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Hi Zaica @Zaica

Thanks. It is good to see that you have some clarity. It shouldn’t be too difficult for you to figure things out.

All I would say is that close relationships (esp the blood relations) require a lot of love, patience and nurturing. When 2 people stay under the same roof, they are bound to have arguments, misunderstandings etc. Now it is upto you as to how you wish to operate in life.

I will share a bit of how I operate. I am 36 and a DINK.

I do not live with my in laws and / or my parents. It is a decision I made a long time ago even before getting married and my husband was very much on board with my decision but I took a lot of time to explain my reasoning to him. My husband’s family all live together under one roof with other DILs and all (except for us). Everyone in the family from both ends gets along fine and has a lot of respect for each other. We have different levels of literacy amongst us all but we do not call each other names or behave in childish manner if we have misunderstandings or arguments.

My ILs and parents are always welcome to come and stay with us in our hone when and for however long they feel like. And they actually do that quite often and we all have a fabulous time.

Above didn’t happen without love, respect and nurturing. It is very easy to choose friends but when it comes to family, we don’t get a choice. This concept used to intrigue me a lot in my younger days and when I figured out that there is a very big reason for our family members to come together in a pack, my thought process changed. From, I DONT WANT YOU IN MY LIFE, changed to I NEED YOU IN MY LIFE to help me progress further in my quest.

Our family members can teach us a lot of about ourselves. They can be very good mirrors for us and help us grow in the school of life (which is my motto).

So I live and I let them live BUT with love and respect. And what do I get in return ? LOVE and RESPECT. You have a similar choice.

Stand up for what matters to you and your son’s well being. Don’t be afraid to set on a path. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you have learnt something valuable and can change your path again. Learn the lessons and move forward.

Where is the stress of jumping from a cliff ? These sort of dialogues only suit cowards. From your post, you seem like a sensible woman so behave sensibly as well.

Best wishes and may you continue to get clarity for your situation. Whatever you decide, it will be for your highest good 🙂

Jasmine

Thanks Parul

Hi Jordan @Jaigon

Your heart is obviously not in the current role.

Where do you see yourself ? Restart something which takes fancy and excites your inner being and have an awesome next 30-40 years experimenting or worry about wasting the last 7 years and continue the struggle for the next 30-40 years in fear ? Do we actually ever waste any skills in life ? Cant we use the skills we have learnt in some other novel ways ?

It is a rather simple choice but one, which requires courage. Have the courage to change as you see fit. A simple life is the ultimate life as you can go with the natural flow and really live in the moment. Who has seen tomo ? BUT BUT we also need money for our basic survival needs. If you can meet your basic needs, you are free to do anything in this world for as long as you want 🙂 It is your life to live and explore.

Blessings

Jasmine

Thanks everyone.

Hi Abraham

Hey, once you have confirmed that there is no physical cause for your symptoms, could you look into trialling chinese acupuncture ? Acupuncture can be quite therapeutic for adrenal fatigue, tiredness, hormonal imbalances, emotional stressors etc in good hands.

Are you getting enough sun ?

Hope you feel better soon.

J

Thanks Matt

heyyyyy little buddha

Yes, I have read the book. My inward journey probably started with that book. It is a phenomenal read and every time you re read it, you learn something new.

The inner peace and freedom that he describes is possible and very much attainable. A bit of work and patience – daily soaking in of positive knowledge, meditation, daily selfless service and sharing of knowledge is one way of achieving it. Inward journey is a one way street, which needs daily work.

I agree with Matt that having a teacher will help you in this journey. I have had a few in my life and now I am sticking with only one as it helps me to stay focussed on my path and avoids any confusion arising from other sources.

You are awesomeeeeee still 🙂

J

oooooppps. How could I forget to say a few things about you Inky !!! I love you 🙂 And like I have mentioned in the past, I really enjoy your practicality and how every post of yours puts an automatic smile on my face.

Smooooooooooooooooch

J

@inky

Love it. You are seriously so talented.

I will be honest with you for my part. I am not Asian but am very happy to be called one if thats how you have envisioned me 🙂

I do love my caps 🙂 It brings so much happiness in my life so to just sit there at the end of the day and enjoy a cuppa is my ultimate indulgence.

My smile is infectious and when I smile, the whole world around me smiles and giggles like mad. I dont know what is wry ? But when I am sad, I do make sure everyone is aware lol.

Yes, I am always trying to understand why people drive themselves crazy when life is so beautiful but I think I am getting a better understanding of people now. If someone wants to be happy, they will find a way to be happy. If they want to be sad and miserable, they will find a way to be that way. I have been seeing this trait in my work for years but was trying really hard to work my way around it. Finally, the penny dropped for me at TB.

After coming on tiny buddha and reading other people’s perspectives and advices, I feel like, I have grown another 100 years in the last 6 months. So much wiser and have more understanding and it is showing in my current attitude. Its all good mate !!!

I did get few visions during meditation after reading Matt’s initial work that there is more than what meets the eye but it neither a good or bad feeling. It is just a contradiction in my mind. I have come to accept it as his advices and words work a treat for us all and I always look for the best in people.

No comments about The Ruminant except that she is a fine writer and I wish I could try to be a fine writer one day as well

Big Blue – he is a balanced bloke according to me and I always appreciate his insights and learnings.

I love Al the most on this forum. His posts always always always put a huge smile on my face and I feel really nice. I have also fallen in love with Raeeka’s vibrant face. How goergeous is that woman ?

What about yourself ? Who warms your heart on this forum the most ?

Hi Rahel

This is the exact problem with accessing information on net or from people who do not have specialist qualifications to make such a diagnosis. Can you take a chill pill, pls ?

You have been through a lot in your childhood (if the story that you have shared is correct) and you probably have heaps of unresolved emotional issues from them. I doubt you were counselled then and your current state is probably a reflection of that. This doesnt give you a reason to have Bipolar disorder.

If you want to know whether you have a “psychiatric” disorder then you should seek medical or pyschiatrist advice. You should not look up on net or google things. This way you get the right advice from the right people and your mind doesnt go on a goose chase because someone gave you a list of symptoms, which may or may not match your online story.

STOP JUDGING YOURSELF SO HARD and coming up with unnecessary labels. Get on with your journey step by step, my friend. You need to move forward.

Jasmine