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  • February 14, 2026 at 4:06 pm #455233
    anita
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    Well, I explained it best I could in this thread starting on page 1, and repeatedly on pages 13-44 in this thread. I can’t explain it any better or any more than I already did.

    I will not be surprised though 🙂 if you find a better explanation elsewhere, one that will resonate with you. I’m sure there are plenty of YouTubes on attachment styles, explained by psychotherapist.

    🤍 Anita

    February 14, 2026 at 4:09 pm #455234
    Confused
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    I know u did and videos dont help me at all. All i read about is fear, but wouldnt i be able to feel fear if that was the case?

    February 14, 2026 at 4:32 pm #455235
    anita
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    I got to stop trying to explain because pages 13-46 of trying resulted in a-page-46-Confused who is no less confused than page 13-Confused. Know what I mean, Confused? ☺️

    February 14, 2026 at 5:14 pm #455236
    Confused
    Participant

    Yeah i think i get it 🙂

    February 14, 2026 at 7:52 pm #455238
    anita
    Participant

    This reply has been reported for inappropriate content.

    Thank you for getting it, Confused. 🙂🙏🤍💡✨️

    February 22, 2026 at 7:40 pm #455389
    anita
    Participant

    I hope you’re okay 👍, Confused.

    ✨️🌙🤔 Anita

    February 23, 2026 at 6:52 am #455401
    Confused
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    Hello anita, i’m the same as before, just emptier and more tired.. I’ve distanced myself from too much searching (even tho i still use AI)

    I hope u’re ok too 🙂

    February 23, 2026 at 7:08 am #455402
    anita
    Participant

    Hello again, Confused 🙂. I’m okay even though I got up too early (5 am).

    I missed talking with you. I mean, I don’t want to analyze what happened or what is still happening (the dissociation, emotional shutdown, depression perhaps, whatever it is), but I missed talking with you.

    I wonder, are you still in contact with her, and any news in regard to the psychiatrist or in regard to therapy?

    🤍 Anita

    February 23, 2026 at 1:09 pm #455413
    Confused
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    Thank you 🙂

    I still go to therapist but tomorrow i will try to book with psychiatrist and tell him about anhedonia.

    We were still in contact two days ago, she admitted that the situation is stresful to her too and she needs space to focus on her studies for now, so we cut contact for now. I don’t miss her but i ruminate 24/7 about how things used to be because i miss it so much it hurts, it left a deep void in my chest and i cry a lot.
    I am completely numb to everything else tho, i just exist, getting out of bed feels difficult, finding motive/eating/listening to music feels like nothing. Two childhood friends told me some bad news about their families and i felt nothing, no sympathy whatsoever.

    February 23, 2026 at 4:48 pm #455418
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Confused:

    The 24/7 rumination brings me back to what I shared with you much earlier: that I was diagnosed with OCD and was prescribed with Zoloft (it’s the brand name of an SSRI drug, forgot the generic name) for OCD and it helped me A LOT.

    Of course, what worked for me may not work for someone else. (and I don’t know if your rumination is OCD). If you do see a psychiatrist soon, maybe explore this possibility.

    Coming to think 🤔 about it, you’re numb to life as it is (the present) but emotional over the past. So, you do feel intensely 😢 about what WAS. Numb for what IS. Did I get it right?

    🤔 Anita

    February 23, 2026 at 6:54 pm #455423
    Confused
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    I think u are right, it might be rocd, i got all the symptoms but i dont wanna self-diagnose. Ive also read about zoloft helping people, i will phone a psychiatrist tomorrow, but it’s not bad at nights idk why (probably dopamine spikes a bit). So idk, it comes and goes but when it comes it definitely does.

    Yes exactly, i am numb to the present and i cry for what was, maybe that robs me of joy.

    February 23, 2026 at 6:58 pm #455425
    Thomas168
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    Yeah, being apart hurt like hell. All one every does is spend time thinking about the other person. After a few months then time spent thinking about her will diminish. Spend less time thinking about her until you stop. Then you can go on. healing. This is why sometimes I think, the brain shuts down and stops feeling anything. I hope things get better for you.

    February 23, 2026 at 7:03 pm #455426
    anita
    Participant

    Hey 👋 Dear Confused:

    I’ll be interested to hear (read) what the psychiatrist would say in regard to ROCD and Zoloft.

    And you’re right: better to not self diagnose- that’s the job of a responsible professional.

    Numb to the present, crying for the past- it’s a trap, a prison of sorts? Imprisoned in the past?

    And breaking free from that prison would mean.. ?

    👀 Anita

    February 24, 2026 at 8:37 am #455435
    Confused
    Participant

    @Thomas
    But i am not sure if i want to stop thinking about her, she loved me the most out of any girl i’ve ever had, her heart is pure, all i want is to love her back because she deserves it.


    @anita

    I doubt he can diagnose me in the first hourly session, sadly but i hope he will.

    I don’t know, it would mean losing that part of me (and her) for good i guess?

    February 24, 2026 at 9:35 am #455438
    anita
    Participant

    Good 🌄 Confused:

    Sounds to me that you’re idealizing her (“her heart is pure”) and you’re idealizing the relationship in the past (seeing it now better than it really was).

    And part of you wants to stay there, in that idealized version of reality rather than experience real life here and now.

    What do you think, any truth to my perception this 🌄?

    👀 Anita

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