Hey k8tyB, Im sorry for what your going through. I know it sucks and it hurts. I totally relate. Your situation sounds very familiar to what I’m currently dealing with but with less communication from my guy (I dont know which is worse!) I’m happy to hear thought that your will to leave is clear. Just remind yourself when the days are hard. Your ex if obviously jealous and insecure and needs to sort his issues on his own if he is to be a better person to you or someone else. It sounds like and I believe that you’ve done all you can but sometimes all you can do now is to just walk away from someone that doesn’t appreciate or is willing to change themselves for the sake of the relationship. All the thigns that you already know Im sure. His nasty texts are just to get a reaction so perhaps like Nan, says jsut delete or block him. They only cause stress. Did you two live together?

Dear Rory – you sound like a bright and successful individual just by reading how well written your post was. I’m sorry the holidays got you down. As with the others, I think that you should not invest in a condo but find an apartment or something where your not living with your mother but can still save for that condo you want. Eliminating her negativity sooner rather than later sounds like what you need right now. You seem to have your head on straight, you went to school, traveled, lived in China and have plans and goals to save for bigger things! That is something to be proud of! I know its hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel and going through each day with a heavy heart of feeling unloved or belonging but take comfort in knowing that your not alone. I have my own place and live in a big city yet sometimes I too feel so alone. We just have to trust in the process and believe that life will bring us what is best for us at the right time. Perhaps finding a new hobby or revisiting an old one to get you motivated again or find some meet up groups of similar interests.. put yourself out there to have a better chance to meet people while doing something you like, that way its carefree. Anyway, hope your feeling better today.

-gk

Hi Perry – I hope your feeling a little better by the time you read this. I know its hard and you feel absolutly dead inside. I very much understand. I could only provide advice to be gentle on yourself and surround yourself with positive things and people. Do things that will make you a little more happy and most of all try to get outside. Just being in nature, breathing in fresh air always helps me. It opens up my mind to reflect more. I hope you live near a forest, beach or mountains so you can do this. Im sure you alwasy here or read this, but the universe places people in our paths at the right time to teach us what we need to learn and will remove them when they no longer server us. If they stay great and if they leave thats great too. Everything is ever changing. Its hard to swallow that notion right now, but in time and if we trust in the process we will see it to be true. I am trying to understand all this myself : )

Much love.

wow wow thanks for that Jasmine. Ive printed that out as you should to Little Buddha! : ) Thats some good stuff.