“Prosperity depends more on wanting what you have than having what you want.” -Geoffrey F. Abert
No matter what you have, you can always identify something that is lacking. If you have a great relationship, you might ascertain that you’ve lost touch with a hobby you once loved. If you earn plenty of money, you can probably identify tons of people who earn more–and with less effort than you expel.… Read More
“Integrity is telling myself the truth. And honesty is telling the truth to other people.” -Spencer Johnson
Only you know if you’ve been lying to yourself. Other people may think they know what’s going on in your head and what’s right for you. But only you know what you need to do and whether or not you’re doing it.… Read More
“We work on ourselves in order to help others, but also we help others in order to work on ourselves.” ~Pema Chodron
Recently I got into a hypothetical conversation with someone who very quickly turned hostile and accusatory. Let’s call her Jane. My first instinct was to get defensive, but then I realized this subject was quite raw for Jane, and there was likely something going on below the surface.… Read More
“What you are is what you have been. What you’ll be is what you do now.” -Buddha
We all have goals–things we’d like to accomplish and ideas of who we’d like to become through the process. But sometimes we get so bogged down in fears and self-doubt that it’s hard to commit to the changes we want to create and then work toward them consistently.… Read More
“Strangers are friends you have yet to meet.” -Unknown
Since I live in LA and my family lives in Boston, I take long flights several times a year. During many of these flights, I read a book or watch a movie and disappear into my own little world of self-entertainment.
When I was returning from a recent visit, I found myself looking around at all the different people who I would likely not talk to during the flight, and then never see again.… Read More
“When you’re finished changing, you’re finished.” -Benjamin Franklin
A few years back, I reconnected with an old friend from high school. Years after we met, we both struggled with depression and dealt with messy, public recoveries.
He said that seeing me was disheartening because I seemed like an after picture, whereas he felt like he had so much more work to do.… Read More
“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” -Einstein
Sometimes it’s more effective to track your progress in mistakes than it is to track it with successes.
There are days when I have tons of mini-victories, but they’re all things I have done before and knew I could do well.… Read More
Update: The winners have been chosen! If you didn’t win, you can purchase a copy of The Book of (Even More) Awesome on Amazon.
Last year, I posted a review of The Book of Awesome, by Neil Pasricha—a compilation of blog posts from his wildly popular website, 1000 Awesome Things.… Read More
“What we see is mainly what we look for.” -Unknown
Whatever you believe about people and the world, you will likely find proof to support it.
If you look for selfishness, you’ll find it. If you look for animosity you’ll find it. If you look for injustice, you’ll find it. If you’re invested in seeing the world this way, you can probably explain a lot of what you see with negative interpretations.… Read More
“Confidence is preparation. Everything else is beyond your control.” -Richard Kline
People often think confidence means knowing you can create the outcome you desire. To some extent it does, but this idea isn’t universally true for anyone. No matter how talented, smart, or capable you are, you cannot predict or control everything that happens in your life.… Read More
“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” -Dalai Lama
I’d be happy if I had a boyfriend. I’d be happy if my boss promoted me. I’d be happy if I had a larger house. It’s not uncommon for people to make these assumptions–to believe happiness exists in some alternate reality where people and conditions are different.… Read More
“Peace of mind is not the absence of conflict from life, but the ability to cope with it.” -Unknown
There are some days when I want everything to stop.
I want the calls to stop, the emails to stop, the requests to stop, the expectations to stop, the confrontations to stop, and the struggles to stop.… Read More
Update: The winners have been chosen! If you didn’t win, you can purchase a copy of And I Shall Have Some Peace There: Trading in the Fast Lane for My Own Dirt Road on Amazon.
I recently received a copy of Margaret Roach’sbook And I Shall Have Some Peace There.… Read More
“Some people think it’s holding that makes one strong—sometimes it’s letting go.” -Unknown
Sometimes admitting that something is over can feel like defeat. After all, we hear a lot of messages that tell us to never give up–to hold on and keep fighting at all costs.
But if you’re honest with yourself, you’ll know when it’s time to move on.… Read More
“In the long run we get no more than we have been willing to risk giving.” -Sheldon Kopp
Fear tells us to hold on for dear life or else something bad might happen.
Fear tells us to cling to the people we love so that we will not lose them. Fear tells us not to share what we have or else we might not have enough.… Read More
“If you spend your whole life waiting for the storm, you’ll never enjoy the sunshine.” -Morris West
Today I watched Finding Nemo, one of my absolute favorite Disney movies. When Dory and Marlin are searching for his lost son Nemo and it seems like they’re doomed to fail, Marlin says, “I promised I’d never let anything happen to him.”
Dory responds, “Hmm.… Read More
“Never let lack of money interfere with having fun.” ~Unknown
Back when we were young, we may have asked our parents for money to do things, but more often than not, we found creative ways to have fun without spending a dime.
At least I know I did.
My cousins and I turned their bulkhead cellar doors into a slide—and the main attraction of our DIY amusement park.… Read More
“We could never learn to be brave and patient if there were only joy in the world.” -Helen Keller
This is the kind of statement that I used to find incredibly annoying. I thought it was an overly simplified way of condoning a lot of the hurtful things other people had done.… Read More
“When you are not honoring the present moment by allowing it to be, you are creating drama.” ~Eckhart Tolle
Well into my twenties, all of my friendships with women looked a lot like junior high.
One day, we’d be codependent and attached at the hip, sending incessant play-by-play emails throughout the workday like one too many notes in class.… Read More
“Doing your best means never stop trying.” -Unknown
For years, I stressed over the possibility that my best was not good enough. I realized that I couldn’t possibly do better than my best, but as a type-A overachiever, this logic wasn’t sufficient permission to feel proud when I put all my heart into something.… Read More