You are right. Will keep talking to her. I have gone into relationships at times without taking the time to fully evaluate: that can lead to serious problems. There are times when I am glad to have never been physically intimate and all the complications it brings.

Heck, I have gone this long without a relationship, taking the time to learn more won’t be the end of the world.

Wouldn’t it be great if there were signs floating over everybody’s head that said yes/no? Maybe it does exist in some fashion and I am blind to it.

Ran into her again. She was really happy to see me. I talked with her about her daughter. Trying to show that I actually do have a caring side under the thick armour.

She was really, really happy to see me. Perhaps maybe she is waiting for the paperwork to get filed and done. Walked with her over to a meeting. Noticed how cute she is :).

It was strange. For that brief period of time, it didn’t matter that she is about a foot shorter than I am, that she has a child, or that she appears to have made a relationship mistake. It felt good walking down the street next to her and talking. I just don’t want to be in the same situation as with the previous woman.

I also don’t want to do anything that would jeopardize her position in finalizing the end of her prior relationship. Hopefully that will get taken care of fairly soon.

I could definitely ease her financial worries, etc., but don’t want to be seen simply as a cash cow. However, I don’t think she knows my finances, she could look up my salary if she wanted though.

Would mean a lot though to have a relationship with somebody as happy to see me as I am happy to see her. Unless there is some horrible secret hiding there, I could see her as being someone I could share the rest of my life with.

The evaluation thing is where I seem to have issues along with trying to stay optimistic. Hard to tell if I make bad evaluations or kill things later. This isn’t like zeroing in a rifle. How do you separate out bad selection from killing off something later?

Was this last woman a bad choice maybe? Did I kill it by forgetting that she had a child at one point or being wrong with the time initially? Did she give up due to my schedule? Is she just waiting for the paperwork to be filed, and maybe there is nothing wrong? Based on my last discussion, is she unhappy about being out here and may go back home? Does she feel guilty/bad about unloading some of her story on me, because she was apologizing about it the first time?

It is hard to know what to fix/adjust without knowing how one got to a situation.

I tried being optimistic, letting her talk about things, etc., and nada. While I am not as smitten by her as I was the other one, I see long term relationship potential if she were interested. I really think that she has a lot of good qualities. I would be very happy if she wanted to go out, but can understand with the pending divorce thing, might look bad.

Of course, I don’t know the specifics of the break up either, so maybe I am being an idiot.

Will respond to the other post when I have more time later tonight. I hope she didn’t pick up on he no component. Wonder if showing additional interest would help.

Couldn’t locate her today. Will try tomorrow. guess these issues may be the product of my conflicted mind. Need to silence the part of me that says no to relationships. What’s the old line about a house divided against itself cannot stand?

Anita, I am sorry, you are right. I had been responding without responding to your posts. I went back and re-read the thread.

You had asked if I was going to stay awake or go back to sleep. My objective is to stay awake. I have slipped a couple of times, especially when feeling overwhelmed.

With the new woman, I will locate her next week and talk.

You had asked what I meant by improving presentation. Lots of aspects to that. When I first started out here, I was impeccably dressed and even found an hour to hour and a half to hit the gym most days. As time went by, along with feelings of depression, I spent less time working out to the point of zero time, and became less picky about my appearance. Also working on improving my verbal and non-verbal communications.

Grabbing some sleep.