How are you going IvyGirl.  I don’t know that I could add anything more as I’m not really creative in the way you are.  I’m really impressed, and I think you should just keep going at it.  Do you go to cartooning and creative writing classes.

I think you are onto something good. 😊😊😊

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I LOVED IT – but I have to think out input.  You certainly are very creative and imaginative XXX

Are, there is a t rally good FB page without of articles and discussions bit I don’t visit it anymore as I no longer want a relationship.  If I think of the name of it, I will let you know. I just cant DFO it anymore and no longer interests me.

Hi Arie,

I have been reading your posts but didn’t feel I could contribute a lot.

I have had relationships where I have become over-attached way too soon, and have remained anxiously attached. These relationships caused me so much mental and emotional anguish. In the end though, I have had to break away from them and work on myself.

If you read articles online about attachment styles, we often attach ourselves to people who are avoidant.

I was in a relationship around 5 years with somebody who came out and told me he is avoidant. He never wanted to change though and any relationship with him would have to be on his terms of simply accepting his avoidant personality and having a lifestyle of my own which was very independent of him.

My son and friends came to dislike him very much, and being in a relationship with him became very one-sided and lonely.

I wasted too many years and needless to say, I can’t get those years back and perhaps have met somebody more suitable. In fact, all of my life, I just went from one bad relationship to another.

You sound young, and likely have a lot more time to get to know yourself, and find out what qualities you re a lot want in a partner.

I love the Tibetan Book of Living and Dying too.  That book really stands out to me as well. I did read Louise Hay as well, and her books were very beautiful.  I know I feel at my best when I listen to recordings of guided meditations.  I live in the country and am not easily accessible to classes though a number if years ago, I studied 2 different types of Budhism – Tibetan through classes and a Japanese branch called Soka Gakkai which was in a group which met weekly. Part of the the focus of the second group was chanting. Then they would have some formal learning, and then informal discussion and friendship.  For a while we were also doing Mandela art together which was fun and relaxing.

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Yes  I got do much grommets Peters very thoughtful.post.  when I was in my 20s, I saw the film.”Gandhi” and became depressed after it. Gandhi had offered a solution to conflict which was rejected. I felt such deep despair.  Then when we had the Port Arthur Massacre, I had to stop buying newspapers and watching television for a few weeks.  It wasn’t that I didn’t care.  I cared a lot but these were situations I was powerless in, and my own depression would not be helpful to anyone.

I too hope the Russians go home to their families and that t j e Ukrainian people can all go home as well.