Dear Anita:

Thank you I hope so. I do the farm work- on weekends my parents now the grass and such. The only reason we live on a farm is because I really wanted to. We don’t have crops or anything- just my cows. I make a bit of income from milk. I enjoy this greatly though. The work is very enjoyable for me.

sincerely, Lea

Dear Anita:

that is partly correct. My parents didn’t like the city and my dad wanted to have a garden and a big shop. In terms of ‘farm work’ that is all me. They never wanted animals of any kind. They love the dogs now but the cows- they support- but they aren’t interested in them. If I wanted to go on a trip or something my dad would feed my cows for me. But I do the work.

lea

Dear Lea:

Regarding your mother and 12-year old sister: “My mom had a meltdown because my sister screamed at her in her face and called her names. Then my mom complained to me about how she was abused by my sister… I think everyone in my house has a personality disorder. I think my mom has borderline… my mom always makes comments like ‘Everyone in this house is so selfish, but’s that’s kay, that’s why I’m here’. She’s the type f person who cannot have any sort of conflict in her family or she snaps and has a tantrum all day” (June 3)…  “My mom has no boundaries and (she) gives and gives and gives and gives and then resents others when she is exhausted from giving, She plays victim… She feels she doesn’t deserve good things” (June 9)…. “She is verry intelligent… She is very emotionally intelligent” (June 10).

I am experiencing a cognitive dissonance headache, Lea.

anita

Dear Anita:

my correction:

Ive never asked her honestly though I would assume she assumes herself to be in the not stupid half. I (if this did exist) would consider her very intelligent (not stupid). She is highly educated, (medicine) used to work on vaccine development for highly contagious diseases for almost 15 years (she did not work on the COVID vaccine) . she is very intelligent as she used also teach university chemistry at one point (she has her phd) . My dad I don’t think I mentioned is an aerospace engineer (also phd) So both of my parents are highly educated. This is in regard to COVID- since my mom is very familiar with vaccines- she believes COVID could be gone if everyone did their part and got vaccinated. I believe that COVID could be gone- but there’s nothing I or her could do about it and she cannot control other people and their decisions. calling them names and stupid doesn’t help the situation in my opinion.

once again I’m so sorry!
sincerely, Lea

Dear anita:

I know multitasking was a bad idea. I will write to you then. I hope you have a really good week and weekend. Sending best wishes.

sincerely Lea

Dear Lea:

I spent a lot of time studying our May 6, 2022- June 10, 2022 extensive, quality communication this Saturday morning. I think that there’re lots of good things in it and I highly recommend that you review and record parts of our massive communication- sometime, when you have the time and patience, so that it is not lost to you.

I believe that it is best for me and for you to end our valuable communication today because I have already offered you all the insights and suggestions I have for you, and there is nothing more that I can offer you. My purpose in these forums is to learn and to encourage learning, and I believe that in the communication with you I have done both to the best of my ability and there is nothing more.

I wish that you make a friend, then a few, and grow to have meaningful, honest and rewarding friendships and relationships with people you are yet to meet. Best wishes to you!

anita

You are welcome, Byelea aka Leaagain aka Lea. Keep getting better and better, good night.

anita