We talked for 34 minutes, it’s going to get dark soon so I told her I am gonna let you go so you can do a little gardening work you wanted to do today but didn’t before it gets dark and you can’t.

I told her how sorry I was, she said no don’t worry about it, it’s just me being me  i’m not very good at texting or calling and she was sorry, told her no I want to appologize I dunno what I was thinking and that was a little harsh of me and said I accept your appology and we all have our insecurities including me but I accept your appology and said she likes having me as her friend. Talked about a few people at my work she dearly misses and and loves, and used to always be in touch with but havn’t since the move, told her last summer the one she loves told me she was sad when she moved away with her boyfriend, so  told her she should message them and do something with them, she said she will even if it’s a walk from a distance. She really wants to be more social, she misses it and not hanging out with anyone and really wants to start doing cardio everyday. I was inspiring her with things, sent me a video. Talked about her man and things are not all sunshine and rainbows, the wow factor has died down and it’s more them settling down with family stuff now, she wants to settle down more.

Also told me about her best friend that lives far away they recently talked, they normally talk every couple months on the  phone. It’s mostly me and her mom that talk, sometimes her daughters for a few minutes. Also other things but that’s the jist of it, told her bye and that we need to talk about the hike next month soon and she said “yeah sure”. I also told her that I try talking atleast 1 maybe 2 times a month and nothing more, I have a problem where I think I am being annoying if I call too much so I prefer it this way and that if we did talk more what would we even talk about? she said no call whenever, that she likes talking to me and she wont get annoyed if we talked more. But I am not going to, I still feel trapped talking on the phone like I am stuck in a box or something even if she does have a really nice voice.

Now it’s time to watch a few videos she text me.

Thanks for the tips, i’ll try remembering them in the moment. I guess I should change the words I w ill tell her at the hike from

“I’ll let you think about if you still want to remain friends and give you until August 1st, if I don’t hear back from you by then you wont hear from me again”

to more…

“I am gonna take some time away for a while, but if you still wanna talk and see me message me before Aug 1”. I am not going to let her respond to what I will tell her, I am not looking for an answer just a release after all these years, an answer wont mean anything to me because the past is the past and long gone and I am just living in the long gone. After that I think it’s best I let her know to not reach out to me until I reach out when I am ready.

Alright I will say that to her, was thinking of giving it until Jan at least to try and move on a little before coming back and trying to just be her friend.

No contact. I wont say no contact but I wont message her until 2021 as a mean of trying to move on, so 6 months.

Maybe I can do the things she and I have talked about that we both have been wanting to do or doing.

I’m gonna block her from my phone so she wont hear from me period until I am ready to just be friends. I’d still wanna hang out and talk on the phone obviously but I need a break from this all.

Alright, thanks for all the help and support in this thread over the years and stay safe over there. 🙂

I know you wont respond anymore but I just want to say I feel much better now that we no longer use this thread for talking about her, I think trapping myself in here made me lose it myself. We still talk and back in July when my cat was put down i delayed the time we were going to hike that mountain we been trying to do for years but never got around to do it, messaged her in late August and finally  5 days ago we went to the huge mountain for the first time and it took us an hour to go up to the very top, parts near the top we had to hold on tight or we woulda fell to our death and we yelled at the top (my idea). The next day we talked on phone for 10 minutes about how we were feeling, I wanted a really quick talk about how she was doing. She loved the hike a lot and we hugged and took off her shirt with just her bra on lol.

I had an idea I wanted to run by her, she can’t commit to seeing me monthly and that’s fine she lives far away, plus gas costs a lot and commits to her neighbour who’s now one of her best friends all the time (going for dinner, dancing, etc but she loves the company of women over men). She seems to want things to happen to her instead of her make things happen for herself which was my mistake of asking her to do this a month or 2 months from now instead of “hey, let’s do something” so I asked her an idea of mine, that I understand she lives far away and we can’t hang out very much anymore so maybe sometimes after her work shift down the street from me we can walk around the block or something, she said she would really like that. So I fixed my problem, even if it means less time seeing her but more shorter days in a year seeing her. A month ago we talked for 45 minutes, longest talk in a while.

Told her on the phone that I am going to start working on myself and in a few months we could do something, she got an annoyed voice and said for me to call her anytime I want, she really hates when I seem to mention “months”, whatever I got my own things to do and have been doing. Her guy doesn’t care we hang out, he hangs out with other women too, they are just “ok” she tells me. She pretty much always mentions her BFF next door every time we talk, never the guy.

Hope you’re doing well. 🙂 Maybe 1 day in the future i’ll update on things about her or my life or whatever. I just don’t wanna deal with keeping this thread active all the time like I used to, I do NOT miss those days of me dealing with those emotions. Too many things I wanna do instead.