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October 25, 2020 at 8:46 am #368221
Dear Chatty Lady
Another point of interest, all marriages have hard times . After the birth of children , especially the first child, can be especially hard. The excitement of youth, love and freedom are replace overnight by responsibility , demands and limitations .
When you child begin to have a level of self containment ( around 4 years old) to you feel you can start reclaiming your life. It is possible that “this guy” represents a fast track back to your old self.
TonyOctober 25, 2020 at 8:42 am #368220
Dear Chatty Lady
In you situations seven people will potentially have their lives altered if you processed to be with “this guy”. Three are children who could spend a life time trying to understand what happened, why a parent left and the disruptive aftermath.
I suggest you forget about “this guy” for 12 months with zero contact. Focus on your husband, decide together if you have a future. Because of your child you life and your husbands are wound together no matter what you do, so if you decide to divorce you will have to agree how you rear your son. Once you have figured out your future with your husband, then and only then can you start to consider what role “this guy” plays in your life .
TonyOctober 25, 2020 at 4:00 am #368216
Reading your post I am impressed with quality of your writing, the depth of your feeling , your passion and the colourful interpretation you captured from one simple photo is truly amazing. The pain and pattern of your thought process is so profoundly expressive. I read a book recently by Emily Ruskovich called Idaho, your quality of anguished writing is similar . A terrible beauty fighting to be find meaning, to be understood and ultimately to be loved.
I am dyslexic, I write and cry later when I see my stupid spelling and grammar mistakes, I am always so impressed by people with your talent. Success is a fight to over come your weakness and fears, some say you spend your adult life trying to understand your childhood. I succeeded in areas I though I was weak, I tried so hard not been seen as stupid I succeeded beyond my wildest expectations. In school teachers would rank us 1 to 48, yes we had 48 pupils in our class room, I was always in the mid 40’s, a few from the bottom. I hated it , this experience added rocket fuel to my drive, my relentless competitive drive … it’s only in recent years I have begun to realise that I have arrived.
You could write a book based on that simple photo posted by the sea side , I suggest you use you deep personal search for meaning to write.
TonyOctober 24, 2020 at 10:51 am #368192
This is difficult ….. as old flames burn bright in the dark of the lonely night .
I had a friendship with a woman over 30 years ago, it was not sexual but we were very attracted to each other, but circumstances were against us. This was before the age of social media so we lost contact for over 30 years . We did connect earlier this year but it fizzled out because in the end we realised we had our lives today and did not want to hurt loves ones by connecting with a nostalgic fantasy from a long time ago….. in the end old flames can’t hold a candle to the person who has lived a real life with you .
I wish you strength and awareness as you navigate this oxymoron of the heartOctober 22, 2020 at 9:25 am #368096
You are not along being trapped in nostalgia. It is clear you had a good childhood and now compare your life with good memories from the past. We are all products of our experiences , so all people are nostalgic to different degrees. Overall, I see nothing wrong with creating experiences that made you happy.
Actually, there is no such thing as success, so long as the projects you do satisfy your curiosity good things usually fall into place.
I had a post here explaining the root of my deep nostalgia , a regular contributor called me a liar and ridiculed me, a total character assassination, so I deleted my post and find it hard to now trust people on this site …. but I am trying to over come this .
You write that you felt exploited, why do you feel exploited ?
TonyOctober 16, 2020 at 4:00 pm #367903
yes , life is all about attitudeOctober 16, 2020 at 3:59 pm #367902
you words are thoughtful and wise
TonyOctober 16, 2020 at 3:57 pm #367901
how do you feel about it now ?
TonyOctober 16, 2020 at 3:56 pm #367900
Time moves on and what was an important issue back then is nothing now …. that is the beauty of timeSeptember 27, 2020 at 2:43 am #367294
I too really enjoyed this site, it was a forum to explore the deeper meaning of life and seek some guidance on life’s struggles. I am not political, over the years I have discovered that any political views I had were flawed, however democracy is better than the alternative. I admire individuals from any political persuasion who put them selves forward as democratically elected candidates, as to do so exposes them to ridicule, harassment and even worse. I felt this site was a politics free zone, however when I read your post and the replies I saw a political consensus, in this case liberal , so I pressed the report icon. I felt guilty and re-read your post and saw it’s true intent and thus responded with my view on not demonising you’re neighbour and that politicians are a reflection of who collectively we are at a given time. Someone then reported my post and your posting thread was blocked for further comment , that is why I started a new thread.
I have been harassed by a regular contributor on this site. I wrote about a deep emotional issue in my life, as with most emotions they defy logic. This contributor called me lier and assassinated my character. I asked that my personal postings be removed and now I am very cautious on this site, my advise don’t trust everyone who contributors on this site as some are charlatans pretending to care, when really they are feeding their own ego….. be careful on this site is my advice.
wishing you joy and good health
TonySeptember 23, 2020 at 3:42 pm #367145
We are all part of the same energy, like rays of sunlight that cannot be cut off from the sun.
Too often people judge others, but who is qualified to judge?
The decisive nature of debate must not be personalised or worse demonised. To truly love we must be walk in our neighbours shoesSeptember 22, 2020 at 10:22 am #367081
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Reading both contributors on this thread demonstrates why Trump rings true to a huge minority in the US ( and globally) . There is a deep seated fear among a large minority that the liberal agenda rubbishes beliefs and values that have sustained communities for decades if not centuries , values like self sufficiency , religious values ( ie the unborn life ) , expectations that your children will be able to settle and raise a family in your community. The liberal media and cohorts have made such a huge thing out of hating Trump that they have created a monster that really does not exist , the US ( Canada where I am from ) and the western world are democracies , politicians are a reflection of who we are at any given time . If you don’t like your politician then vote and if you are moved become politically active …… but don’t fall into the trap of demonising your opponent because by doing so you demonise your neighbour .September 22, 2020 at 10:09 am #367078
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If everyone supported Trump all would be greatSeptember 3, 2020 at 6:47 am #366038
What is fake news ? …… other people’s truths that you can’t acceptAugust 24, 2020 at 7:28 am #365415
How do we know what is really true ?