Hey Alessa
I guess it could have been because of tourette’s yeah. She did calm down once left alone but still.

Anita
How does empathy for yourself feel like? I wonder..

I feel innocence and being carefree from future struggles, freedom in a way.
I would tell him to slow down and put himself first probably.

Hey Confused:

“How does empathy for yourself feel like? I wonder..”- same as empathy for another person, only it’s directed to yourself.

Or here’s another answer (it may or may not work for you), you wrote earlier about your mother: “To be fair, she would call me nice words, expressing her love to me, hug me, kiss me as well, it wasn’t always fighting and negatives, a mix of everything really.”-

Continue the positive work in the mix, say nice words to yourself, express your love to you, and discontinue the negative part (no more fighting within, if there is any, apply calm and patience to yourself.

“I feel innocence and being carefree from future struggles, freedom in a way.”- can you elaborate on this?

“I would tell him to slow down and put himself first probably.”- Yes, tell him that every day 🤍

🤍 Anita

Hey Dear Confused:

There is a saying: “Fake it till you make it”, meaning here, ACT lovingly towards yourself when you don’t feel it. Some say, you will.

💙🩵💗🩵💙 ..Love by action…

Anita

I am using my phone, can hardly see, and clicked a red heart emoji by mistake (don’t do reds)

Did you consider anti depressants?

Gear Confused:

Yes, not the right time for a Goals Discussion. Seems like she is not attuned to you, like she doesn’t know where you’re at.

What is her goal in having such a conversation?

Yeah its all good dont worry 🙂

The truth is, ive told her that right now my feelings are very dimmed down, didnt tell her about the possible deactivation.
She said “after some things you said up close, i got the idea that u dont really wanna do things in your life, and i definitely want to do things, so i would like to see if this can work on that matter”. I already told her that this version of me is not the normal one, i usually am a very fun person to be around, with plenty of interests and she said “ofc, i take that into consideration, but i would like to discuss those concerns with you”. I think she is just living in the future once more, worrying about things that might not even happen, because she does that.
But the truth is, i really don’t have any specific plans for the future, i am just a person that likes to live every day as it happens, i enjoy trips-motorcycle-photographs-exploring new places-stargazing and i would like to build something with a girl in the future (be it house, business, family). But i dont really know if thats good or not and that triggers my fears that she is gonna leave me over that conversation.
She also wants to discuss about our vibe being “off” lately, but i can’t really tell her that my feelings are off, can i?

I have already told her many many things that might not be true (when it happened to me) because i was looking for traits and i ruined the connection, pushed her away and she got very distant, not at all affectionate like she was in the beginning. I think i shouldnt keep telling her what i find out every day because it will bring her further confusion and doubts. But i have to tell her about my feelings..