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  • October 4, 2026 at 4:50 am #461324
    Sleipnir
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    I’m right now listening to a staff in my home yell at a resident whose demanding orange juice despite having severe diabetes and yes I totally understand he’s out of line, but it stresses me to an extreme point?

    October 4, 2026 at 5:38 am #461325
    Roberta
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    Hi
    My grandaughter puts on her headphones when excess noise bothers her.
    In this situation is this the noise level and or the content/delivery of the speech?
    Does that member of staff often yell?

    October 4, 2026 at 5:56 am #461327
    Thomas168
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    Hello Sleipnir,

    Being bothered by this shows you have compassion. But, compassion without wisdom makes for a faulty combination.
    Can you control the behavior of others? Can you fight stupid people?
    If you want to insert yourself into their situation then that is up to you?
    If you want the yelling to stop then you can make that request?
    If the yelling bothers you then you can put on headphones?

    For me, Take a deep breath and try to mind my own business.
    Can’t make another stop the yelling or change their behavior.
    Can’t stop the other person from requesting orange juice.
    Can request for peace and quiet but that brings up another contention.
    When there is peace inside of me then I can share that peace with those around me.

    Just need the wisdom to go with the compassion to make changes in my life that bring about better life.
    Hope you can find that peace inside yourself

    Tommy

    October 4, 2026 at 7:16 am #461329
    Sleipnir
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    Being bothered by this shows you have compassion. But, compassion without wisdom makes for a faulty combination.

    Well, I am praying to my Gods for wisdom (I’m Norse Pagan) but I need to know some exercises to gain it?

    October 4, 2026 at 11:05 am #461333
    anita
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    Good Sunday morning, Sleipnir:

    It’s understandable that yelling stresses you to an extreme point. Even when it’s someone else (not you) who is yelled at, and even when it happens in a different room, the yelling still reaches you (it’s the nature of sound.. walls don’t stop it.)

    I think that yelling would stress almost everyone, but it disturbs more so people on the autistic spectrum.

    I too am stressed by loud, unwelcomed sounds although I was never diagnosed with autism. It’s like those loud sounds (like a neighbor playing loud music) is just too much for me. It disturbs me a whole lot.

    In your second post, you asked about exercises to gain wisdom. Well, wisdom has nothing to do with noise sensitivity/ sensory overload. These are neurological.

    What can help is that staff members where you live get educated about the negative effects of yelling (and other loud sounds) on residents, as well as noise canceling headphones.

    What do you think, Sleipnir?

    🤔 Anita

    October 14, 2026 at 8:14 am #461548
    Sleipnir
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    <cite> @a1b2c3d4 said:</cite>
    Good Sunday morning, Sleipnir:

    It’s understandable that yelling stresses you to an extreme point. Even when it’s someone else (not you) who is yelled at, and even when it happens in a different room, the yelling still reaches you (it’s the nature of sound.. walls don’t stop it.)

    I think that yelling would stress almost everyone, but it disturbs more so people on the autistic spectrum.

    I too am stressed by loud, unwelcomed sounds although I was never diagnosed with autism. It’s like those loud sounds (like a neighbor playing loud music) is just too much for me. It disturbs me a whole lot.

    In your second post, you asked about exercises to gain wisdom. Well, wisdom has nothing to do with noise sensitivity/ sensory overload. These are neurological.

    What can help is that staff members where you live get educated about the negative effects of yelling (and other loud sounds) on residents, as well as noise canceling headphones.

    What do you think, Sleipnir?

    🤔 Anita

    Yeah but it’s everyday with this guy and the staff.He doesn’t understand how sick he is. He also sometimes throws things at the staff or attacks them and that adds a frightening aspect to it?

    October 14, 2026 at 10:52 am #461560
    anita
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    Hi again, Sleipnir 🙂

    Yes, it is frightening, isn’t it, to hear (or see) violence, and I’m sorry that you’re exposed to it on a regular basis.

    Is there a way for you to request a relocation to a room farther away from this guy’s room?

    🤔 Anita

    October 14, 2026 at 1:29 pm #461561
    Roberta
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    Hi Slenpir

    Is where you are living a place of assisted living where the residents have different needs/ conditions?

    Is there at least one member of staff who shows kindness & patience? And or is there a member of staff who brings out the best in him?
    If so they might be the right person for you to talk to.
    Kind regards
    Roberta

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