Hi Dude,

I think the music is fine. I would pay $$ though to upgrade the sound quality. A recording studio or a better recording studio?

So I have this talk with visual artists, but it’s kind of the same. Everyone wants to be a famous (or at least paid) artist. Then there is the Artist Life. The writing of songs/creating pictures. Holding shows. Getting equipment. Talking to other artists. Being in the studio. Teaching classes. Now, 9/10 nothing will come of it, and in fact, your art will cost you. But we keep doing what gives us joy: Making Songs and Art!! It’s OK to get a 9 to 5 job because then you get to have money to support your art!!

The other stuff: Chronic Fatigue, Depression, Anxiety. Get Holistic Health books on how to treat it. Follow the advice. If that fails, go to a regular doctor for drugs.

All the Best,

Inky

Hi Again,

Can you go on the internet and make bad review or a complaint? Go on message boards/forums and complain there. Write the name of the school. Several times. Basically make the website with your complaints/reviews be up on Google Search next to their website. So that anyone who searches for them online has no choice but to see your Review/Complaint link.

Go on Twitter. Do the same thing. Hashtag their name like crazy.

Don’t be surprised if you meet people who ALSO had a horrible experience there.

I’m part British too, raised in part by my English grandmother. So I know all about “grin and bear it” and how NOT to complain! But by writing it out and putting it online ~ where anyone and everyone can see it ~ where it WON’T go away – ever – IS the perfect response!

Now, you can still live out your dream. Just keep in mind that many things international, oftentimes volunteer run, WILL NOT be perfect!! And nothing like their shiny websites and brochures! Globally people in general ARE racist, self-serving, and openly imperfect.

When you think about it, simply say, “RESET!” and imagine yourself starting over, as if it never happened. Sounds funny, but it works!

Best,

Inky

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I would do the Wiccan stuff at the cross quarters of the year. Then get the reiki certificates. And be a healer while applying to or going to med school. If those don’t work out, at least you have the holistic stuff. Tell the rents that reiki is the laying on of hands as the early Christians did LOL!

Hi jeena,

At first blush it is probably because:

1. He is not conventionally attractive and/or

2. He likes the relationship the way it is. If he sees YOU for the first time in pictures or IRL, YOU might be less attractive than the image he has of you in HIS mind, OR he is afraid if he meets you IRL it “Won’t be the same”. Hint: It won’t. And/Or:

3. He is way older than you and has met online buddies IRL before and it always went badly.

I would just accept this friendship for what it is: Online.

Blessings,

Inky

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Hi Annie,

My “un-athletic” nephews have had tremendous success with Fencing! A perfect combination of skill and endurance! They both made it to the State level!

I, also “un-athletic”, have had a great time learning Krav Maga and Boxing (with standing pads and a partner doing sequencing).

I am convinced that everyone has their sport. Just “shop around” until you find something you LOVE. Being good at it doesn’t matter in the first year, but as long as you love it, that love will get you through to an intermediate level, IMHO.

P.S. Crew is murder on the back. Don’t feel bad. My DD has a bulging disk I believe because of it!!

Hi amalia,

I literally dreamt of marrying my DH too way before he proposed! I barely knew him! I’ve also dreamt of a friend saying “I love you” and then a week later he said it (!)

I believe the grandmother wants this to happen. And on some level, he’s wondered what it would be like.

Blessings,

Inky

Hi Annie,

Sexually, if you both are of age, almost anything is OK if it’s consensual, IMHO.

For the emotional abuse on his part, that was more wrong.

And for the communication, hey, you tried!

For the shame and guilt, you know, people try things. Now you know “That was not for me”. But you don’t know what you don’t know until you know. So now you know. No shame or guilt.

Best,

Inky

Hi Annie,

I would Drop the Rope. You’ve done it with not contacting him. But when you see him at work, this is how you Drop the Rope: When he says “Hi”, you say “Hi”. You don’t say “Hi” first. Let him take the lead, like in a dance. He doesn’t exist unless and until he talks to YOU! Then, FOLLOW his lead.

At the same time, imagine that you are a Princess. A rare jewel. A five-star card. It’s as if he tried to throw junk away from his attic but Surprise! It’s worth a million dollars! Reframe The Story to be he didn’t know who you were, and he now has to live with that regret.

Be polite when you see him. But remember, you are an elegant lady with escorts, balls to attend, and a kingdom to run.

Good Luck!

Inky