Hi Mary,

I do not tolerate people who leave me hanging.  I think it is incumbent on the guy to communicate specific plans for the date ahead of time.  Otherwise you cannot make plans for anytime during that weekend and be at his beck-and-call.

If I was in your shoes I would text him saying that “Since I did not hear from you for making any plans this weekend, I must assume that you don’t care enough to want to date me.  I  wish you the best.”

That may sound extreme for some but I see that as an indicator for who he is as the person not showing you the respect or courtesy.

Mark

How can you love yourself better Joanna?  Can you start/do that?  Bit by bit?

Hugs,
Mark

I gave my daughter massage gift certificates.  She has back pain from a car accident.

Off topic:

Anita,

I find it fascinating how our Family of Origin (FOO as I like to refer to it) drives our relationships.

I wonder how I would fit in someone else’s attraction to me what would fit in their FOO past.

I know from my past FOO, I was unconsciously attracted to women who had underlying anger toward men.  Fortunately I became aware of that and worked hard on all aspects of myself, especially self love to alleviate that.

I see those relationships I attract are an indicator of my spiritual and psychological health.

I feel optimistic from my last relationship by being with a woman was not angry.

Mark

Dee,

I have been confused on the different kinds to practice.  Here is a link to help explain the differences.  Once you decide which on you want to practice, I suggest go to You Tube or just Google for the one you want.  Plus there are smartphone apps for it as well.

Om on!

Mark

https://visualmeditation.co/7-types-of-meditation/

https://liveanddare.com/types-of-meditation

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/320392.php

Lucas,

Good that you are aware of what works for you and what you don’t want for yourself.

I cannot help but notice of all the ideas I gave in my response to your post that you chose to respond to only one which your rejected because it is too uncomfortable for you to try.

It sounds that you’d rather wait for the right person in order to change than do the inner work for yourself.  Perhaps what it comes down to is that I haven’t met the right person yet.

You talk about wanting to come across as self confident and self assured and therefore it is too risky to try to be genuine.  I know that most people are not fooled by what we try to project and who we really are.  Our energy and body language gives us away of what is really going on inside.

Change is uncomfortable and can be scary.  Staying in our stuckness is familiar and safe.  I understand that being highly anxious is a daunting challenge to do anything.

I wish you well in your journey.

Mark

looking4hope,

Good for you for taking care of yourself, your self-awareness about your condition and behavior, your thoughtful view about how you got your behaviors from and for your ex-partner’s history and how it affected him.  I am quite impressed.

I am sorry for your pain.  Time is a healer pus being able to learn and look forward will help.

I am a believer in feeling into those uncomfortable and painful feelings rather than push them away in order to get through such things better so feel OK to actually cry with no judgment.

I seek out close friend support whenever I struggle with certain things.  It is better not to feel alone.  I recommend that.  Sometimes all you need is a long, close hug and/or someone just to hold your hand and listen to you without saying anything.

Take care,

Mark