Forum Replies Created
Apparently a lot of engineering students end up graduating from engineering school and not pursuing a career in engineering and that is ok. My brother is an environmental engineer and he seems to like it. But it definitely helped that he had that internship with his old boss in a small company.
Bottom line is you gotta do what feels right for you. It’s ok to try stuff out and if it doesn’t resonate with you, try something else. Truthfully, no one really knows what is going to happen in the future. There is no shame in wanting to work in a grocery store or Walmart. I’ve been in nursing for a few years, and I welcome the idea of working at a retail store.
I really like what Alexey has said to you. Go out and explore! 🙂
Thank you for sharing your experiences and resources. Please keep us posted with your progress! It’ll take some time and patience, but you’ll get there. 🙂
LuciaAugust 29, 2013 at 8:20 pm in reply to: Relationship in Australia or university in France? #41418
I might be a little biased, but I really think going to Uni would really broaden your horizons and I guess life experience. I wouldn’t discount your time in Australia, but Uni is a fantastic time to meet new people, learn new things, and really grow into the person you will become. I don’t know, I usually figure if it’s meant to be it’ll happen again at another time when the timing is right. Really what it comes down to is what feels right for you?
You totally can! The people are out there. If you’ve got a passion for something…join a club/group or volunteer for that cause. Chances are you’ll find like-minded people. 🙂 It may seem lonely now, but I promise you as time goes by, you’ll have friends and possibly family who will understand/think/feel the way you do. Sometimes, you will be the first person to experience something completely out there and at other times, you may be the last. In any case, there are people out there who may have similar experiences and may even parallel your journey. You’ll meet them some day. It took me quite a few years to find my parallel buddy, now I chat with her on a regular basis.
Keep your chin up!
Now is your time to go explore! Try out different hobbies, events, meet new people. When you start doing, you kind of start feeling what resonates/feels right for you. That’s what self-discovery is all about. Trust in yourself, you’ll find your way. 🙂
I started seeing my therapist a year ago, she noticed that I wasn’t moving on with my situation. That’s when she did a depression scale on me. Based on my answers, she helped me realize that I was depressed. She told me a bit more about it and suggested starting an antidepressant. She explained to me that the medication was not the solution to my problems, but rather would be a tool to help me quiet my thoughts so that I could work through them and finding coping mechanisms. She also mentioned that I could get off of it gradually when the time was right. Fast forward to now, I’m feeling loads better and am taking the steps to ween my body off of the meds.
Sometimes, lifestyle changes might not be enough for us to help make those changes. You can look for alternative methods through a naturopath like Sapnap3 suggested. Either way, you know yourself best, so go with what you feel is right for you. Hope that helps. 🙂
My advice is to keep saying Hi and smile to every and any girl that you encounter. With practice, you’ll be more comfortable approaching a girl and start talking. Sounds like you like some confidence, so really there are no words and approach that are “right”. You’ll find the words when you get more comfortable and confident.
Well the only other part is sometimes you might get the acknowledgement and sometimes you might not. Don’t get discouraged. Just move forward. There are plenty of girls out there.
I hope that helps. 🙂
Ohhh the Highly Sensitive Person is an awesome book!!! It felt great that there was someone out there that knew what I was going through and could explain it to me. 🙂
Wow! I love how philosophical this topic is. 🙂 Life is definitely a journey. Some of us find out our “purpose” earlier than others. I’ve found that I really love helping others. I went through some tough times with my career and took some time to realize that I still really love helping others.
I think a really great way of finding what “your purpose” is, is by volunteering. You get a lot out of giving your time. I dunno…that’s just what I’ve found through experience.
I really like the advice that Danielle has given you. I would just like to add some input from my own experiences of friendships. I’ve had to part ways with a few friends within the past few months to few years. It is definitely difficult to make a choice to severe ties, but if you truly feel like it isn’t a healthy rather a toxic friendship, it’s a good time to re-examine that friendship.
Some friends come and go, some last for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Other times you can take some time away from that friend and come back again. I’ve had a few friends were I have lost touch, but recently have caught up. We just pick up where we have left off. Sometimes you might have to lean on other friends during the difficult times, especially if your friend is having a hard time themselves. Remember, you got to take care of yourself before you can take care of someone else. So your friend might be needing that time to care for herself.
Just come from a place of love and honesty. 🙂
You got to ask yourself what you really want. What makes you truly happy? It definitely takes two people to make a relationship work and no one really knows what the future holds. Something I realized after the second and last break-up with my ex, we should have started back at square one instead of jumping back into where we left off. That’s about all the advice I can give you. I think that might be the only way to know if things will be different this time around. Those are my two cents. I hope this helps even if it’s just a little bit.
I hope you find happiness in whichever direction you choose to go.
That is awesome Kristy! Not a lot of people are willing to take that first step to acknowledge and do the self-discovery. You’ve got some great insight. Keep it up! 🙂
Sorry to hear that you are going through a tough time. I agree with Matt’s response. Sounds like you are being a bit rough with yourself. Break-ups aren’t easy, not sure if this is your first, second, fifth, or x-ith. Now is your time to take care of yourself and reflect on how you want to be treated in future relationships. Take this as a learning experience, we go through different relationships and learn from each one what we like and don’t like in a partner.
I hear you on wanting answers. But in the end does it really change anything? Time to focus on yourself and surround yourself with positive people. Do things that you really enjoy. Go out and meet new people. 🙂 It will take some time and patience, but things will get better. Be your own best friend.
Hope some of this resonates with you.
Give Christine Arylo a try. She’s got a book “Madly in Love with Me”. It’s got loads of exercises on self-love. Plus you can sign up for her newsletters or check out her videos on youtube. 🙂
Wow! I have to agree with what Matt has said to you. Your friend has her own “issues” to deal with. Sometimes friendships come to an end. It’s definitely not an easy feeling, but if it isn’t working for you anymore, it’s time to let go. Unfortunately, we can’t be everything to everyone. You can only do so much to help someone else, after that it is up to them to help themselves. More importantly, you’ve got to take care of yourself.
Even though it hurts (i know from first hand experience with a friend of my own), it can be liberating to be free of a toxic relationship. Letting go of what isn’t good, opens up the opportunities for all the good things!
Definitely let her know how you feel and just move forward from there, no matter what her reaction is. There are great people out there! 🙂