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Thanks for all of the good advice! Where I said i had only flirted with like 3 guys, and that it didn’t go so well. Nothing intimate really happened, just kind of goofing off, just like flirting when talking. One of them was this constant on and off thing but i see it as toxic and want better for myself. The other guy was this guy that I didn’t really have interest in but he had interest in me. Then guy 3 was kind of like this person i was always annoyed by since 6th grade, it was playful teasing, then last year i switched into his class he and i immediately connected and it was crazy we couldn’t stop texting and then the first guy kinda barged his way into my life and i lost touch with 3. This all happened last year but, I guess Im at this point where I don’t get any action. Like it seems like everytime theres a guy in my life theres a problem. Nothing seems to go right, so right now I guess im feeling kinda screwed over by love, lol. And i know, i dont want to force my way into some guy. I guess im wondering why i attract bad situations with guys, and how to put myself out there? How to flirt and not seem utterly ridiculous?
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I think you made the right call. Shes now in a peaceful state and she can relax. She was in pain from what you described. If the vet followed up with your call to put her down, then that means they agreed too. Don’t think of it in a bad way, the only thing you can do now is moving forward, and carry her in your heart from now on. Dogs are very loyal, and she will always be yours. Maybe in the future, you can get a dog from a shelter that you can comfort and take care of in honor of your recently lost dog. Hope this helps, and I understand the pain of losing a dog. You just have to pick yourself up and keep going, because that’s what they loved seeing you do every day!
I’m well aware that people go through much harder things than me. Just reading some of the titles of some of these forums makes it seem like my problems are the equivalent to a bruised banana. But i just seem to fake moving past things i can’t seem to shake these things. They all have a toll on my life. They’re holding me back and I’m a pretty happy person but when I’m up late or by myself i just can’t help but think about these things and feel sad about my parents and their relationships, letting a new boyfriend or girlfriend of theirs in and them being there and then 5 months later not. Or my cousin, I can’t even talk about him, i just cry, it just devastates me. Or just like with this guy that ive always been drawn to even though the ass grabbing should’ve been a red flag. Just recently my dad was arrested for a DUI. i mean im not mad at him, i kinda make fun of it with him. But i mean all this happens to me and i just get overwhelmed. My friends and i have a group chat, in the past ive tried to consult them about stuff because im a social and open person, and all i wanted was advice or someone to listen to, in the end, i was just called an attention wh*re. So this guy Tom who ive just always been drawn to was like the only guy ive liked for the most part, and he was like the only one who listened to me and given me advice. It’s hard to try and let him go. I don’t and won’t trust my main friends because they just seem to be drifting apart. This guy tom is the only one ive been 100% open with, i told him about the dui, my cousin, how i feel about everything, even my mom trying to IVF with her now ex-boyfriend, ive just told him a lot. And its like thats why i didnt feel as violated as i probably should’ve felt last year. i just cling on to things. i feel overwhelmed for a 16 year old to go through these things. i just want to be clear im not contemplating suicide, and never will. as i said i am a social butterfly and a generally happy person. i just feel overwhelmed with no one to talk to so im happy i found this place.
How should I move on from him? Sometimes I worry I should keep him around because he knows everything about me that I’ve never told anyone. I’m paranoid he’ll tell people. But he’s such a sweetheart, and we were such good friends, every time I’m not around/ friends with him I can’t help but miss him. He helped me when my house flooded, like who does that? Its gonna suck, but like what did the rose mean? does he miss me, was he messing with me? Just that night he threw me the rose, it brought back feelings I spent months forgetting.
Yea that’s a really good point. Wow, thank you so much.
Ugh, THANK YOU. ok, this is just what I needed to read. I’m honestly kind of mad because it is like why do u give someone a rose and not act on it? We have history and stuff together, so I’m kinda pissed. Like if he would have done something to make it clear what his intentions were I would be more enthusiastic to deal with this. It just threw me off quite a bit… I think its just one of those things where I just need to date myself for a while. It just gets kinda lonely, all of my friends are all in relationships, so I think I kinda force myself into something with him just to feel with someone, plus we were really good friends.
Thank you inky
I agree it’s just hard to let go of a first major crush..
sometimes I wish it worked out for the better, but that’s life.
Wow, I think you’re right, I am confused about what the Rose meant, I haven’t talked to him for months, but I’ve seen him around school. It’s kind of awkward, but I get through it. I mean he replied and it was a nice conversation. But like should I just get on with my life, I feel like everytime I like him, it’s for no reason. But I really just liked our friendship. I just feel like I can’t be friends with him because everytime I reconnect, I start to fall into a huge crush.
Ok so, I’m in high school and I’m really confused. So there’s this guy I liked throughout the end of 8th grade until the beginning of 10th grade, it was always on and off type of thing ig for me. He was difficult, but so was I. He like people but he was weird with relationships, he didn’t want a relationship but he wanted like a friends with benefits, sort of thing. I honestly just wanted someone there for me and like just to enjoy spending time with. I was always so freaked out and shy on dates whenever we tried that out. But like so was he, so it was really awful lol. Then there was this girl lily who was really gorgeous, and he started to get a thing for her, and like that hurt. And so one day he gets the “courage to tell me” that he liked both of us, and that he chose me. And I know like that when u like someone there shouldn’t be a choice but sometimes we just can’t help ourselves, it’s natural to like multiple people, but he shouldn’t have told me that. But at least he was honest and stuff! He was always straight up with me which I respect. I mean we were still kids and stuff so as much as I’d like to deny it, I was kinda childish, ugh 9th grade me is blah. Haha. Anyways we were close, I told him a lot of stuff I never even told my best friends or my parents. He was always one to listen. And I would’ve done the exact same for him. And did. We would text and call a lot. Some of our calls were really long, 6hrs one time. So yea we really liked eachother, I’m really confused if I loved him or not. I’m pretty sure I did at one point, but just little things kinda made it go away. Like I’d walk up to him and his friends and then he’d grab me and like touch my butt. But 9th grade me was naive. I’m pretty mad at myself taht I let that happen. I just liked him so much idk. But yea. So 10th grade me got control and had an idea of what I wanted. And just cut him off. He knew he did jerky things to me. He’s texted me “hey” a couple of times this year but it led to a short convo and that was it. So second semester me. Last night we had a concert and I kept practicing and he’d say “you got This girl” as a joke. And idk weird stuff lol. TAHTS just how he is. And kept saying hi to me. We had finished a dance show last night and I’m packing up all my costumes and all of a sudden i see this yellow rose ,that our teacher got presented, get dropped right in front of me and I’m so confused liek “was that for me?” And I’m sitting on the floor asking to my friends “did u see who threw that?” It wasn’t a rude throw like it just plopped right in front of me. So I was confused but I just packed it like “aw that was sweet”. So I go out to dinner with family and during dinner HE texts me liek “did u get the rose” and I knew it was him, deep down I knew there’s a possibility it was him. So then idk all these feelings come back. So now I’m confused ugh! Someone please help meee!! Like what should I do? I said thank you ans everything for it. Just liek I said after that we texted a little. But then he just must’ve gone to sleep. Because he never responded but didn’t leave me on read.