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  • August 23, 2015 at 6:58 am in reply to: what to do? #82193
    Inky
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    Hi buddha123,

    It depends. I would respond, but only have one communication a day and keep it short. This way there’s no endless back and forth. If he writes/calls and you respond with a brief paragraph text or a brief conversation and then say you have to go… This will force him to think about what you said. And if he texts/calls back and you don’t respond until the next day, he’ll really have time to think.

    People do change, but I would have no expectations concerning him.

    He’s calling because even though he still has issues, he doesn’t know where else to go! You can talk to him AND move on. OR you don’t have to respond at all, and hopefully he’ll move on himself. Do what feels right.

    Best,

    Inky

    August 22, 2015 at 2:11 pm in reply to: suffering from 8000+ days of being single #82182
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    Hi Deusexmachina,

    I agree ~ don’t call yourself “ugly”, even in your own mind! God didn’t create “ugly”. That said, there are things we can do to become MORE symmetrical, which is where “Beauty” lies.

    With Attraction, it all comes down to chemistry. I’ve known models who I was NOT attracted to. Then there were guys who looked more like Bridge Trolls that were so sexy to me! One time I went to my sister saying, “Why do I like him? He’s BALD!” You know?

    I’ve noticed that the more busy you are, the more people come to you. The less you need ’em, and the more you give ’em, they will come! I would get a cat and run a group. Seriously. When you’re the group leader, especially of a spiritual group, you will attract people who see beyond the physical. What could be more alluring at a party than when you say you’re the head of a meditation group? Or a volunteer leader who wants to save the world? Well, it worked for me!!

    Good Luck,

    Inky

    August 21, 2015 at 5:46 am in reply to: I think i made a mistake!f Need some serious advice #82134
    Inky
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    Hi jennyd419,

    I would simply start over. I wouldn’t actively pursue Steve, per se, but just answer his phone calls and texts and see where it leads. If he asks any questions about the past year, be honest that you dated a little and were even starting to see someone in particular but that never came of anything, and that mostly you’ve been on your own. That you had to figure out what you wanted and who you were before you found yourself in another long term relationship. I mean he’s been dating too, so it’s not like you were with him! Steve should be cool with that answer. Just don’t go on and on about the emotional part of that whole year. Mention it in passing if he asks, and keep it light.

    Good Luck!

    Inky

    August 20, 2015 at 6:57 am in reply to: Am I just wasting my time? #82097
    Inky
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    Hi Dude,

    I think the music is fine. I would pay $$ though to upgrade the sound quality. A recording studio or a better recording studio?

    So I have this talk with visual artists, but it’s kind of the same. Everyone wants to be a famous (or at least paid) artist. Then there is the Artist Life. The writing of songs/creating pictures. Holding shows. Getting equipment. Talking to other artists. Being in the studio. Teaching classes. Now, 9/10 nothing will come of it, and in fact, your art will cost you. But we keep doing what gives us joy: Making Songs and Art!! It’s OK to get a 9 to 5 job because then you get to have money to support your art!!

    The other stuff: Chronic Fatigue, Depression, Anxiety. Get Holistic Health books on how to treat it. Follow the advice. If that fails, go to a regular doctor for drugs.

    All the Best,

    Inky

    August 19, 2015 at 5:17 am in reply to: The Universe and Spirituality #82009
    Inky
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    Hi Libby,

    People write about “The Universe” as if they are experts. And just because an inspirational quote is posted on FB doesn’t make it so. Like, “The Universe is my Best Friend”. I read stuff like that and go, “Um, OK??”

    My personal take on The Universe is:

    1. We are part of The Universe. The Universe isn’t a separate entity from us when you get down to the atoms.

    2. Some One created The Universe. THAT’S where I get my spirituality from.

    See the difference?

    I would go to the Spirituality AND the Religious section of your bookstore. These sections are usually right next to each other. Pick out a book that resonates with YOU.

    I do like The Autobiography of a Yogi. Anything from Wayne Dyer you might like. But most importantly, see what YOU like!! THAT is your spirit leading you regarding what YOU should read!

    Happy Reading!

    Inky

    August 18, 2015 at 6:46 am in reply to: Closure, forgiveness and forgetting? #81954
    Inky
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    Hi Again,

    Can you go on the internet and make bad review or a complaint? Go on message boards/forums and complain there. Write the name of the school. Several times. Basically make the website with your complaints/reviews be up on Google Search next to their website. So that anyone who searches for them online has no choice but to see your Review/Complaint link.

    Go on Twitter. Do the same thing. Hashtag their name like crazy.

    Don’t be surprised if you meet people who ALSO had a horrible experience there.

    I’m part British too, raised in part by my English grandmother. So I know all about “grin and bear it” and how NOT to complain! But by writing it out and putting it online ~ where anyone and everyone can see it ~ where it WON’T go away – ever – IS the perfect response!

