Alessa: “What your perspective is of the function of the mind?”

James: “From perspective of Truth, Mind simply works perfectly with body.

From perspective of ego, mind just thinks over and over again. Non stop. Therefore, worry, anger, sadness, fear is inevitable.”–

Mind then can work for us or against us. This is such a simple truth, yet profound. Maybe it’s a good idea to start each day saying this statement of intent: May My Mind Work For Me Today. And then, during the day, when we catch ourselves overthinking, worrying, feeling angry a lot, etc., to pause and repeat the mantra.

Thank you James and Alessa for this discussion ❤️

Anita

Oh, I just remembered how or why my conflict with you Tee, started. I remember that you suggested that I am yet to feel compassion for my mother, and that feeling compassion for her will help me.

I explained to you- in detail and repeatedly that I felt TOO MUCH compassion for her my whole life, that I drowned in compassion for her (her pain was Everything, mine was Nothing), and yet you insisted, Tee, that I didn’t yet- or should feel compassion for her.

That was hurtful and .. it made me feel terrible.

Anita

Oh, okay- that makes a lot of sense, James! Actually, this morning I did my best negotiating conflict on another thread ..with love and compassion. I will give the outcome, if any, to God. Your message is timed perfectly, for me.

Thank you!!!

Anita

Dear James123:

Thank you for sharing this. “Oh Allah, everything and anything belongs to You”- everything belongs to him so to dissolve everything, eventually?

Not to get involved for the purpose of justice/ solutions, if I understand correctly?

Anita

Hello Everyone 😊:

Jana, about 8 hours ago: “Please, let’s not argue 🙏🦋..I have to stop, too.. I have been too effected.. flashbacks from bullying.. the atmosphere is too intense.. Let’s rest, please.”

Jana, a few hours ago: “Tee, Alessa, Anita and others.. I do believe that we can reach some peace, respect and compassion… It might be a bit harder, but in the end if we stay open and we really want to, we can make the best of it and learn, become better at dealing with these tough conflicts.”-

Jana, you deserve peace, respect, and compassion—both in real life and here, in the thread you started. In this post, I’ll do my very best to help resolve conflict and shift the too-intense atmosphere toward something calmer. I’ve signaled that intention with the 😊 above, and I’ll continue placing this emoji at the start of every post I share in this thread, as a way to let you know that a calm, positive message is to follow.

I want to start with feelings—with how I feel this Saturday morning, here. As I sit in this comfortable reclining chair, I see the green trees beyond the large, open windows in front of me. I hear the hum of the refrigerator behind me, and.. three distinct bird calls. One of them is a bluejay. I just noticed that my breathing is constrained, so I took a few deeper breaths. I feel centered, calm. I want to feel compassion for all the participants in this thread. Can I do it? Let’s find out. I’ll be typing whatever comes to mind—no editing.

I already feel compassion for Alessa. I can hardly believe that I used to be afraid of you, Alessa, and at times angry as well. I figure I did because I misunderstood you. Now that I believe that I understand you more than ever, all I feel is
affection, compassion and gratitude.

Jana- at times, I felt threatened by you- when what I read from you felt like criticism and rejection. But now, as I did many times in the past, I feel compassion for you too. Actually, I felt it on the day you started this thread (“I feel nothing but affection for you.”, Aug 13). I was so happy you returned to the forums!

* It occurred to me just now that if I stop taking things so personally, I wouldn’t become so defensive. What happened so often is that a bit of criticism, if said unkindly, or without kindness- felt like too much criticism.. like an attack that I needed to defend myself from- most often, by withdrawing, no longer interacting with the person. I think that this is changing because of this thread.

Lucidity- for a long time now- I felt betrayed by you because after the extensive communication on another thread- you took a stand against me without addressing me. Affection doesn’t come easy. I brought up the image of you blending ingredients for a carrot cake (from your YouTube video). I imagine sitting in your kitchen waiting for the cake to be baked. Intoxicating fragrance! We talk, your voice is soft.. I just said, in my mind: I like you, Lucidity. There’s the affection.

Peter- I was hurt when I sent you an inner child type message, reaching out to the boy in you.. and no response from you. my response: I decided to never talk to you again. I took your no-response as rejection of the girl in me. But now, I am thinking: maybe you never noticed that message. If you did, maybe you felt uncomfortable reading it and responding to it would have been distressful for you. Having known you in these forums through the years, I know that you weren’t trying to hurt me. And now, as I am typing these very words, I find myself smiling with affection.

Brandy- I felt angry and defensive reading your criticisms of me (taking a deeper breath). I felt like defending myself just now, but no. Just relax into the feelings: the fear is deeper than the anger. When I pay attention to the fear and give it space.. the anger is nowhere to be found. It just occurred to me that your criticisms matter to me because I value you and your participation in the forums ever since 2017.. We were both 8 years younger back then. Inky was a regular in the forums back then. I miss her! Anyway, I digress. You have put so much effort trying to help members in these forums over the years. yes, here it is, a smile on my face, affection for you.

Tee- this is difficult but I can do it.

Affection Warning: if I express affection for you, Tee, I imagine you cringing because you’re clearly very angry at me. Please feel free to skip what follows.

I think it’s cute the way you address me: “Anita,”- not Dear Anita, or Hi Anita.. This is Angry Tee. I used to be way more fearful of people’s anger than I am this morning. Someone’s anger felt catastrophic, but this morning- I am able to see it as something cute.. and here’s the smile on my face: affection for Tee.

In regard to the topic of Accountability- I am willing to address it.

Today, Tee wrote: “I feel true conflict resolution can’t come about without accountability on both sides.”-

Would you like to elaborate on accountability on your side, Tee- in regard to the nature of your participation in this thread as well as what preceded it?

I just felt fear of Tee’s response..

Still learning, still open—Anita 😊

Yes, let’s rest, Jana. I want rest, believe me. What the hell happened here… seriously, I don’t know how it got to this point. Anyway, Jana.. I am sorry..

Just noticed Alessa’s post. Too tired to process…

Sat morning maybe…

For crying out loud, what an emotional mess.

Talking about Emotion… Wow!