Wow, This blog is saving me somehow to not drain into negativity. Trina, I share exactly the same feelings.
I feel insecure for don’t know what!
I feel people don’t like me!
I feel I’m not a good person!
I feel I’m not funny!
I feel I cannot make people around me happy!

Of late I had been watching some videos on building self-esteem and self-respect, and I think that’s where my problem lies… Let’s see if it helps me to be a confident person.

Lots of positivity to you!

Here I go!

Describe yourself in three sentences.
-28 years young woman from India
-Shy and reserved in nature
-Likes to cook, remain indoors and lead a simple life.

How did you first come across Tiny Buddha?
-When I searched in Google ‘How to be happy being single’. It was the second website that came in results.

What makes you laugh?
-Comedy shows

If you had to show one place where you live to a tourist, where would it be?
-Paris

What do you like to learn about?
-People
-Plants
-Vegetation
-Cooking
-Finance

I completely agree with lmh2515. Break-up before it gets ugly. Mistakes we girls do by feeling guilty is sending signs of ‘I want to breakup’. Giving these signals makes men crazy. In my case my ex tried to take revenge on me for all the small and big things; when he was at fault he would behave just as you described about your boyfriend’s behavior. Crazy completely and we feel bad for them.

Recently he had been bugging me calling in the middle of night, although after telling him, this is not the right time to talk, he kept calling showing his craziness; not for me but for his own problems that he cannot solve. Coward!

I think you’re smart and going in right direction. Just take some measures when you breakup like have some friends with you hiding somewhere; so that if he comes and does anything bad to you; they will be right there to save you.

All the best!

God; so many of us have had or going through breakups….It’s a good platform for all of us to come together and share our inner-being…what we feel…how we feel low…and someone to listen to…

I had a divorce and a breakup recently…And I’m going through the same phase of healing…Everywhere I’m reading about being gentle with our own self. About loving our self; self-respect; self-confidence; self-esteem. I think in the process of sharing life and loving another person; we tend to forget ourselves.

Of late; I had been blaming myself for the wrong decisions I took; and trying to make myself understand that ‘it happens’. Part of life! But I get scared to think of what next and if the next person will be the same? Or will I choose wrong person again? If I will change for the better? Other side of me; says…Time will heal everything. Let’s go slow. Not to hurry, not to make rules for myself. Anyone approaching to talk to me in office makes me feel; if this person hurts me or hits on me? I have become fearful of people. I’m not sure at this point if I will ever be able to find another person; rather ready for any other person in life; then the worry strikes me if I will die alone!

Then I recall all that I learned of late…..’Don’t be afraid of being alone; be afraid of being alone with the wrong person’. And it’s so true. We should be thankful that we don’t share the space/ambiance of torture or negative energies. Eat, pray, love! This time all for my own self. Love myself. Pamper my own self. Heal the hurt, be stronger, more sensible, more intelligent. After all, life is a learning process.

Paul, I wish you all the strength in this tough time. Just remember one thing; ‘It will pass’!

Lots of positive energy to you:-)

Hi Tammy,

I once read a quote: ‘If you want to live a happy life; tie it to a goal, not to people or things’.

Just when I read this; I went to flashback and realized that I was much happier and confident when I was concentrating on my career and what I want to do in life. And my life took another direction just when I started considering and tied my life with this guy; made him my world. I was wrong to do that.

Not that I didn’t do what I wanted to in my career; but it feels good to think there’s a long way to go. I often watch interviews of personalities, the way they achieved things in life and how they deal with criticism and stuffs. I only take inspiration out of it to never stop to have ambitions and achieve more and more each day. When I reach my 40s; I would want to give back to the society – Is the goal.

In short; the quote solved many of my mysteries. Hope it helps!

Stay blessed!:-)

Pardon my words but it was plain ‘stupid’ to have said that to a child! Some people don’t know how it can affect in shaping a child’s mind, his/her personality/inner-self.
I once heard my elder cousin sisters telling my mom that my brother has sharp and good facial features and mine are not so good. Since that day an image built in my mind that I’m not good-looking, now when people come and appreciate me; if feel like falling head over heals….which made me commit a lot of mistakes in my life. In short, it had battered my self-confidence. I’m still struggling to have self-esteem and self-respect.

Love yourself as much as you can! I once learned from one of my teachers…’You’re your best friend’. After all, beauty lies within the person; beauty that eyes can see is only external. You’re an amazing person!