Dear Confused:

The 24/7 rumination brings me back to what I shared with you much earlier: that I was diagnosed with OCD and was prescribed with Zoloft (it’s the brand name of an SSRI drug, forgot the generic name) for OCD and it helped me A LOT.

Of course, what worked for me may not work for someone else. (and I don’t know if your rumination is OCD). If you do see a psychiatrist soon, maybe explore this possibility.

Coming to think 🤔 about it, you’re numb to life as it is (the present) but emotional over the past. So, you do feel intensely 😢 about what WAS. Numb for what IS. Did I get it right?

🤔 Anita

Hi Sonia,

I’m really glad to read back from you 🙂

It makes so much sense that these new boundaries feel strange and uncomfortable. When you’ve spent years putting others first, doing something healthier can feel like you’re doing something wrong, even though you’re not. The guilt you’re feeling doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong — it just means you’re doing something new.

Boundaries often feel awkward at first, but they’re part of taking care of yourself, and it sounds like you’re already noticing moments of relief. It’s also really healthy that you’re letting yourself feel the emotions instead of shutting them down. That’s how real change happens.

A lot of people who’ve spent a long time being very tuned into others’ feelings find that boundaries feel unfamiliar at first. I relate to that — I grew up being very tuned into my mother’s emotions and not having many boundaries. As an adult, saying “no” or not people‑pleasing felt like I was doing something wrong to the other person. It’s something I’ve had to work on too.

Thank you for the update. I’m always glad to hear from you, whenever you feel like sharing.

🤍 Anita

… Zenith.. ???

How are you friend? 🤍 Anita

Dear Robi:

I’m wondering 🤔 if you’re still in Romania right now, and hoping you’re in Warsaw, although I understand the challenges in regard to your gf and her mother.

If only things could be simple and easy 😕

✨️🤍 Anita

I hope you’re okay 👍, Confused.

✨️🌙🤔 Anita

I wonder how 39-year-old Tom is feeling today/ tonight. I hope 🙏 well?

✨️ Anita

Any news in regard to the Apt vs Townhome decision, Alecsee?

🤔 Anita