Thank so much Anita for your response. Your advise is very helpful to me. I will try to contact him and see what happens.

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I will Anita 🙂

Anita, I followed your advice. I contacted my ex, telling him I was gonna be in his state for the holidays and he immediately told me that he misses me so much and was just waiting for the month to end so he could contacted me again (I told him not to contact me till December so I can get over him) and of course we got together and talked and got to the conclusion that we love each other’s company and our conversations but u fortunately we can’t be together but maybe one day we will be. Thing is he is texting me everyday like usual again from good morning till good night, even though we said we will take things slowly and see what happens. I’m not complaining though, I love that we’re talking again and have him in my life. I will be careful when I make a decision from now on anand pay attention to his behavior before I mamake any final decision about us. So far I’m enjoying it :). Thanks again and good luck to everyone!!

I don’t know if this will help make me feel better but i guess its worth a shot.

So i met this guy in high school (grade 10) and started dating, we had the perfect relationship but obviously trust me to be naive and not realized he had fuckboy tendencies. I tried to ignore it, had all my friends tell me to leave him and hold interventions for me coz i was being ‘blinded’ by love. We dated for about 3 years in high school and went to university still together making it 4 years, end of that year things spiraled out of control and i found out that my friends had been right all along and he had been playing me since the beginning, it became a big deal and we broke up. I dated 2 guys since that time and both relationships were great but just didn’t feel right, end of 2016 things happened that brought us close together to a point where we had to talk about the break up after many unsuccessful attempts from him to get us back together and apologize, We spoke and decided that we had never stopped loving each other and convinced each other that things would work out, beginning of this year (2017) we decide to try it out for real. I really thought i loved him like i did before, when we were together this time around it felt like the whole universe wrapped us up in all the love that’s ever existed in it, but when we were apart all i could think about was whether he’d really changed, whether he meant everything he promised me this time around, i don’t think i ever got to the point where i could trust him again, but just being around him made me so confused and everything would just seem like it was gonna be better. I told him that i wanted us to break up in February because of the way i had started feeling about him and the growing doubts about us, he was so sad and we spoke to a point where i felt like things were going to work out… lol I’m so weak… Some time passes and things are great again, but something is busy nudging me and i’m just not completely settled in the relationship, all I can think about is the fact that i don’t trust him anymore and i can’t get myself to believe anything he says… So on friday I made the decision to break up with him for good, I couldn’t explain it to him because it wasn’t the traditional break up explanation, I told him the truth about my insecurities that just didn’t want to go away, I know myself and if i had continued with the relationship, i know i would’ve ended up cheating on him and i know he doesn’t deserve that, i could hear that he was done trying to convince me that we can make it work and i know i would’ve felt the same way if i was him. I felt so terrible i even dreamt about it. Today i decided to send him a message apologizing for everything i put him through, i know i probably shouldn’t have but i did and i don’t know what i thought would happen but he sent me back a message saying i must go to hell, i never cared about him, he doesn’t hate me but himself for wasting his life and time trying to love me… I can completely understand why he said what he said about me going to hell, but people don’t heal the same way, and maybe i was in it with him this time just to spite him and hurt him the way he did to me… I don’t think i ever got over everything he put me through, but I did try to see the light at the end of this tunnel, but at some point it just faded and it was just a dark hole with no way out. Don’t get me wrong, i’m not looking for sympathy or someone to make me feel better by telling me it was the right thing to do coz i know i could’ve avoided it all from the start. Sometimes i just feel like friends get tired of hearing stories about your heartbreak from the same guy, i don’t want someone to judge me for what happened, i feel bad enough knowing that i sold him a beautiful dream, had him buy it then snatch it away again…I love him… I still believe in love and happiness though, if something is meant to work out or happen, nothing in the whole universe will stop it, maybe not now or anytime soon but the universe has its way of helping you fulfill your destiny…

