Hello Dear Jana 😊:

Thank you for the ☀️ and for the inner child exercise and notes 🙏. I read the exercise but not all the notes yet (I am exhausted, see below).

Something happened in real-life yesterday, something very troubling to me. I am thinking of starting a thread about it, and your inner child exercise and notes can help me process and heal from what happened.

Will it be okay with you if I used the exercise & notes in a new thread that I might start?

Since it’d be another emotional thread that will mention some childhood abuse, do you think I should preface the thread (in the title) with a warning of some kind, to alert people reading in regard to possibly getting triggered..?

I’m interested in your thoughts and feelings, if any, in regard to a new thread on such topics..?

🌿 🤍 Anita

Dear Milda: I will read and reply at the end of the day, take care!

* a lot of good things

Wow! Wow, Thomas168/ Tommy-

You said it perfectly. I am so impressed with you, and grateful that you are back here- honest, direct, valid.

I have a new appreciation of you this Sat night, 8:53 pm here.

🌿🤍 Anita

Dear Alessa 🤍

I’m so sorry to hear about your dog’s passing. I know how deeply you loved him, how much care and dedication you poured into him, and how much he meant to you. That kind of bond doesn’t fade—it leaves a quiet imprint on the heart, one that stays with us always.

He was lucky to have you—and I imagine he knew it, in the way dogs do: through trust, in the way they settle near us, feeling safe to just be themselves.

I hope you’re able to rest gently in the love you gave him, and the love he gave you in return.

Sending you warmth, calm, and peace as you navigate this loss.

🕊️🌿🤍 Anita

Dear Milda:

I will soon be away from the computer for the rest of this Friday and I’m expecting a very busy weekend away from the computer. I wanted to add to my previous post that I know- from my own in-real-life experience with my mother- how difficult it is to separate oneself from a dominating or domineering (through a pattern of shaming and guilt-tripping) mother.

Separating from my mother, redefining the definitions she drilled into me (including that of “a good mother” and “a good daughter”) took forever for me, but it can take way less time for you, and I hope it does.

My story with my mother is not identical to your story with your mother. Our mothers are not identical, and we daughters, aren’t either. This is why it’s very important that your thoughts and understanding about your story are heard above anyone else’s interpretation. Your story= your interpretation.

I am here to help you best I can- not as someone who knows better- but as a fellow traveler in the same journey: reclaiming my individual, independent voice.

You wrote 24 hours ago: “I want what’s best, most peaceful for me.”- I like it very much that you want what’s best, what’s most peaceful for you.

What has proven best and most peaceful for me is to reclaim my own voice, to interpret my own story and to no longer doubt my own interpretation 🙂

🌿 🤍 Anita

I’ll be back to you, Milda, Fri morning (Thurs night here)

Dear Jana:

Thank you for the quotes 🙏

“Beginning Anew… is a practice of recognition and appreciation of the positive elements within ourselves and the other person.”- to me, this sentence stands out the most. This is what I need to do more of, every day.

“We look deeply to see the positive qualities in the other person and express our appreciation for them. Share at least three
positive qualities that you have observed in them and things for which you feel grateful. Be as concrete as possible….This is an opportunity to shine light on the other’s strengths and contributions and to encourage the growth of his or her positive qualities.”-

Jana, I observed that 1. You are honest and trustworthy, 2. You are humble, 3. You value and promote calm, peace and respect.

“EXPRESSING REGRETS- We may mention any unskillfulness in our actions, speech, or thoughts that we have not yet had an opportunity to apologize for.”-

I was unskillful in my actions, speech and thoughts so many, many.. many, many times in my life, I wouldn’t know where to start. In regard to being unskillful in my thoughts, the most unskillful element has been that once I saw a negative quality in another person (real or imagined negative), I became blind to the person’s positive qualities, and focused on the perceived negative or negatives, leading to a distorted image of the person. This is why the sentence (quote) I started this post with stood out for me.

In regard to unskillful speech- words I said to people irl, and words I typed out here in the forums- I regret all. I cannot go back in time and unsay things, or resay things, but I can and am holding myself accountable for my speech today and every day. While understanding perfection is impossible for anyone, I am more capable now than ever to speak skillfully.

I apologize for my unskillful speech in my communication with you, Jana, and I apologize to anyone and everyone who may be reading this in regard to my past unskillful speech.

“PEACE TREATY… I, the one who is angry, agree to: 1 Refrain from saying or doing anything that might cause further damage or escalate the anger.”- this sentence stands out the most in your 2nd post, Jana.

🤍🌿 Anita