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January 12, 2021 at 7:04 pm #372724
That is an important question and I thank you for asking. The argument that E’s mother and I got into was over a mutual friend, Sara, of E and I. Her home life was unstable at the time – with her mom locking her stuff out her house and her dad constantly yelling at her, she came over as solace. E’s mother was unhappy she was over so much. As someone who can directly understand how it feels to be a TEEN or CHILD and not have your home feel the place to return, I felt upset that her mother, a pastors wife would not be able to see a struggling teen and have compassion. Growing up I watched my own mother welcome kids and my siblings friends from all walks of life into our home because she also knows what it feels like. In the argument, E’s mother repeatedly said she did not want Sara there, with Sara in ear range. I felt so angry and defensive over my friends well being, hence, life that I argued back for the first time with E’s mother. I immaturely and in anger said, “I am closer to god than you are if you think this way” and she responded “then why don’t you both leave” kicking me out with no support system at 18, knowing my mom was not even in a living situation at the time. This begun a long process of me growing up, having to face the world alone at 18 get my own apartment, job, etc and realizing I must catch myself and I am my own parent now. Her family technically temporally adopted me, with paperwork so to me it felt like they adopted a dog and tossed itOctober 26, 2018 at 11:20 am #233549
Thank you all so much! I really appreciate your advice, and will go forward feeling better about my decisionAugust 30, 2018 at 11:50 am #223773
I feel I should break up, yet the thought deeply saddens me. I feel “but..but..what if its me. What if I just have toxic thoughts”..he does everything right emotionally…but these superficial thoughts always seem to come back up. I wish we could just date casually and openly until I feel sure, but he would not do this- as he is sure of me, but me not of him..August 30, 2018 at 11:38 am #223761
Thank you for your response. I realize that he may not be homosexual, but his feminine nature turns me off. Maybe it is my own insecurities. I wish that I could accept this about him. I like his heart, it feels warm, but the rest creates a conflict within me.
He would be :/April 19, 2018 at 3:56 pm #203261
I know you feel lack of motivation to switch jobs, but if you can’t feel better about your job title, maybe you should find excitement(motivation) in thinking of a new job position. I once stayed in toxic roommate situation because I felt too crippled by being overwhelmed/depression. Eventually, I had no choice but to go. Looking back I realize though it felt nearly impossible to make a change, when the time came when I had no choice, I did make that change and things improved. My point is…I feel you would feel so much happier and lighter to pursue something new, with a title that you respect. It may be hard with no motivation, but just force yourself(if you do want to switch jobs) because in the end it will be worth it and I feel you may be motivated as you see that you can and are moving into a job position that you respect. The minute you start comparing yourself to others you need to stop and be compassionate to yourself. We all have been dealt different cards so to compare “progress” is unfair to you and your life story. Admire those you wish to be like, but try to keep it positive by constantly watching the pesky thoughts.
Bad: “He has so much more than me”
Good: “Wow, I like what he has. And I will be able to reach that level one day, for now I will take whatever step is next needed”
One step at a time?
No idea if that helped. Sending you light and love brotha 🙂April 19, 2018 at 3:38 pm #203259
Also, I feel like with new friends its all about keeping a light vibe. So how can I approach them with a lighter fun mindset when I just feel like someone who needs healing?April 19, 2018 at 3:35 pm #203257
I am blessed to have received each of these responses! Thank you. I do feel lonely, and honestly feel just having oneeee person would help. My only barrier with strangers is, I feel I have not much to offer in conversation anymore. Before I was like “OKay I feel lonely, but I am hopeful” Now, I am hopeful yet…I feel all of this time without true human connection has dampened my spirit. I just want answers, help. I had my experience with the wrong friends since being here so that has also dampened my spirt. I used to want friends for fun, now I just feel like I want to be cherished and taken care of as I recuperate. Thank you for your adviceDecember 19, 2017 at 2:36 am #182791
You are definitely not alone. In fact, my eyes widened when I saw your title, because I thought I was alone. I feel every sentence of yours as if I wrote it myself.December 8, 2017 at 10:48 am #181107
Thank you. I really appreciate your repliesDecember 8, 2017 at 10:47 am #181105
Thank you guys