Posts tagged with “wisdom”
What Helped Me the Most When I Thought My Life Was Over
“What I’m looking for is not out there, it is in me.” ~Helen Keller
I used to think that life should be easy, and if it wasn’t easy, then I was doing it wrong.
I’m older and wiser now, and I’ve learned that if it is hard, that means I am probably doing something right.
I had a good childhood. I had a loving family, plenty of opportunity, and I excelled at whatever I put my mind to. But I was a high-anxiety kid, and a relentless perfectionist. As I grew older, that need to have everything flawless impeded my …
Why Long-Term Love Feels Boring and Why It’s Actually Not
“It’s not the events of our lives that shape us, but our beliefs as to what those events mean.” ~Tony Robbins
BEEP! BEEP! BEEP!
The sound of my fiancé’s alarm went off at 5:00 in the morning. I had fallen asleep around 2am after scrolling for hours on Instagram and Pinterest.
Frustrated, I rolled into my pillow as he leaned over to give me a kiss on the forehead.
I grimaced.
Why does he always have to kiss me every morning when I’m tired.
Resentment is an odd feeling.
“Here we go again,” I thought to myself, “another boring Monday …
How Marijuana Was Great for My Anxiety and Why I Stopped Using It
“When solving problems, dig at the root instead of just hacking at the leaves.” ~Anthony J. D’Angelo
This is an account of my experience using marijuana as a device to help my anxiety, why I’m glad I had it, and why I no longer need it.
This story isn’t an advocation for or against smoking pot. It’s a story to shed some insight into how and why it helped certain ailments and my journey to lasting change without it.
How Smoking Pot Helped My Anxiety
For most of my life I was a closet anxiety sufferer.
That’s mostly because …
Healing PTSD One Breath and One Day at a Time
“Recovering from PTSD is being fragile and strong at the same time. It’s a beautiful medley of constantly being broken down and pieced together. I am a painting almost done to completion, beautiful but not quite complete.” ~Kate J. Tate
I never considered myself as a trauma survivor.
I didn’t think I had something as severe as PTSD. I reserved that diagnosis to those who suffered from things far worse than me.
It felt dramatic and attention-seeking to label myself as a “trauma survivor.”
First of all, what is trauma? The term tends to be loosely thrown around, and …
How to Set Difficult Boundaries in a Compassionate Way
“We can say what we need to say. We can gently, but assertively, speak our mind. We do not need to be judgmental, tactless, blaming, or cruel when we speak our thoughts.” ~Melody Beattie
When I first learned about the concept of boundaries, I imagined how freeing it would feel to finally be able to say an empowered “no” at every turn. I imagined myself turning down drinks from leering strangers at bars, denying eager clipboard-carriers’ requests for money, and rejecting requests to do more than my fair share of work projects.
“‘No’ is a complete sentence” would be …
How Resentment Affects Your Health and How to Forgive
“If one by one we counted people out for the least sin, it wouldn’t take us long to get so we had no one left to live with. For to be social is to be forgiving.” ~Robert Frost
There are two things that may come to mind when you think about forgiveness.
The many spiritual healers and gurus that talk about its importance, including but not limited to Buddha quotes.
And the person you think you will never forgive.
Forgiveness has a largely religious or spiritual connotation.
In Buddhist teachings, grudges are likened to holding onto hot coal, …
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