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  • January 10, 2026 at 1:15 pm #454022
    Confused
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    Ok i think i see what u mean, then yes its very likely that i do that. But yesterday something strange happened.

    We talked and argued (again), mostly about things that we dont say to each other, and for the first time i didnt compromise and was my fully authentic self, no holding back, just spitting facts and my opinions/feelings, without fearing abandonment. After we were done, i felt euphoric, like a sense that everything clicked and i was ready for anything (probably dopamine)
    I had a dream with my mother (not a bad one, just her in the dreams) and when i woke up i felt like shit, almost like the days before the shutdown, weird stomach feeling and the thought that “i dont want this girl”.

    January 10, 2026 at 4:02 pm #454023
    anita
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    Hey Confused:

    Hmm 😒 well, seems to me that it may be best at this time to take let’s say a 2-months break from her, a no- contact 2 months, let’s say and set a time to connect again. Let’s say on March 10. And No Contact no matter what until then.

    During those 2 months have a low pressure routine existence. Doing about the same things every day. Give yourself a rest.

    The “I don’t want this girl” is a powerful message. Maybe you should respect that message, at least for a good two months?

    🤔` Anita

    January 10, 2026 at 4:03 pm #454024
    anita
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    Sorry for so many “let’s say”, lol

    January 10, 2026 at 4:19 pm #454025
    Confused
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    Hey anita

    I dont think its gonna be possible, if we stay apart for that long, we might aswell end it.

    I wanna try and have this routine and trying to heal my attachment with her besides me if that’s possible. Do u think my mother appearing in my dream had a play in me feeling like this when i woke up?

    I meant it in the way it happened in the beginning, like my guts reject her, the avoidance feeling. I was thinking of ending things yesterday because she is not having a great time with me either, but none of us could do it..

    January 10, 2026 at 7:54 pm #454026
    anita
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    Hey soon 2 B Clear Confused, I hope?

    Yes. I do think your mother being in your dream had a play in you feeling like you did when you woke up.

    I don’t underestimate the power of a.. distressing, hostile mother in her boy’s or girl’s mind and life.

    Maybe ending things with her is a good idea then.

    What you need most is peace of mind.

    How about letting her go, close that chapter? I mean.. you only met her once. For overall THREE DAYS. T.H.R.E.E days only?

    🤔 Anita

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