Dear Lindsey:

I went back on your thread trying to find the Rules, page 41, Sept 5, restated somewhat, the Rules are:

1. Lindsey does not initiate a text to K. If he texts you, then respond to him with only one text (you don’t send a 2nd text unless he replies to the first text)

2. If K flirts with Lindsey over text/ Snapchat, if Lindsey wants to send a flirty reply back, she sends a one sentence only  flirty-reply back.

3. Of a female coworker goes to K’s desk to talk, Lindsey gets up and leaves.

4. If K is super texting one day, Lindsey does  not expect him to text or super text the following day.

5. Lindsey does not stop by K’s desk.

Will you review these Rules and edit, or suggest a deletion or an addition to the list?

anita

Dear Lindsey:

Good, “1-5 rues are good and apply”. I don’t think this proposed 6th rule should join 1-5 because it is a suggested rule for him, something like: “I K will answer Lindsey’s texted question and not ignore it”. So it can’t be your rule.

What do you do if he breaks his rule (he said okay, but he did not make it a rule for himself!)- that is when he ignores a question texted to him?

Don’t know yet. Let me know when you are testing him, and remember Rules 1-5 !

anita

Dear Lindsey;

Good to read that you are “keeping rules 1-5”.

If you are referring to you and K as a staircase where “The stairs are not stable; there are holes, hidden traps, and disappointment”, then I agree. And better not use that staircase because it will not get you Up, but Down, falling, that is.

Good comparison- relationship and a staircase. See to it that you are a solid, dependable staircase for your children; avoid getting on the unstable staircases leading to Falling (the ones with K, your ex, your mother), and hope for a future stable staircase with a man. That will  be real nice, won’t it, a solid staircase, or relationship with a man?

anita

Dear Lindsey;

That you see it as a good point, to use the staircase image for your children, what it means to me is that you are a good person and a good mother, and it makes me smile, to know that.

anita

Dear Lindsey:

Thank you Lindsey for making my day!

Interesting how you never post too many words in any one post, but you say all there is to say in a few sentences in each post. And in this one, right above- a lot of heart warming feeling received here from one short line, 13 words. I do wish you a good weekend and post anytime, always good to read from you.

anita

Dear Lindsey:

Good to read that your anxiety continues to lie dormant, that you are keeping your rules and that you feel more comfortable regarding how things are with K. I can almost smelt the fresh sweet desserts you will be baking. Your vet and his wife are lucky to have you drop those in their office.

You wrote that it was never you, being very eager “to start a serious relationship and get remarried”- you mean it was never you since you separated from your husband or before marrying him, not having been eager to have a serious relationship?

anita

Dear Lindsey:

Putting your mental health first as well as your children- that’s the same thing because your children need you healthy no less than you need yourself healthy.

What desserts will you be baking?

anita

Dear Lindsey:

Monster cookies, makes me think of cookie monster from Sesame Street… coooookies!!!

Cake flour instead of all purpose flour- thank you for the tip!

anita