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Thomas168ParticipantThe word rumination makes me think of someone who is deep in memories of negative feelings. Such thinking can only drain one of feelings and strength. Much like Cancer patients who go thru Chemo therapy. Their body has been fighting the good fight and is exhausted. Your thoughts do affect the body. The body stores that energy. But if the thoughts and feelings are in conflict then the body can be drained of energy.
I hope you are taking care of your health. Remember that one doesn’t need to feel the emotions all the time to have the emotion in their body. For example, I love my wife. But, I don’t always feel that love in my head. Then there are times when I am holding her next to me that the love surges into my body. One can not always be on the up swing. There has to be times of rest. Don’t dwell on the negative energy. Well, Sorry about my two cents. It is like my foot is attracted to my mouth.
Thomas168ParticipantPeter said, “
- language doesn’t just describe experience, it shapes it.
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This is why we sit in meditation. To quiet the mind which holds the language. This way awareness can stop identifying with the words. Often then mind will fool one by thinking I am the one who is aware of my thoughts and I am sitting here watching my breath. Already, the words have created the world. Actually shaped the experience. When one stands aware of the here and now without identifying with thoughts, one is actualizing the enlightened mind. Realization will come after many moments in such a state of awareness. That should be the experience of enlightenment. Or at least that is what I have been told. Personally, I spend much time thinking about my life and living is memories. Some memories are like dreams of a better happier time. And then there are those times I want to jump out of my skin for the memories drive me out of my normal senses. It isn’t living the life of an enlightened person. More like the daydreamer living in dreams of afternoon naps. When the eyes are opened, I can see the clouds pass by. Their shapes brings thoughts of animals and people I have met. Now, I am thinking that I really should get the stuff together to do the oil change on my car. Guess I am still waiting for a warmer day.
Thomas168ParticipantAnita,
Thanks for the reply. Umm, the finger in terms of health anxiety? Well, getting the finger in terms of health means something doesn’t like you being healthy. Nothing personal. Just bad luck. If I were to get bad news like the big C. Cancer then okay. Accept and move on .. the best I can. Don’t hate the cancer. Don’t dread the shortened lifespan. Just do what you think best with the time you have. There was a short video on Youtube which the woman was getting a speeding ticket. She didn’t care because the court date was past her expiration date. Later, she was rude to people she didn’t like. It was funny. Because people who would have been important has now become something else. And it was due to the way one looks at life, with what value.
Having anxiety in life’s situation is about how one thinks about or feels about the situation. If we give up on expectations and live in the moment then it could release some tension?? Sort of saying, Is that so?. The story of the man accused of being the father of the baby of the pregnant girl. The truth comes out after he takes care of the baby for a year. The girl and the real father of the baby want the baby back. If the man lamented his bad luck then he would suffer the incident again. Making his suffering worse. Instead did what he had to do as life presented itself.
Well, this is the way I see it. Only my opinion which doesn’t mean a whole lot. And should not be taken as advice for surely I am the one who needs advice the most. Listen and learn. Even if the words don’t make sense for now. Speaking of which, …. Looking up to the moon. Its meaning could be like religious people’s concern for getting into heaven. It is something far off. Don’t know if it is true. But, we think we can see it and reach for it. Sometimes, I wish I could dream another dream and live another life. Then, here I am again.
Thomas168ParticipantNo worries health wise. Life is to be lived not worried about. All we can do is to try. That is the strange thing about will. If we really want it then it will happen. If not then we float between here and there.
New project, yes. Want to hear more. What are we working on? For me, March means getting the tax papers together to file taxes before April 15th. When the weather is a little warmer, then oil changes for the car. Maybe repair a concrete stair or step. Maybe actually build the shed my wife wanted for the back yard. Don’t know. Depends on finances. Have had a couple of trees removed due to dangers of falling down and hitting power lines. That was a big hit in the pockets. So, slowing down projects.
On the subject of stories, short one.
There once was a philosopher and scholar who had devoted himself to the study of Zen for many years.
One day, he finally attained enlightenment.
He, then, took all of his books out into the yard and burned them all.I think the value of the books are like the finger pointing to the moon.
Got to look up to the moon and not focus on the finger.Thomas168ParticipantYeah, I was a little busy. Get a physical check up. Diabetes, high blood pressure and high cholesterol. Spoke with my doctor and got meds prescribed. Taking those meds … Well, one is giving me headaches and indigestion. I am dizzy and constantly rubbing my head. Being tired all the time. Figured I should check in here to see what is going on.
My father had a stroke a couple of years before he passed away. It really messed him up. Lost of some speech and mobility. Brain fog. I just learned about Etanercept from YouTube. URL “https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Yaaa-5NAX4”. Fascinated by how it helped so many people yet the Govt won’t .. well, you know big pharma.
I hope Alessa and Peter and Roberta are all doing well. Sorry, might have missed a few someones. I am hoping you are doing well too.
Thomas168ParticipantPeter, quote, “I’ll be away from the computer for a while”
Evil me says, when the cats away, the mice will play. Or at least have a little fun. Just joking. I am in a silly mood.
