It is what it is man. The world is messed up. What you decide to focus on though will affect your psyche. If you want to focus on the bad in the world to the point where it consumes you and you can’t fix it, then mate you need to focus on something else.

I think a lot of us are aware of what’s going on the world, such as all these things as you’ve mentioned. It’s wrong yes. But regardless, it will still occur. If you want to know more about the truth, watch films like ‘Food Inc.’. These things are eye openers for sure, but what you decide to do with the information presented to you is in your control.

Just so I won’t derail this thread, I will answer a few of those other questions in separate threads I will make!

I guess it’s all about being okay with being uncomfortable.

Get comfortable with being uncomfortable! Exactly!

Stefan,

Rock Banana hit a lot of points bang on. Mate, I’ve been seeing you post here on the forums a lot, and I’ve offered to reach out to you personally, and even given you advice in numerous threads. Some of these responders are being sympathetic and I get that. We all feel good after a little bit of reassurance by a “oh it’ll be okay” or “I know how you feel it gets better” and etc. As much as I get what they’re trying to do, that is boost your spirit, I’m going to tell you a bit differently. So I’m just going to lay it right here in front of you:

You are attracting all of the negativity that is happening in your life. Life isn’t just going to miraculously get better for you on a whim. That is not how it works. As Rock Banana said, “create the life you want to create.” One of the most common things I’ve been seeing in your posts is the amount of negative self-talk you bring upon yourself. That is not helping you get anywhere at all. If anything, it is creating the future scenarios for you as you are manifesting them. Why bring yourself down and dig a deeper hole? You need to take control of your physiology and thought processes.

Calm yourself. Practice diaphragmatic breathing. Practice mindfulness. Spend alone time with yourself in nature. Exercise. Listen to inspirational music (I can recommend you a lot!). Watch inspiring videos (I can provide links). Try new things. Break out of your comfort zone. Practice these rituals. Start journaling (very therapeutic, jot down what you are grateful for).

I can keep expanding this list, but ultimately, it comes down to you taking action. What is your motive for action? What makes you tick? Are you going to let circumstances hold you down because you are putting a bad meaning on it, or are you going to invert that meaning and act accordingly? Are you going to let life beat you down permanently?

Change isn’t going to happen over night. It takes persistence, perseverance, patience, and courage. Practice it day in and day out. Get out of your mind of negative thought and let go of thought. Remember what it was like being a baby and experiencing things for the first time as it were all new to you? Guess what, we didn’t have thought control us there, we had wonder because thought wasn’t there. Our minds were focused on our surroundings, not in our mind. The ego is so damaging, and the more you let thought control your life, the more you are stuck and confined by the walls you put up for yourself.

I can go on and on Stefan. I don’t want to see you just ending your life. You are better than that. Know that. Believe that. Manifest that. BUT. You need to take that first step and take action. And train your mind.

The next time I see you post, I want to see a changed Stefan, not a Stefan who is still talking down on himself. Because that isn’t going to get you anywhere in life.

Any further advice for when I have days where I feel a bit slack about doing anything?
Go to bed earlier the night before? Allow myself to have a day of chilling?

If you mean by “feel a bit slack” in terms of having no motivation and feeling down about yourself, the best thing I strongly recommend and urge is to try and get outside and go for a walk. Unless you’re “feeling a bit slack” in terms of having a productive day then just wanting to relax after a long day, then yeah going to bed early and recouping is a good idea. But if you’re using that “slack time” because you’re feeling depressed and have no energy, then you really need to try and get out of you head.

When you do fall into the depressive mindset, really try and focus on the triggers that set it off. What thoughts were circulating in your head when the feelings came about? Did any pressures get put onto you?

Once you have that focus on that particular trigger Stefan, apply a meaning to it. What does it mean? There is no right or wrong as it is subjective, but you need to give that focus a meaning, because the next step is asking yourself “what are you going to do about it?” This is where you need to act and take action. Because once your mindset is fixed, and you make it purposeful, then the action will unfold naturally.

Also, when you have days when you are just “not feeling it”, identify “why” you’re not feeling it. Once again, apply your focus, derive meaning from it, and act from that meaning.

I hope this helps. When you do fall into that depressed mindset, try and apply those three steps, and tell me what you got out of it.

All the best,

Spidey

Little coconut,

Keep me updated on your progress! I am glad that I was able to shift your mindset in some way. In response to your “working 9-5, feel like I should be doing…” The big thing is, don’t do things that you should be doing. Instead, do things that you want to do. Don’t do what society intends you should do; do what you think you should do. If it means taking a leave of absence from your studies, quitting your job, taking a trip, taking a small hiatus, volunteer abroad, anything!! The reason why we fall into these slums is because society as put a generic label on things such as “by this point you need to be in school, by this point you need to have a career” etc. and you know what, a lot of people fall into this trap and become the sheep; they follow the herd! One thing I suggest is don’t be like everyone else and follow others. Go down your own journey and define it yourself.

For myself, I’ve been out of high-school for 5 years now and I’m just going back full-time next year and studying what I love to do. I’ll be 24 by that point, and by the time I graduate I’ll be 28. Despite others getting their degrees much younger, it doesn’t matter! I’m doing my own thing and that’s what matters the most. Live your own life and don’t follow others based on what they’re doing. Because what they’re doing isn’t you. You are you and not them.

I have faith in you! But you need to have it in yourself first and foremost!

All the best to you, and please keep me updated with your progressions through all of it!

Spidey