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  • February 22, 2019 at 9:11 pm in reply to: The worst has happened #281463
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    Dear sparkle

    Do you want to reconcile?

    February 22, 2019 at 9:07 pm in reply to: A disgusting joke about my boobs that my FRIEND laughed at??? #281461
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    Dear Serife,

    I can relate to you on so many levels, you don’t even know girl.

     

    The thing is, just like Joe said its hard for guys to act ‘gentleman-ly’ especially around girls they feel attracted out. And when they are with their other teenage friends, they don’t wanna be the odd one out by not laughing at indecent jokes. (your friend who laughed)

    Now I ain’t saying that you overreacted or need to “control” your emotions. It is OK when you rightfully felt hurt and dejected. I hate it when guys comment about me in that way too…it kinda breaks me. Next time, a thing like that happens I just want you to pause for a moment and breath in and out. Understand that it isn’t your fault and they are gonna say stuff no matter what we wear or do so its fine. We can’t control them. What we can control is our attitude towards the situation. As for your friend, distance yourself from him until you feel ok.

    October 20, 2018 at 11:22 pm in reply to: I felt that my inner child was distant and unwilling to talk to me. Why is that? #232325
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    Got it! Thanks Anita. Will definitely work on this 🙂

    October 19, 2018 at 7:14 pm in reply to: Boyfriend break due to his identity crisis #232073
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    Hey Vivi,

    Well that’s good to hear. Maybe he just needs some time to understand himself better then. Its up to you if you wanna wait around for him.

    October 19, 2018 at 6:51 pm in reply to: I felt that my inner child was distant and unwilling to talk to me. Why is that? #232071
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    Hey Anita!

    Haha yeah she is courageous in those intense moments. But I remember being really scared and quiet as a child. I used to feel out of place and inferior to others. I have come a long way from there but sometimes these feelings do rise up.

     

    Inner child work suggests conversing and playing with your child self so I was thinking about doing that…maybe on a weekly basis.

    October 19, 2018 at 9:35 am in reply to: Boyfriend break due to his identity crisis #231927
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    Hey Vivi,

    You said that you guys have been together for more than a year and rarely fought. To me that seems odd. Are your platonic relationships this peaceful too? Is it possible that he has been keeping stuff from you in order to avoid a fight? Have you ever felt like venting it  to him?

    September 30, 2018 at 2:25 am in reply to: Dwelling on regrets since breakup #228185
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    @Diem

    Totally agree with you. Sometimes people just don’t get along with each other. They come as a reality-check in our lives.

    September 28, 2018 at 11:54 pm in reply to: Dwelling on regrets since breakup #228051
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    Hey Notebookb6

    Its perfectly OK to regret, reflect and think about your ex after a break up. Cry if you want to, talk to a friend about it…its all part of healing.

    Nobody’s perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. Part of not making them again is forgiving yourself. Think about why you acted the way you did and write it all down. Take this time to love and understand yourself better.

     

    September 27, 2018 at 9:06 pm in reply to: The Sheer Bullshittery of Spirituality #227845
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    Dear Tannhauser,

    As far as I understand, spirituality is more about letting go of the anger, wants, being at peace with oneself and less about waiting for God to intervene or LOA. Getting upset over people who sell LOA as a scam is pointless because some people do need to turn to such idols for answers. I am glad that you don’t follow these mindlessly.
    If you can elaborate on the situation which was bothering you maybe we can talk about it. I am sure you can find other ways to solve problems without relying on anti-depressants.

    PEACE! Have a great day 🙂

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    September 22, 2018 at 1:19 am in reply to: We Imagine #226645
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    Yeah I agree, Anita. Its pretty awesome to check out your thoughtful threads as well! 🙂

    September 21, 2018 at 3:05 am in reply to: We Imagine #226561
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    Hey Anita!

    Totally get you. Rarely, we are taught to forgive ourselves and that often results in self-esteem issues later on in life.

     

    Yes, we do imagine more than necessary at times but I don’t what I would do without imagining.  It has made me have faith in a toxic person and see the light in bitter circumstances. I know it doesn’t change the reality but for a while at least, we feel at peace.

     

    We wouldn’t know harmony without tough times. Maybe it is meant to exist this way. Its bleak, but maybe we all fated to fall over and get back up again. Sometimes fragility of a happy moment is what makes it special.

    September 20, 2018 at 7:01 pm in reply to: Dealing with a Toxic Mother #226541
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    Hey Mystique!

    Sorry you had to go through all that. To some extent, I can relate to you. A lot of our problems arise when we try to change others or try to control external situations.

    Was that call from your in-laws really worth the argument you had with your mother?

    I feel that things really get easier if we act out of love and acceptance. Understandably, her actions hurt you a lot but you are really lucky that you don’t have to live with her and have a loving family of your own.

    Maybe when she is in a good mood, you can suggest therapy.  Both of you can go together, it may help your relationship.

    July 11, 2018 at 7:46 am in reply to: How do you deal with people who drive you absolutely insane? #216271
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    Glad you can relate to it, Anita 🙂

    July 9, 2018 at 12:26 pm in reply to: How do you deal with people who drive you absolutely insane? #216015
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    @MissMidnight

    I’ll try to incorporate louise Hay’s vids in my morning healing playlist. I normally listen to teal swan tho, have you heard of her?


    @Anita

    you see through everything, don’t you? xD Thing is, I have this lighthearted take on life because it helps to take off some stress. There something funny in almost every situation. Labeling it as tragic or a sad story only leads to victim mentality.

     

    We can’t control things outside ourselves. Its a fact. No matter how much we want people won’t change. I have learnt to forgive and accept them the way they are.  Anyhow, my hurt and anger is understandable. There was a time when used to mildly cut myself, thank god that didn’t last hahaha xD.  I understand the anger and am here for myself. That’s all I can do at this moment, Anita. I can’t shut them out. I can’t make them stop.

    July 7, 2018 at 6:49 pm in reply to: How do you deal with people who drive you absolutely insane? #215825
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    @Anita

    will try my best to understand this side of me 🙂

     

    @MissMidnight

    Yes, everyone thinks they are right lol. You know what, just last night my fam was trying to provoke me. And just so you know I hate arguments right before I am about to get to bed. It just messes up with my sleep. Anyhow, for a moment I really felt rage and wanted to burn down a building a something xD but then I became aware of this and relaxed. I went to talk to my little sister, smiled and massaged her feet. I swear when I went to bed it felt like I won the Olympics or something lol.

     

    Thanks for your time Miss 🙂

    P.S. going to read an article on empowering ‘should’ alternatives right now.

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