Thomas168ParticipantAnita,
Your post made me laugh at the whole situation. Sometimes we do things and it messes up. Then nothing we can do to fix it. So, all we can do is laugh. Hope you get your computer back on line soon. Haha.
Alessa,
If the post was really inappropriate then the site’s one and only moderator would have removed it. I believe she is quite artistic or has very good taste in art. Always wished I tried to be more … creative?? This is why when you said you wanted to make things for cats, it made me think you would be successful. I do not know just wishful thinking.Thomas168ParticipantHmm seems someone found my post to Alessa to be inappropriate??
Thomas168ParticipantI tried to include a YouTube link but it did not let it posts without being inspected. But, never know when that will happen.
Thomas168ParticipantYes, immigrating from one country to another is difficult. But, you first look for people who speak your language and see if they can help you get acclimated. Find out if there are programs for people new to the country. Find jobs and places to live. Grocery stores which sell the foods you are accustomed to. Good luck to you.
Thomas168ParticipantHow does one have a lack of emotions when one fears losing her?
Sorry, it doesn’t make sense to me. To me, it just seems that you isolated yourself from your feelings.
They are there. They are just behind a wall or something??
I mean you feel something for her or otherwise you wouldn’t fear losing her?Please don’t let me interrupt.
Thomas168ParticipantAlessa,
I am not saying to not buy a stud finder. Just that I have bought a few and they did not work for me. You might have better luck than me. However, I now use the magnet method because it works for me. Also, here we frame 16 inches on center. So if we can find one stud then the next one is 16 inches apart. Don’t know the framing rules in UK. Induction cooker. We had a portable one.
On brother in law’s house, we tore down his back screen porch and rebuilt an enclosed porched. I learned about the framing and rules thru You Tube and some background research. Got permits and inspections along the way. Ledger board bolted into house. Cement posts to support the corners. Built the deck floor and then the walls went up. Windows. Roof was not at the same angle. So had to do a low slope roofing. Came out nice. Toughest part was tying it to the house. Roof rafters and roof covering. Could not use shingles. Spent close to … but not my money. I just helped to make sure it followed code. And did not leak.
Oh, if you are thinking of putting shelving as a cat walk then there is going to be a temptation to put things on those shelves. Just a thought.
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Alessa,
I have found stud finders to be … not useful. have bought 3 different kinds and it did not work well. Ended up tossing them out. And the last one was not cheap. Thinking was maybe a more expensive one would work better. It didn’t. Speaking of broken things. Hob on the cooker? English between US and UK have some differences. UK uses spanner and US uses wrench, Torch and flashlight. So, what is cooker? Is that the stove or cooktop? The infinity switch on my electric stove have broken and the temp is not adjustable. It just turns hot to the hottest setting only. I have bought the replacement switch and changed it. Two of them went out. Replaced both. Then two weeks later, one broke again. Of course, the heating element also broke too. That affects the light that indicates the stove top is hot. My stove top is again acting up. I told my wife better to just get a new stove top. This time just the stove top and not one with an oven. I do most of my baking with the toaster oven.
I don’t have a work bench. I just use a small table downstairs in the basement. But, I do have a vise mounted onto the table. The table is mounted to the wall. I keep my junk on it. Extra parts for electrical, switches, wires, outlets etc. Also, parts for plumbing. Love sharkbite products but am learning to solder. Also lots of tools for working on the car.
Wishing you luck with the cooker. For finding studs, I use a strong magnet and wave it around looking for the screw that holds the plaster board against the wall. Don’t know how it is done in UK?
Thomas168ParticipantIs it this watcher or awareness that survives death? I mean the memories and character of this person may pass with the body but the awareness survives and goes on to the next incarnation?? Can I find this awareness inside of myself? Identify it? Experience it? Music has always been there. It touches another part of a person somewhere near the heart. I don’t wish to derail Peter’s thread. So, let us go back to prison house of language. Wow, that sounded funny.
Thomas168ParticipantSorry, I am just trying to let the song pass on its own. Last night was the first time the sounds in my head went quiet. I know the songs were driven by my own mind. Feelings that linger long after they are felt. Guess that is why most songs are about love. Anyway, the person watching this life is the same at 16 as at 60+. That hasn’t changed but the husk or shell has changed and renewed itself many times. So, what is it that I sit and practice quieting the mind? Sometimes the noise doesn’t want to relax and go. So, then I ask what am I? Not so much as a question to be answered rather as a way to see what am I really. That never disappeared. I am looking to rediscover it. To dwell inside the awareness of the watcher.
Ah, but life doesn’t stop. So, we trudge along and live the lives that make us who we are outside. I might turn into an grumpy old man. But, for now, got a wife and daughter to take care of. I don’t think my daughter will ever leave our house. I have got to think about setting up a trust to leave the house to her. Damn, the senior property tax discount might not apply?? Will need to talk to a lawyer. Hate that idea. Getting old and cynical.
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