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@Jasmine-3ParticipantThanks James. Thanks for sharing your insight and turning your life around.
Hey Amy,
There were so many contradictions in your post. You sound like a very young soul 🙂
Hey, without hard work, you cant really achieve worldly success. There are a few people who are smart enough to not work hard and get away with loads of success but it is rare. There is no guarantee that smartness goes hand in hand with success.
When I feel like procrastinating nowadays, I usually ask myself as to what do I want in the end? Stress few days down the road, self loathing and self pitying that I didnt put in the effort OR at least I tried and gave it my best shot without any major expectation for a failure or success. The answer is often the latter. The trick, which has worked for me to is to set time aside for ME time and then study or work time. This way my both needs are fulfilled. I dont keep telling myself that I have to study for 3-4 days in a row to only start it at the last minute. As by doing this, I am neither living in the present moment or doing studies. By putting time aside for everything that we need and sticking to it in small chunks helps.
Concentration suffers when the mind computer is filled with unnecessary junk (most often due to procrastinating thoughts). Consider doing 10 minute meditation everyday to help with this.
So in simple terms, think of where you want to be and trace back your steps back to today with a belief that hard work put in today will yield rewards eventually. Study without expectation for a fail or success. When we are able to do this, we study better, we think better and we perform better 🙂 this is what my experience has taught me over the last few decades.
Good luck and fly high.
Jasmine
@Jasmine-3ParticipantHey Emilie
Just beautiful questions, eh !!
I first realised that something bigger was in control when oxygen or electric shock couldnt revive a man whose heart stopped beating. Who keeps the heart beating ? There has to be some form of energy, which keeps the ticker going and no one in the world has been able to restart it once it really stops. Where is that energy coming from ? God knows lol
There is no harm in asking big questions but if you dont ask the right people, you will just keep getting confused as there are billion plus explanations out there. Hey, there are so many billion people on this planet and all have their own ways of explaining their theories. Which one is true ? God knows.
I will share my perspective, which I have done many times on this forum before.
Whether there is something bigger out there or not, I wont be able to convince you about it. You need to experience the miracle of life yourself and come to your own answer and stick with it. In order to prove or disprove something, you need to experience it first hand. You are not me and I am not you.
What is our purpose ? I feel it is to learn to love unconditionally and live in the moment. When someone asked a small kid, why do dogs leave the world so quickly compared to humans ? The kid answered, “the dogs learn how to love unconditionally quickly so their purpose is served and they move on to other things in other dimensions. Humans dont learn this easy so they keep repeating their lessons and get to live longer”. When I heard this, I was just flabbergasted. It is so true though. We can learn so much from our doggie friends about love and living in the present moment.
Do what your heart says. You will only do the best for yourself at the end of the day if you dont get stuck in the rut.
Hope this helps.
Blessings,
Jasmine
@Jasmine-3ParticipantHi Dolores
Who is stopping you from having happiness and living a life of happiness ? What have you done that you dont deserve happiness ? Even criminals dont feel this way. Whats with yah lady ?
Take a chill pill and see some beauty around you. Once this moment is gone, it aint coming back. You can either choose to live life of regrets or you can turn your life around for the better. No one is responsible for the state you are in except for yourself. Take some personal responsibility and move forward with your head held high up.
You are worth so much more lady. Wake up !!!!
Sending you loads of positive energy,
Jasmine
@Jasmine-3ParticipantHi Karen
I am sorry that you find yourself in this state. Inky is spot on again with her observations.
Learn the lesson and move forward with pride.
Inkyyyyyyyyy, who are you woman ? Your posts always put a huge smile on my face. Thankkkkkk youuuuuuuu sooooooo much. You are a gem.
Jasmine
@Jasmine-3ParticipantThanks Inky. Perfecto advice.
Hey Anei, hang in there lady. Some people are not worth wasting your time on.
Best wishes,
J
@Jasmine-3ParticipantThat’s ok Alpal. Another option is Chinese acupuncture in good hands. Some of the Chinese acupuncturists are excellent at balancing out organ energies and can lead to cure when other faculties have failed.
Good luck and keep in touch
Jasmine
@Jasmine-3Participantjust a clarification. No judgments, no trust issues and not putting anyone down applies to Buddha123 (YOU) as well. You cant judge yourself, you cant distrust your feelings and you cant put yourself down 🙂
@Jasmine-3ParticipantYeah, I understand Buddha123. Why would you be doing such things if you didn’t long for his love ? But again, it aint helping anything. He doesn’t appreciate you so why long for such a person’s love ?
So what if you are 32 ? Hey, finding a romantic relationship has nothing to do with age. Learn the lessons that this ex-relationship is trying to teach you and I am pretty sure that it wont be hard finding a nice bloke who will appreciate you when you meet him.
Most people in this world get along with people who let them be them. No judgments, no trust issues and not putting anyone down. If you can do that, you shouldn’t have a hard time finding a good match.
