May 25, 2016 at 6:39 am #105595AnonymousGuest
I’ve been reading your posts since my last one to you and would like to clarify my position about your situation.
I like your unwavering determination. I like your eagerness to take action in aiming to achieve your goal. I also like you considering that you may fail at achieving your goal and have a plan B.
I am also thinking, maybe your life as is, living with your family in Egypt, maybe it is not a very good life and moving to another country, maybe, will give you the opportunity to make a better life for yourself, independent of your conservative family and country, where your individuality will get a huge boost. So I am thinking the actual moving away and living alone may be a good thing for you regardless of the great statistical likelihood that you and the celebrity will not get together as partners in life.
When I was in therapy I learned that one of the distorted thinking categories, called “emotional reasoning, is when we feel so strongly about something that we believe it is true. In your case, you feel so strongly about this celebrity that you believe your feeling by itself will become reality (once you are face to face with him).
Thing is, your strong feeling, as strong as it is, does not make reality happen outside your head (where the thinking takes place). Being as action oriented as you seem to be, I am sure you will show your feelings to him every opportunity you will get. Unfortunately, that is not likely to be as powerful for him as you think it will be. Feeling it, even showing it is not going to make it reality.
I wish you the best in making a better and better life for yourself.
anitaMay 25, 2016 at 7:38 am #105601
I understand it doesn’t make reality, but to me he’s like a dream, and I’m trying to achieve it, but I’m not going to be doomed if I fail, I’m going to be doomed if I don’t try and as I said before it’s the greatest pain for me to not try.
Thank you so much for wishing the best for me 🙂May 25, 2016 at 7:51 am #105603AnonymousGuest
You are welcome, tina1. Please do post anytime!
anitaMay 25, 2016 at 8:57 am #105606
thank you tina and i’ll really try my best to do better at talking to him and i really hope you achieve your goal! 🙂
anita, i read what you wrote and that also makes a lot of sense too. that feeling something intesely won’t really make it happen. i know that for sure. i guess it has to do with the “code” again. like i said in the thread i made. if something is meant to be, then it will be no matter what and now that you brought up the point with how feeling something strongly doesn’t make it true, it only makes all the more sense.May 26, 2016 at 9:42 am #105692Christopher.mParticipant
Happiness comes from within. Not from turning a mere stranger into the reason for existence in life. You’re looking for him to bring you happiness which is a recipe for disaster
You need to take him off a pedestral and focus on what makes you happy. What career do you want? Friends? Love is fickle and immensely overrated
He will be attracted to a feminine loving women wwho isnt desperate… desperation can be a turn off.May 26, 2016 at 10:00 am #105696
i was just reading your post christopher.m and i know this isn’t my thread so you’re not talking to me, but it made sense for me. but i guess i still can’t get over the fact that i want who i want. in the things you said that would make us happy, the friends part gets me just because i don’t have any, yet there are people that i want to be friends with and the person i want being one of them. i didn’t think i was desparate until i read that post and now i actually feel ridiculous, but life in all is just silly like i actually am so close to giving up on trying to be happy anymore because it’s completely stupid. i mean you could try all your life for it, but who’s to say it’ll actually happen? it’s stupid. but i don’t think love is overrated, i just think 99.9% of people are superficial about it.May 26, 2016 at 10:04 am #105697
and i guess people have different goals in life. i could honestly care less about a career. i can’t do anything i want. plus, what do you do when you get the feeling that something’s supposed to work out with something or someone. or maybe i’m just “nuts”.May 26, 2016 at 10:08 am #105698
I am not desperate, I simply want him.
Tina.May 26, 2016 at 10:17 am #105700
please don’t feel desperate if love and family is your highest value like me you will be pursuing future spouse and love with your family and fulfilment through that.
However if career is the highest value to you, you will be pursuing career and fulfillment through it, I too don’t care what kind of job I will do, I will do great in any as long as it doesn’t suck the energy out of me.
It all depends on your value hierarchy, I learned that from Anthony Robbins’s book: Awak the giant within, it’s a great book.
By the way if you want us to be friends we can be, you sound like you could be a cute little sister to me :’) I don’t know is there a private message feature in this forum? I guess there is.May 26, 2016 at 1:02 pm #105713
hopefully that’s all it is tina. like if you constantly think about someone almost all day i don’t really know what to call it. but some people would call it what we call it and then others would say it’s stupid or desparate. and then if i keep getting ignored but i still want the person it’s even more of a mystery.
and of course we could be friends! i actually don’t know if there’s a private messager on here either and i don’t use internet too much, all i really have is snapchat but probably not for too longMay 26, 2016 at 2:09 pm #105716
maybe we can chat privately on the email, my email is:
See you there 🙂
Tina.September 24, 2017 at 6:40 am #169969alex mercerParticipant
hello tina and wisdom I know this post is like a year but I would like to what happened to your dream , did u succeed? I am in a similar situation as you are in.Reply as soon as you read this.Here is my story. I really love this swedish singer who is like everything i pictured my significant other to look like. She is like a dream come true for me and she is who I believe would make me complete . I’m not gonna lie I had crushes before but this is completely different .I would do anything to be with her.She is a person who has really high dreams and became famous through an audition when was 10 years old. I don’t just love her beauty I love dedication,determination and everything about her.she reflects me very much,we both have a lot of things in common from what I know.she does a lot of travelling and It’s really hard to even see her as a normal person since she is not a normal person.The only way I see to meet her get to her level.She started working on her future since she was 8 and kept the work consistent and managed her time to be productive.I’m given only one single life therefore I’m not going to waste this life and live it to it’s fullest.The only way I can be with her is to reach her level which is going to be pretty hard but I will not give up.she will give me enough motivation to drive through the difficulties.I want to know what happened to you guys. Please let me know ASAP.January 26, 2019 at 7:32 pm #277115Mina minaParticipant
I got the same problem can I please talk to you in privateMay 3, 2019 at 7:38 am #email@example.comParticipant
Correct me if I am wrong, but the celebrity you mentioned in your last post three years ago was Kim Hyun Joong? Are you still in love with him? Did you get the chance to tell him about your feelings? Weirdest coincidence ever: I googled “what to do when you are in love with a celebrity?”, with only one person in mind (kim hyun joong), came across your interesting post and surprisingly you were talking about him only..
Would love to hear from you atleast once about the progress of your love story..
God bless you.