Posts tagged with “wisdom”
Why I’m Broke, Single, and Happier Than Ever (and How You Can Be Happier Too)
“You must make your dream a priority in order for it to become your life.” ~Bob Proctor.
I am sitting in the courtyard of the little place I’ve just moved into, an old washhouse separate from a beautiful big Victorian house, by the coast in Cornwall.
The washhouse is no bigger than a shed; it consists of a living space and a wet room.
I sleep on a day bed, which doubles as my sofa. My neat, compact kitchen is approximately two steps from my bed/sofa, and the wet room houses a shower, toilet, and sink.
I’m thirty-two, and I …
4 Steps to Let Go of Stress, Negativity, and Emotional Pain
“It’s not the bite of the snake that kills you, it’s the poison left behind.” ~Tom Callos
Have you ever taken it to heart when someone said or did something mean to you? The likely answer is yes; most people have experienced negativity from another person—and it hurts.
But why did you take it personally? Because, like all of us, you want love. And we often assume when someone is mean to us that it means that we are unlovable.
Now, when a person is mean to me, I choose not to accept what they are offering. Also, I recognize …
Why We Put Ourselves Last and Why Self-Care Should Be a Priority
“Be there for others, but never leave yourself behind.” ~Dodinsky
Sometimes, when we’re feeling stressed and running around taking care of everybody else, the healthiest thing we can do is to stop and consider how we can take care of ourselves.
While this seems obvious to some people, many of us struggle with the idea of putting ourselves first. We were raised to think we should always put others before ourselves and ignore our own needs—that it is somehow arrogant or self-centered, and not a nice thing to do.
So why is self-care not held in high regard as the …
Why We Should Stop Trying to “Fix” Other People’s Pain
“There is such a deeply rooted belief that we must do something with intense surges of feeling and emotion as they wash through: understand them, determine their cause, link them to some life circumstance or person, transform them, transmute them, or even ‘heal’ them.” ~Matt Licata
A few years ago, when I first started working for my current organization, one of my colleagues asked me what role I would most enjoy on the team.
I quickly said, “I like making things happen.”
That was so clear to me—I’m a natural do-er, organizer, and planner. It’s easy for me …
The Art of Conversation: Stop Zoning Out and Waiting to Talk
“Let us make a special effort to stop communicating with each other, so we can have some conversation.” ~Mark Twain
Some of the most memorable experiences in our lives revolve around the conversations we have with others.
Talking to your grandparents about what life was like for them when they were young.
Kind words of encouragement from a teacher or mentor.
A romantic conversation in front of a fireplace with your soul mate.
Listening to the last words of someone on their deathbed.
However, sometimes we can become so pressured to talk, to sell ourselves, or can become so …
Why We Don’t Need to Worry About What’s Missing in Our Lives
“Don’t compare your struggles to anyone else’s. Don’t get discouraged by the success of others. Make your own path and never give up.” ~Unknown
My recent breakup was the most painful experience of my life. More painful maybe than it should have been, as it came at a time when a lot of things weren’t going as I hoped they would.
The road to healing seemed so much steeper and longer when all of these things also needed to be ‘fixed.’
As I approached my thirtieth birthday, I found myself back living at home with my parents and at a …
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