Hi Laven

I’m sorry to hear about the difficulties with your foster mother. I wish you both all of the best with the upcoming appointments. Please keep me updated with how things go.

The hope is that she finds a measure of comfort with her family too, despite her complaints. Some people do like to complain about others. I can understand your concern about them bothering her given her complaints.

It feels very cruel to separate her from her main caregiver when she is in the hospital. I don’t really understand the mentality of people like that.

It is very kind of you to be a comforting presence for her and answer questions. I don’t know if this would interest you? I just read a story about someone’s grandmother passing and they held her hand which provided her comfort in a way that talking did not. It reminded me of what you said about being a comforting presence. I can understand if you don’t have that kind of relationship though. You are already doing so much for her!

I’m sorry to be short. My dog is very sick and I don’t know if he will survive.

Love and best wishes! 🙏❤️

Hi JC

I’m trying to understand the context of the situation. So the difficulty that your oldest dealt with was living with an abusive partner which you recommended? Or did other difficulties occur too?

I feel like obviously recommending that she lives with an abusive partner is wrong. But I can understand your concern for her finishing her course.

It was a good thing that you apologised.

I have had a baby recently. I can only imagine how difficult it is for her as a single mother. I would imagine that she is struggling with it and even struggling with her mental health.

You have done all you can. You are being the rational person here. Offering help of all sorts, it is up to her whether she wants to suffer or take it.

I don’t know the extent of what happened between you both over the years. It certainly is difficult dealing with generational trauma. The hope is that she will reflect on her own difficulties with her child. Her own behaviour will shape this child. I hope that she finds it in her heart to give you a chance when she realises how hard things are as a parent.

Just give her some time. She may not be so stubborn forever. Try not to blame yourself. For all of the difficulties that have occurred, you apologized, you care and you made an effort to help. That is more than some people. Perhaps try contacting her to check in regularly? Since she was worried about you not caring? Consistency is key.

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏

Hi Laven

I’m sorry to hear that it was the anniversary of your beloved pet’s passing, your birthday and no one remembered. That’s a lot on top of what has already been happening.

I think that even if it’s not a big deal everyone deserves to have a special birthday.

It was nice of your brother to write you a long letter. Perhaps he may still do so again? A lengthy letter takes time to write and people have busy lives. I truly hope that he reaches out to you again.

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏

Hi Laven

I don’t believe for a second that you are hideous. People age, it is a part of life. When you have been treat badly in life, it often adds to a feeling of unattractiveness.

I had a baby recently and being pregnant people said the most awful things freely about my body. It created an intense feeling of self-hatred in me. It’s really really strange. Only now am I starting to feel myself again and seeing my body as it is instead of through a lens of self-hatred.

It is impossible for someone with such a kind soul, to be ugly!

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏

You have every right to be angry. I think it is important to remember this feeling. Never let it happen to you again. Let it be the last time. Protect yourself from those seeking to harm you, because you deserve better.

Hi Klast

I’m sorry to hear about your difficulties with cancer and your career.

Since you’re unhappy with your current career options why don’t you try studying to build a career? There are a lot of different options.

Studying is very accessible these days if you have the inclination.

I have health issues and my plan was to build a career around my health issues. I decided on IT.

Unfortunately, everyone has difficulties in some form or another. It doesn’t take away what you’ve been through, but you aren’t the only one suffering.

On the one hand, what you have lost is a lot. On the other, you are still here. You have a family and a job. If you focus on what you don’t have, you will be miserable. Try appreciating what you do have.

If you want more than that, you are going to have try again. I hope that this time you will be successful!

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏

Hi Laven

It is not your fault. You didn’t choose the life you were born to. None of us do. All we can do is try our best to manage the circumstances given to us and work within that to try and better ourselves. You are trying your best! That is all anyone can ask.

I don’t think that anyone ever deserves to be treat poorly.

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