If there’s anything I have learned at all, it’s to not let your insecurities get the best of you. Stop over thinking things and thinking that you’re not good enough to accomplish something because I guarantee with that mind set, you won’t. Always have the mentality that you can truly conquer anything and success will be in your future.

Sometimes people suck, and you’re not always going to hear the things you want to hear. But sometimes, people can also be truly wonderful. If you aren’t satisfied with the people in your life then let them go. If they are holding you back, or shedding any form of negativity into your life then move on without them. Letting them get to you will only lower your self esteem. At the end of the day, who cares if someone doesn’t think your extensions look good or if you prefer wearing Crocs over sandals? In most cases, they are probably just jealous you have the money to afford going to the salon and pampering yourself or being able to walk around in Crocs and own it.

Jealousy can eat you alive. Wanting something that someone else has is human nature. Use this tool to set goals for yourself. Use this tool to help yourself grow into becoming the person you want to be. Use this tool in a positive light instead of letting it bring you down as if you have no favorable qualities. Other people are jealous of you too, you know.

Love is exhilarating but also miserable, love is kind but also harsh. It is important to work on yourself in order to let someone else in. Loving yourself is the number one key in having the ability to love someone else. Don’t get all worked up if your man is talking to another girl, don’t get worked up if he checked out someone else and you totally caught him doing it, and if he doesn’t send you a “good morning” text, it doesn’t mean he isn’t thinking about you. I have found that my biggest insecurities are in my relationships. How could anyone love me? How could anyone find me more beautiful than someone else who may be thinner or have larger “physical” features than I do? Well let me let you in on a little secret: not ever man likes big boobs, not ever man likes small boobs, not every man likes skinny girls, or tall girls, or girls with long hair, or girls with short hair, or chubby girls, or blonde girls, or brunette girls. Every man is different. And every man will love you in a different way for ALL that you are nothing more and nothing less. It is okay to let your insecurities show and it is okay to be selfish in asking your man for reassurance because that is important. Sometimes we all need to be reassured that you’re still wanted and loved the same amount, or more, as day one. Your man is with you because he loves every ounce of you. He probably even loves the split ends in your hair from straightening it too much that us girls, absolutely hate.

Stop overthinking things because you think you’re not good enough. If you make plans with a friend and he/she cancels last minute, that doesn’t mean they don’t want to hangout with you or find the plans you had to be boring. They are probably just busy and need to take that time getting other things done. If you have a nice romantic weekend planned out with your man and last minute he tells you he needs to go home and get some things done before hanging out, that doesn’t mean he doesn’t care. That doesn’t mean he wants to wait it out as long as possible before he has to spend the entire weekend with you. It simply means he’s busy and before he devotes all of his time to you he needs to get things done first. So what if you’ll be seeing him later than expected or later than usual. You WILL see him. If your best friend in the whole wide world tells you they need some space and you both should stop hanging out for awhile, it doesn’t mean it’s going to be forever. It doesn’t mean you’re annoying him/her or bothering him/her. They honestly are probably just trying to save the friendship and avoid getting sick of each other too soon. It happens.

If there’s anything I have learned at all, do NOT, absolutely 100%, do NOT let your insecurities get the best of you. Love yourself, and your body and your mind. Own it.