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  • July 30, 2015 at 5:15 am in reply to: feeling lonely, tired and unhappy #80846
    Inky
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    Hi belle1010,

    I’m afraid if you travel or learn French, or whatever ~ that that will be a mere distraction from your loneliness, not a cure. What I would do is “Dig Deep”. Learn to love being alone, AND really get to know and cherish the people you’re with. For example, our neighbors, each and all of them, have absolutely nothing in common with us! Yet, after fifteen years, I would cry if I had to move away from them.

    So live in the paradox of loving your own company and loving the company you’re in.

    Blessings,

    Inky

    July 29, 2015 at 5:41 am in reply to: Going down the drain – help #80723
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    Wait a minute. Listen. Right now you need rent money. Do whatever it takes to make that happen. Ads in the paper. Business cards. Word of mouth. A great one is house sitting. Pet sitting. I have a friend who does Social Media for all the businesses in town so they don’t have to. Girl just bought a house!! Tutoring. SAT TUTORING! We had a 60 something year old guy come to our house to help our son. We took him seriously because he WAS so much older! Looks don’t matter. Wear glasses and be shlubby in a nerdy way and you’re in! Seriously.

    THEN, when after you have several side jobs YOU offer to people, THEN after cash is coming in, THEN you worry about this existential “should I stop dreaming” stuff. THEN you continue job hunting. Just get the cash. I’m telling you, “College Coaches” are becoming in high demand. Help these parents launch their kids into college, that’s where it’s at right now.

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    July 29, 2015 at 5:31 am in reply to: Seriously. How would you answer this #80720
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    Hi ivan,

    Wow, that question (the first one, anyway) has always bothered me. I remember being FOUR, and riding in the back of the car, looking up at the moon. Then I remember freaking out, because, what if I’m not around to see the moon and the world through MY EYES, and the Universe ENDS? Because, you know, I’m NOT seeing the moon through anyone else’s eyes, and therefore, does it indeed exist??

    Consciousness has always fascinated me. I suspect we are closer to God/The Universe than we might think.

    Contemplating,

    Inky

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    July 28, 2015 at 5:17 pm in reply to: Going down the drain – help #80679
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    Hi bill,

    Why not start your own business/company? Get several Yellow Pages from different towns and see where there is a “gap” in your area. For example, what if the nearest dog groomer was 20 miles away from your town? And not to put down dog grooming, but how much skill is needed for that anyway? Even if you’re bad at it at first, you can only get better, and if you’re the only one in the area, no one will know the difference. (I’m just using dog grooming as one of many examples.)

    Or how’s this: Estate Manager? Honey-Do Man (“I do the jobs your Honey is too busy to do”)? Pool guy (we need one in our area) to fix the pumps and replace tile?

    Once you have a smattering of jobs, though small, it should get you through while you find something else. Or, your new side business will be YOUR business and you can even hire people one day! Who knows?

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    July 27, 2015 at 6:59 am in reply to: Feeling Stuck #80559
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    Hi dnlaurie,

    Well, with Weight Watchers, though the theory of it makes sense, in reality it is essentially Food Rationing. LOL! If I had to Food Ration I’d feel a block myself! That is reserved for famine and war time IMHO. You are already beautiful, from your picture.

    The happiest diet I’ve ever been on was Paleo. And the most effective one for me was juicing, blending, and eating fruits, nuts and mostly vegetables.

    I also don’t go on the scale. I have (and plan) a breakfast, lunch, dinner and snack. That’s about it.

    Essentially I’m telling you to pick something you don’t even have to think about.

    THEN, if you still have a block, we can help ferret out what it really is.

    Best,

    Inky

    July 26, 2015 at 11:00 am in reply to: What to do when your friend 'steals' your lifelong dream…. #80509
    Inky
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    Thx!! 🙂

    July 26, 2015 at 8:41 am in reply to: What to do when your friend 'steals' your lifelong dream…. #80497
    Inky
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    Hi anita!

    Thank You!

    Sometimes I feel like you provide the real advice and I’m the comedy relief! Love it!! 😀

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    July 26, 2015 at 6:12 am in reply to: What to do when your friend 'steals' your lifelong dream…. #80443
    Inky
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    Oh, I had a neighbor that would literally copy everything we did. We took it as a compliment, actually!! I’d use it to my advantage. If I wanted to join a club, do an activity or diet, I knew who to call for a buddy!

