Hi Eric,

It does sound like you haven’t been out in the world too long.  No one cares about your major. I’ve lived a long time and honestly, I think the last time anyone asked me what my major was, was in college.

There are plenty of idiots who have econ degrees, or “smart” degrees as you say. Means nothing.

You sound like a smart person. Stop worrying about the bs that we do in college-we all make bad choices in college–and just trust that people will think you’re smart from the things that actually matter in life – like what comes out of your mouth and how you treat people. Focus on that. And don’t look back.

Be well. Pink 🙂

Hi Felix,

I am with you. It’s horrendous. I have a bit of experience in this as I am of Iraqi descent, and many of my family had to flee when America invaded and occupied. The big difference now though is that Putin is evil. This is genocide. It’s a horror to watch.

The only advice I have is the same advice my cousin from Iraq gave me- give yourself 1 hour each day to check the news. Just one.  I find the less I consume, the less angry I am. It is difficult though.

I also pray. A lot. I pray for the Ukranian people, and for someone to do something about Putin. I envision a kind of International Police arresting Putin from his desk, as if that even exists. I pray for these organizations like NATO and the UN to  stop worrying about breaking the rules and just do something already.  We’re already in WWIII. Let’s act like it, you know?

Ugh the sadness is the worst, girl. I get it. I was sad all the time for years, and I felt bad talking to anyone about it b/c I didn’t want to burden anyone. But I came to understand that the Universe, God, whatever you want to call it, kept me away from certain people because they weren’t right for me. Meaning, there’s a purpose to all of this mess of life. And I started to see the miracle of being alive every single day–of watching children play, the leaves change, the great fortune of having a roof over my head and food to eat, since there are so many who do without. In short, gratitude – it saved me. Maybe having gratitude for all that you do have may save you too. There’s a bigger reason you are here, and maybe it has nothing to do with a relationship right now.

Hope this helps,

Pink 🙂

Hi Nycartist,

40 is such an interesting time. I definitely sensed a shift in me as I was turning 40, like “ok, I’m a boss now. Step off” lol. So I think it’s probably both you and them, honestly. And Covid definitely brought out the true nature of people, I think. You probably don’t like what you see from your friends, and are honestly wondering if you even have time for it.

I think friendships are an ebb and flow though, so I would say just accept where you guys are now. Maybe your one friend doesn’t handle adversity well–it’s not a crime, but it is really annoying especially if you’re a strong person. Don’t make excuses for her, though. Take care of your own mental space. If you want to keep your distance from her, do so. No regrets.

People say real life starts at 40. Like, you know who you are and what you’re willing to put up with. I’m not saying cut off these friendships, but just limit your time with them and see how you feel. I’m 44 now, and over the last few years I’ve had to make new friends, just so I can live authentically and peacefully. Honestly, that’s the most important thing.

Good luck!

Pink 🙂