Dear Dana,

Thanks for sharing your story. I’m convinced this is the first step :o)

I sincerely believe that the first step to overcome a great disappointment is to let the feelings out. Speak to people and you’ll feel a lot better because all of a sudden you are putting things in perspective instead of dealing with the difficulties alone.

I’ve been through similar situations and I can emphasize how much it has helped me. Also, I’d like you to realize that you are in a great position at the moment. You have learned what you’re looking for and what you’re not looking for :o)

Write down your thoughts or talk to people you trust – I believe those are your keywords :o)

Best,
Anders Hasselstrøm
Motivational Speaker

Sometimes that is all what is needed Helen,

Thanks for contributing to the post anyway.

Best,
Anders Hasselstrøm
Motivational Speaker

Dear V,

Thanks for sharing your story. Please make it a habit to talk to people about your problems instead of internalize it. Having the possibility to say it out loud and get nurtured can take you a long way. Talking about your problems can be tough but right now you are experiencing the alternative – How does that make you feel?

If I was in your situation I would try to make a list of all the things in life I appreciate. Make a list of gratitude. Often times we are too busy telling ourselves what we are missing in our lives and forget to focus on the precious and lovely things we do have. I assume you can hear, see, run and talk? Most deaf, blind and handicapped people would almost die for those opportunities.

Make it a habit to read some positive and inspirational blogs every day. Give mine a read or find something you like. You will experience a lot of other people facing same troubles and challenges as you do today. You are the only one who decides the quality of your life. Determine that you are no longer going to drink, no longer going to be harsh on yourself and start developing healthy habits. I know it takes time and can be hard to do but look at the alternative my friend. You do not want to stay miserable like this.

If you would like me to assist you I would love to listen to your challenges and give you some guidance and opinions.

Best of luck,
Anders Hasselstrøm
http://www.andershasselstrom.com

Dear Rhett,

Thanks for sharing your story. I know exactly how you feel. I have been in the same situation many years ago. Moreover, I’m a motivational speaker focusing on students like you. I hope you can use some of the advice I’ll bring here.

I want you to know your problems are no smaller than other peoples problems. Obviously these problems are affecting your sense of happiness and should be dealt with.

Ask yourself: “Rhett, what do you want in life?” You are in the perfect situation to pursue any dream you want to pursue. You are an undergraduate student with 1000 of opportunities waiting for you. What you need to do is to make a conscious choice. Pick up a piece of paper and write down all the dreams that makes you smile.

Don’t think about your resumé, don’t think about prestige, status and money. Ask yourself: “What would I do if money was no object?” What would make you smile to do for free every day for the rest of your life? Be honest with yourself and make a choice.

Don’t settle for average my friend. Pursue your dreams! I have made a few articles on the subject if you are interested. I hope you’ll find the motivation and inspiration to follow your dreams and live the life you deserve!

Best,
Anders Hasselstrøm
Motivational Speaker
http://www.AndersHasselstrom.com

Dear Kiera,

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. You are not alone out there.

I have been a motivational speaker for a long time now and I often do motivational speaking for students at high-schools and colleges. Fact is that most students have no clue about what they want to do with their lives. Most students are dragged through college and high-school because that is what is expected. Majority of my friends trick themselves into believing that having a steady and prestigious job is their dream. You know what? They are fooling themselves! You have a dream to dance and sing? You go for it. Tell the world what you are up to and then keep pushing until you are there. Your parents did not have the same obvious opportunities we have today because it was a different time back then. I say we quit doing stuff the usual way and do it our way instead.

There is a quote saying: “Life is never easy for those who dream”. Having dreams can be a big challenge but never a burden. You are blessed to be a dreamer Kiera. You are bound to have more happiness in life than most other people but only if you have the courage to pursue those dreams. When you are 80 years old will you look back and be happy you took the easy way or started a daring adventure?

Decide what you are going to do and then make sure that every second you are awake you are pursuing that dream! Take a look at this YouTube video. It will put things in perspective: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aYrmKlAR0g0

Wish you all the best Kiera,

Best,
Anders Hasselstrøm
Motivational Speaker
http://www.AndersHasselstrom.com

Dear Grace,

First of all I’d like to thank John for contributing with valuable advice. I was going to recommend the same thing. Why don’t you join a jewelry club somewhere in your local community or put up an add in your local supermarket? I think that would be a great idea to meet like-minded people.

I have read several books about the topic as well. If you are interested in becoming super good at getting new friends, I’d recommend you to read “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. Amazing book with some points you can apply immediately.

Last but not least I would advice you to watch the movie “Yes Man” with Jim Carrey. Even though it seems like a silly advice I think you can get some awesome inspiration from it.

Best of luck,
Anders Hasselstrøm

Dear Hannah,

I’d like to start saying that this is not my field of expertise. I educate students to make better choices about their future by making conscious decisions about their lives. That being said I have a long distance relationship and it is the one of the things in this world I appreciate the most. It is all about making it work.

First of all Hannah, I’d like to say that it can be a very scary process starting college and meeting a lot of new people. I have been in the situation myself. However, remember that everyone is in the same situation. Every single one of the students are having a difficult time and most of them have the exact same thoughts as you do. Take it easy and believe deep down that everything is going to be okay. Embrace that it is an exciting time and in a year from now you will have so many new friends appreciating you for who you are. It seems like you are a little confused about all the new things happening. I would encourage you to write your thoughts on a piece of paper. It is easier to relate to the problems when they has been written down – they might not be so scary as when you keep them inside.

Regarding your boyfriend overseas I would advice you to get clear with him. You have to ask him whether he can prioritize your relationship or wants to end it. I know it can be a difficult situation but you have to remember that you are the most important person in this world. Don’t hurt yourself by staying with a boy if he is basically not interested in keeping on.

I hope it helps a bit my friend,

Best,
Anders Hasselstrøm
http://www.andershasselstrom.com