If You Don’t Know What You Want
How to Make the Most of Our Time with the People We Love
“Enjoy the little things in life, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” ~Robert Brault
With only a few more months until my son leaves for college, I am a mindfulness teacher wrestling with my own heart and mind.
While avoiding the frequent mom conversations about “empty nesting,” I’m struggling to admit that my last child leaving home may be harder than I thought. Ironic, since working skillfully with difficult emotions is exactly what I teach.
Every school event I attend feels like a heavy, steady march toward graduation day. Yesterday in the …
Trichotillomania to Triumph: How I Found Acceptance and Freedom
“Your either like me or you don’t. It took me twenty-something years to learn how to love myself. I don’t have that kinda time to convince somebody else.” ~Daniel Franzese
Everyone has a bad habit or two, right? Whether it’s a major vice or a minor annoyance, we all feel the discomfort of at least some behaviors we would rather not have.
You know, like nail biting, hair twirling, procrastination, having a car that doubles as a convenient trash receptacle…
I’ve been guilty of all the above at one point or another in my life, but the one that has …
Why Holding Space Is Better Than Gripping for Control
“Anything you can’t control is teaching you how to to let go.” ~Unknown
There’s a story I read to my children, an old piece of African folklore. In the tale, a clever jackal outwits a mighty lion by convincing him that the rock ledge above them is about to collapse. The lion, believing the jackal’s warning, uses all his strength to push up against the rock, holding it in place.
The jackal promises to return with a branch to support the ledge, but instead, he makes his escape. Hours later, exhausted, the lion finally collapses, throwing his paws over his …
The Power of Finding Love Without a “How To” Formula
“Know all the theories, master all the techniques, but as you touch a human soul ,be just another human soul.” ~Carl Jung
For years, I poured myself into learning about love, relationships, and personal growth. I read every book I could get my hands on, signed up for countless classes, and surrounded myself with affirmations, tools, and techniques that promised me the keys to love. I was on a mission, convinced that with enough knowledge, I could finally unlock the door to a successful, fulfilling relationship.
But no matter how much I learned, how much I transformed my
What Happened When I Went Off the Social Media Grid
“Remember, being happy doesn’t mean you have it all. It simply means you’re thankful for all you have.” ~Unknown
It was 3 a.m. when I realized I was the only person not in St. Barts. At least that’s what it felt like on Instagram, even though I know it wasn’t true. I wasn’t the only person not dancing on tables to a saxophone in the Caribbean. My fiancé was asleep right next to me.
For the next three hours, I continued down the rabbit hole.
Three hostages were released. Trump did more things to avoid bringing up at dinner parties, …
The Power of Silence and How to Really Listen
“The silence between the notes is as important as the notes themselves.” ~Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart
When I was younger, I thought knowledge was something you could capture—something you could write down, measure, and prove. I believed that to understand something, I had to explain it. And for a long time, I tried.
But then, life—through film, through music, through long conversations with people whose wisdom couldn’t be found in books—taught me something else: the most powerful truths don’t always come in words. They exist in the space between them.
I learned this lesson in the mountains, where the sky stretches …
The Greatest Transformations Often Emerge from Hardship
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” ~Viktor Frankl
Life has moments that completely reshape us, often without our consent or preparation. Trauma, loss, and grief—they don’t wait until we feel ready to handle them. Instead, they arrive unexpectedly, pinning us against the wall and demanding transformation.
What began as a day like most training days, fueled by focus and determination, unraveled into an unimaginable traumatic event, one that shattered the life I had known.
Prior to that moment, as a fitness trainer by profession, my world was defined by …
Discovering I Lived in Fear, Thinking It Was Love
“Fear is the opposite of love. Love is the absence of fear. Whatever you do out of fear will create more fear. Whatever you do out of love will create more love.” ~Osho
I did not realize I was driven by fear for most of my life.
I thought I was making choices from love by being good, responsible, kind, and successful. Looking back, I see how much of my life was organized around keeping myself safe, and that came from a place of fear.
From the outside, I looked successful, practical, and just fantastic at adult life. In the …
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