Good luck. Give yourself a chance, please 🙂 You are worth so much more.
@Jasmine-3ParticipantNo worries Buddha123.
People can do what they want and how they want and when they want. That’s not the issue here though. You are confusing your own boundaries with others.
When you are hungry, do you look for validation from others to feed yourself or satisfy your hunger ? NO, right. Then, why is it that you are letting another person determine your happiness and peace in this world ?
He can do whatever he wants to do. What do you want ? Do you want peace and happiness or do you want confusion, anger and guilt ?
Decision is in your hands. If you decide to choose happiness and peace, then you need to move on from this gentleman and pay more attention to yourself and your needs. You cant let anyone just barge into your life whenever they want to. You set your boundaries clear, pls. If you choose confusion, anger and other negative emotions, then continue status quo.
Best wishes to you and I hope you will choose happiness and move forward with your head held high up.
Jasmine
@Jasmine-3ParticipantDear Buddha123
I am sorry that you find yourself in this state.
Hey life is very simple if we let things be. You should move on. If something is meant to be yours, you dont have to struggle so hard for it and if something is not meant for you, things just keep dragging on and make us angry, guilty etc.
If he was really serious about you, he would have made the effort ages ago. He has moved on and so should you. Why do guys ignore ? I personally dont feel they do. They are just different from girls. The sooner we understand this, the easier it gets for us.
All of us (men or women) only ignore people when we feel they are not adding value to our life or letting us be us. Most people do not like passive aggressive traits in their loved ones. Have you ever ignored someone who let you be you and loved you for who you are ?
As for your question re: behaving wrongly. No, you didnt. You did what you felt right at the moment. Sometimes, our emotions take over control and it is hard then to rationalise a situation.
Have faith in yourself and move on. You have a beautiful life ahead of you if you let it be.
Blessings,
Jasmine
@Jasmine-3ParticipantThanks John and Dang
Hi Bri
Thats excellent insight that you have had. Thanks for sharing 🙂
Jasmine
@Jasmine-3ParticipantThanks Tei for your post.
Hey, we can only live in the present moment. Past is gone and no one really knows the future. However, if your present is fully lived then your future has to be awesome as well as I believe positivity breeds more positivity. I think Dalai Lama believes in the same 🙂
You should go and live your life. You have got the skills that you can use in any country and in many jobs so job security shouldnt be an issue. However, if you are not fully living today then when will you live ? It seems that you dont have any dependents, which makes living your dreams a lot easier.
Happiness is a state of mind. If you are happy now with what you have, life is great. If you are not, find out whats lacking and work towards it and do help some others out on the way too. When we help others while enjoying life, others get to enjoy life too 🙂
Blessings and may you get the strength to follow your heart without any insecurities.
Jasmine
@Jasmine-3ParticipantHi Sandy
I am so sorry for your suffering.
Hey, when things are refusing to go correct or according to our plans, it often means that the time has come to Stop, Assess and come up with a new strategy or plan. Your higher self is wanting you to take a new direction in life, which is based on self-love and nurture.
What has gone in the past is gone. It aint coming back. However, if you dont make your present better then your future will suffer too. Is it worth it ?
Can I suggest the following meditation when you are feeling low ? It works subtly and all you have to do is close your eyes for 10 mins or so and listen to the sounds. Try it once a day for a week and see the difference.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b05pGueHux8
Can I also suggest that while you have got some free time now, pls use it for yourself ? Such as cooking yourself a nice meal, listening to some peppy or high energy music, watch movies on own – cry or laugh, go out with yourself for a coffee and cake, go out in the nature for a stroll, go to a puppy shop and play with some pups, go for massage, help out at the local charity shop or old folks home etc. There is so much you can do, which will make you feel better and bring you out of this dependency and negative state of mind. Please remember, what we do with our emotions and feelings is setting the path for the future. We can change our future by living in the moment and cherishing everything and everyone around us. It is all happening for our highest good but we dont have the vision to see it as yet.
Sending you loads of positive energy,
Jasmine
@Jasmine-3ParticipantThanks Bucky.
Hey Alpal
It seems your stomach problems might originiate from your childhood or teen years. When things went wrong, did you often make excuses to have stomach pain ? If yes, it may have got stuck into your subconscious. So now, when you are put into a uncomfortable position or scenario, your stomach takes over a protective role. Perhaps an overprotective role if you are wanting help for this.
I agree hypnotherapy mmight be a good option or even seeing an energy healer can do the trick in good hands.
If you believe in chakra meditation, can I suggest the following to see if it helps. It focusses on the third chakra, which is often the root cause of stomach or surrounds issues if it is pyschosomatic. Try it once a day for a week or so and see if it helps.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LtYonwC5DAI
Blessings,
Jasmine
@Jasmine-3ParticipantGood luck Bill. When the going gets tough, the tough gets going.
Jasmine
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