    Now, you can still live out your dream. Just keep in mind that many things international, oftentimes volunteer run, WILL NOT be perfect!! And nothing like their shiny websites and brochures! Globally people in general ARE racist, self-serving, and openly imperfect.

    When you think about it, simply say, “RESET!” and imagine yourself starting over, as if it never happened. Sounds funny, but it works!

    Best,

    Inky

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    August 17, 2015 at 5:53 am in reply to: So confused… #81910
    Inky
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    Hi ALBB,

    From now on when you make plans, tell him you’re going with or without him. When he sees that you are, in fact, leaving the house to have a fabulous weekend without him, he will join in. If he doesn’t, great, then you can see what it’s like on your own, if only for two days. Don’t worry about the added cost if he bails. Don’t be afraid of leaving with the only car, even. Just go. Pay money in advance (“hotel”/”tickets”) so you HAVE to go!

    Live your life whether he’s along for the ride or not!

    Best,

    Inky

    August 16, 2015 at 4:45 am in reply to: Lost in Life #81870
    Inky
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    I would do the Wiccan stuff at the cross quarters of the year. Then get the reiki certificates. And be a healer while applying to or going to med school. If those don’t work out, at least you have the holistic stuff. Tell the rents that reiki is the laying on of hands as the early Christians did LOL!

    August 16, 2015 at 4:39 am in reply to: Should I Stay, or Should I Go? #81869
    Inky
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    I would start with taking that trip without him. Then see how you feel.

    August 14, 2015 at 5:18 am in reply to: Guys are more confusing online than in person #81809
    Inky
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    Hi jeena,

    At first blush it is probably because:

    1. He is not conventionally attractive and/or

    2. He likes the relationship the way it is. If he sees YOU for the first time in pictures or IRL, YOU might be less attractive than the image he has of you in HIS mind, OR he is afraid if he meets you IRL it “Won’t be the same”. Hint: It won’t. And/Or:

    3. He is way older than you and has met online buddies IRL before and it always went badly.

    I would just accept this friendship for what it is: Online.

    Blessings,

    Inky

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    August 13, 2015 at 5:03 am in reply to: I found my dream job but I have to be strong enough to let it go… #81751
    Inky
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    Hi redemptionsong,

    Don’t be mad at your co-worker. She wanted to know hoping the answer was “No” so she could apply guilt free! Be mad at the system (I’ve seen this again and again in our schools) which pulls a fast one WEEKS before the school year (to reduce time for drama) and then offers you crappy hours as compensation. Then they have the nerve to have a new position open to the public (you get to compete against the world!) instead of utilizing the gifted, talented people already in house!!

    Could you apply to private schools in your area? Tutor in the meantime? Work at the crappy hours job only a few days a week?

    This is what it’s like to work in education!! Sadly.

    Best,

    Inky

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    August 12, 2015 at 5:16 am in reply to: Thoughts on beginning new sport #81700
    Inky
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    Hi Annie,

    My “un-athletic” nephews have had tremendous success with Fencing! A perfect combination of skill and endurance! They both made it to the State level!

    I, also “un-athletic”, have had a great time learning Krav Maga and Boxing (with standing pads and a partner doing sequencing).

    I am convinced that everyone has their sport. Just “shop around” until you find something you LOVE. Being good at it doesn’t matter in the first year, but as long as you love it, that love will get you through to an intermediate level, IMHO.

    P.S. Crew is murder on the back. Don’t feel bad. My DD has a bulging disk I believe because of it!!

    August 10, 2015 at 4:41 am in reply to: What to do when your friend 'steals' your lifelong dream…. #81532
    Inky
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    I think when we’re young, everyone’s pretty much the same. Then as we get older, our personalities really come to the forefront ~ sometimes not for the better. She’ll be this way as much as people let her get away with it.

    August 10, 2015 at 4:38 am in reply to: Dream interpretation please help friends. #81531
    Inky
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    Hi amalia,

    I literally dreamt of marrying my DH too way before he proposed! I barely knew him! I’ve also dreamt of a friend saying “I love you” and then a week later he said it (!)

    I believe the grandmother wants this to happen. And on some level, he’s wondered what it would be like.

    Blessings,

    Inky

    August 9, 2015 at 4:59 am in reply to: still fearful of an ex-toxic/emotionally abusive friend #81486
    Inky
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    Hi ryan,

    If they’re your friends, what you’re asking won’t be that big a deal. It’s not like the ex friend is inviting himself over! Just say (in guy speak): “For the dude’s saftey, don’t bring him over here because I don’t tolerate azzes in my space! BTW, he’s an azz.”

    If you do find him sitting there, lead him by the elbow to “show him something outside”. When he leaves the apartment, you stay in, and slam the door and lock it. Your friends will be all, “OMG, he’s serious!” and the toxic friend will be made a fool of and won’t visit anymore.

    OK, Good Luck!

    Inky

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