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Hi everyone,

I just broke up with my boyfriend of about 2 months. Although it wasn’t as long as most of your relationships, it still hurts. I’ve known him for 3 years and we dated for the first time 3 years ago but it didn’t end up working out. It ended badly and words were said. Eventually we started talking as friends and were there for each other when we needed someone. This past summer we reconnected and it was extremely unexpected. I suffer from anxiety and depression and it has gotten worse over the past few months. Before we started dating again, I told myself that a relationship is not good for me right now. However, after we were talking and hanging out several times, I started to gain feelings for him again and gave it another shot. It felt right at the moment but then as time went on, something started to feel wrong. Although he is such a sweet guy and has been there for me through this tough time in my life, my anxiety felt like it was getting even worse and I started to question if I had made the wrong decision. I would start fights with him over something stupid and would say things I didn’t mean because of how angry I’ve been feeling and he almost broke up with me because of that. I love him and want to be with him but I had a gut feeling that was telling me that I shouldn’t be in a relationship right now. Every time I felt like I had to end it, I kept thinking about how upset he would be and would chicken out. Eventually I realized that it just had to be done because I need to focus on myself and do what’s best for me. He’s an amazing person and has treated me so well. He is extremely understanding about everything, even the break up. However, I know he is still hurting and I feel so bad. He loves me so much and so does his family, but I have to focus on my happiness and get better. I just feel like such a bad person, even though I know I’m not and many people go through this. I just hope I made the right decision and that he won’t end up hating me.

Hi, I broke up with my boyfriend over a week ago now and at the time it felt like the right thing to do. However as time’s gone by I miss him so much. He was basically my life for 2 years, my best friend and my partner in crime. We did everything together, going from that to nothing is killing me. I went out for my friends b’day a few days ago and I actually had to excuse myself from the table to cry in the toilet cubicle, because it felt wrong that I wasn’t sharing this evening with him. I feel like I have no right to feel this way because I was the one to break it off with him.

The reason I ended it was because for over a year I’d been begging him to get his life sorted. He didn’t have a job and spent his days either with me or when I was working, playing video games. I was mothering him so much, that all my friends joked that he should have got me a mothers day card! By the end my feelings of being in love were fading, I felt like I tried so hard. He also lives an hour away and doesn’t drive, so I was forever travelling up there.

However now we’ve broken up, he’s got himself a job and is learning to drive. He then begged me back, which was the hardest thing for to say no to but it unfortunately it feels too late. I love him dearly but I’m not in love with him anymore. However I can’t stop thinking about how I’ve hurt him. How I just want to hold him in my arms again and tell him everything is going to be ok. How I just want to go on another one of our drives, where no one exists but us. I just feel so lost. I’ve tried to keep busy but I just can’t. I’ve spent the last 3 days (my days off work) either lying in bed numb, whilst drifting in and out of sleep. I got up at 5pm yesterday! Or crying like I am now. I know that I can’t risk breaking his heart again, and I know I’m not in love with him, but I also know I can’t carry on like this. I honestly feel like I’m falling apart and I don’t know how to put myself back together.

I am replying to M.

I just broke up with my boyfriend. We were together for 4 years and 8 months.

At first, everything was wonderful. Then, when it became a relationship, things started to go downhill. After about two years, I started to lose feelings for him. It was a combination of things. We both had emotional, physical, financial, and mental things happen to us which caused us problems individually and as a couple.

Nevertheless, we stayed together. At the beginning, I could see a future with him but as time went on, I couldn’t. Whenever he would mention about moving in or getting married, I would feel terrified and claustrophobic. I tried to get out of seeing gim. When I did see him, I didn’t want to be intimate. I said, I love you but the feelings weren’t there.

I just broke up with him yesterday but I’m a wreck. I feel sad, guilty, regretful, and a whole mess of emotions. What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I just move in or get married like other people. Why do I feel like I do? He had his faults and so do I.

I keep wrestling with my decision. I like what Jon said about God. I try to leave it with God asking Him for His will in this situation knowing that if we are meant to be together, God will bring us back together some way.

So confused and upset right now. I could use advice, please.