removed per the thread starter’s request and Anita’s agreement to stop reposting quotes like these

Dear Alessa (and Everyone reading):

“You are welcome to try to engage with Brandy or Yana directly on my thread, all I ask is that the nature of thread is honoured and you help to make this a safe and brave space for everyone.”-

I will do my very best to be honest and kind, both. I will also try to keep the next posts relatively short.

🌿 Anita