    And here’s a confession. One day DH and I said offhandedly that we wanted chickens. Wouldn’t you know it, they were actively building a chicken coop a week later!! I couldn’t take it anymore, watching them toil in the sun and said, “We changed our minds, chickens are a pain in the azz.” Got a very interesting dirty look. LOL

    Why don’t you tell her you’re on the 30 Bananas a day diet and see what happens? 😉

    July 26, 2015 at 6:06 am in reply to: How do you love yourself? #80441
    Inky
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    Hi Nicole,

    I would make a list. Make a list of loving things you would do for someone else, but in this case, do it for yourself! They are concrete things, rather than abstract thoughts.

    Examples:

    1. Get a medical checkup ~ dental, doctor, eyes

    2. Buy healthy and/or utterly delicious foods!

    3. Play hooky for a day.

    4. See a movie you’ve always wanted to see

    5. Go to festivals.

    6. Give yourself a gift ~ something you would never buy for yourself

    7. Take a long nap

    8. Get your nails done. A makeover. A massage.

    The list can go on and on, changed, etc. Make a list and do one thing a week.

    Good Luck!

    Inky

    July 25, 2015 at 5:12 am in reply to: Negativity Surrounds: Relationships, Finance, Career… Life #80418
    Inky
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    Hi chrisk,

    Another thing you can do is pick a “Mission in Life” that is beyond yourself. Find a church, temple or even meditation center. Most, if not all of them should have programs you can get involved with or volunteer projects. When you spend time helping others you WILL become happier! Also, you can’t help but meet new people. I feel like all the other stuff (romance, happiness, “a life”) will be added onto you if you do that.

    Why not try it?

    Blessings,

    Inky

    July 24, 2015 at 5:11 am in reply to: What to do when your friend 'steals' your lifelong dream…. #80359
    Inky
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    Oh my goodness, freespiritwonder,

    Some people in my very own family are that way!! What I do is “Keep my Goals Away from the Trolls”. NOT always easy NOT to talk or show evidence of what’s going on in your life and head. For example, if she sees you rocking a “Look”, she will not only “steal” “YOUR” signature look jacket, but she will buy the whole outfit!! Maddening, I know.

    But the reason she is so bitter is that once she “gets” YOUR dreams, there will STILL be a Hole in her Soul. She moves to the mountains. She will quickly discover that listening to nothing but screeching hawks and looking at God’s majesty ~ in the cold ~ ISN’T NECESSARILY FOR HER!! It’s for you, because you actually appreciate that. She moves to the mountains. So what? The mountains will still be there long after she copies someone else and moves to Vegas. See where I’m going with this?

    Usually Imitation is the Most Sincere Form of Flattery. You must be doing something right, girl! Also, I view her as a psychic vampire, an emotionally lost soul.

    Can you do a slow fade with this one??

    Best,

    Inky

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    July 23, 2015 at 1:57 pm in reply to: Just one of those days #80333
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    Dear Nicole,

    Don’t you see ~ he LOVED being the “Prize” in a love triangle! Now that you are gone, he just has this other girl to feed off from ~ and that’s not enough!! So he desperately tries to continue the drama by telling, boasting and posting. Even calling your own mother to bring you back!! Sad.

    Darling, You WON!

    July 23, 2015 at 5:02 am in reply to: How to find the purpose of your life when you have none #80296
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    Hi thefallenone,

    Sometimes you can go for years and years without knowing where you’re going, what you’re doing or why. Then one day something ignites a spark, an excitement, a compulsion, a passion. THAT’S IT! Follow that Golden Path.

    Blessings,

    Inky

    July 22, 2015 at 3:30 pm in reply to: Just one of those days #80265
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    Conversely, you can also write a blog ~ this time with your real name on it (I would do the heartache blog anonymously but that’s just me) ~ which talks about your life ~ and he’s nowhere to be found! Not even a hint of the past. Whichever one “Works”.

    July 22, 2015 at 3:20 pm in reply to: Just one of those days #80264
    Inky
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    YES!

    The trick is ~ never lie. Just tell the truth and have yourself always come out on top through a thought/event/conversation.

    Blessings!

    Let us know when the Blog is up so we can Follow you and Comment! I believe Blogger is free (?).

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