Thanks Pink Nails.

Hi Leila

You are not searching for happiness, eh ? What will you achieve by having connections and needing to look after others ? Why do you want that ? Perhaps, you need to look more deeply into why you want what you want. Unfortunately or fortunately, all of us are on the pursuit of happiness. Happiness doesn’t mean being in an excited state all the time. It just means having a state of being, whereby you feel calm, peaceful, grateful and content and have the strength to deal with whatever life throws at you. You are able to maintain this state regardless of any external situations, circumstances or people. Are we there yet ?

In response to your question – Yes, some evolved people can be very content without having friends or loved ones to share their lives with. They have chosen this path as they have realised that everything in this world is temporary except for unconditional love so they treat the whole world as their friend / loved ones.

Look around to see if anything is the same as it was from 2 years ago. I doubt you will have anything, which wont have changed. Even all the cells in us change every few months. The only permanent in our lives is change. Change of circumstances, people, situations, countries, emotions etc. A person who is able to embrace this uncertainty makes an awesome life for himself or herself as he / she doesn’t get stuck to outcomes. You just merely enjoy everything that comes your way and let go and march ahead with your head held high up. And trust me, this is possible with some self awareness and regular practice of unconditional love.

Previously, you found meaning in your career. When the relationship broke down, your focus changed and now you are looking to find meaning in connections. This doesn’t make sense. Do you think you are running away from your truth ? Perhaps learning to appreciate what you have currently may help you to foster the connections and career you look for. Live in the present rather than chase something in the long term.

And fostering connections take a lot of self love. If you are nice to YOURSELF, this love will flow onto others unconditionally and everyone deserving of you will be attracted to you. If you are nasty to YOURSELF, this negativity will flow onto others as well and you will attract similar events and people into your life. Why don’t you try it ?

Be kind to yourself Leila. You have spent 38 years being a slave to the world and its demands. How about changing this around to becoming a master of your life and going for what makes you happy and content ?

All the dots will connect. And please do consider seeing a GP or a counsellor to see if they can benefit you in some way on your journey. Stop the self pitying right in its tracks.

Jasmine

@taiki3 Hi Dylan Cron

I am so sorry for your pain. Please know you are not alone in this difficult time.

Ending a long-term relationship is not easy for anyone. However, you should look at the positives that have come out of this relationship rather than focus on the negatives. Negativity breeds more negativity but an ability to see blessings even in difficult times can prove very fruitful and meaningful for everyone concerned.

You are feeling hurt, betrayed and lonely – this is so natural and a much needed experience to grow you into a better version of Dylan -someone who will be compassionate and much more kind in the future. So tend to your needs FIRST AND FOREMOST. Let go of your pain – cry if you need to; ring family if need be; ring some friends if you need to; talk to the trees or birds in the nature if you have no one who can listen.

Let the pain / tears flow and once you are over the acute pain in a few days, give yourself a big pat and hug.

Then think of ways that you can move forward such as moving out, doing other activities where you can meet new people and make new friends etc.

Hang in there mate. You are much bigger than this experience and you will be just fine if you let it be. Storms come and go. Nothing stays permanent. This sad experience wont stay there forever either. Learn the lessons and keep marching ahead with your head held high up.

SMILE PLEASE 🙂

Jasmine

Hey Steve

Silver lining is that for the last 2 months, you were able to see a different version of Steve. Steve who was so scared of online dating has suddenly dated 2 women and found out that letting go is not that hard once you make up your mind. This is not about winning or loosing anymore. This is about Steve moving forward in life regardless of all rejections whatsoever.

Who has the courage to reject you if you don’t reject yourself ? Now, that’s what I call a rainbow beneath the dark clouds 🙂 OR a new quote I came across – A straight road doesn’t make skilful drivers 😉

Cheer up mate. It aint so bad and trust me, there are a lot of more fish in the water if you decide to look.

J

Thanks Matt and Big Blue.

Hey Steve @guitardude

Matt and Steve provide a great insight and hope it will make you realise that hey, “I am indeed a valuable contributor to everything and everyone around me :)”. So give us a big smile now 🙂

I too believe that each one of us is contributing in various ways. Just by being in this world at this time is a massive contribution. The air you exhale out through your nostrils or mouth is becoming part of another human or other things on this planet. The air you breathe in has already been exhaled out by someone else. We are all connected at a very basic level. Our needs and wants are all same.

We just need to be kind to ourselves and stop being so judgmental. With judgments come the non-acceptance for self / others; our love becomes conditional; we find it very hard to forgive self / others for even the smallest things; and being grateful for every tiny thing becomes the hardest challenge of our existence.

So if you still feel that you don’t know to contribute or you feel sick of not contributing, just start with the simplest mantra – THANK YOU. Thank everything – from yourself to your family / friends / neighbours, food, shopping malls, air, plants, cars, toilets, transport, homes, utensils etc. The more grateful you become, the simpler and purer you will become and life will become a breeze.

I have read your earlier posts over the last few months and I can already see how much progress you have made at a personal level. Keep moving forward. You are doing so well 🙂

Best wishes,

Jasmine

hi Sarah Jane @sunflower

The earlier you tube on 3rd Chakra was for Kaya77.

I recommend the following videos for you and see if they work. First one is for 2nd Chakra and the next one is for heart chakra.

Let us know how you go. I feel a lot of your symptoms and pain is related to lack of self-belief and self-love….and both above videos will help to balance the chakras out 🙂 It will need to become a daily practice if they work.

J

Thanks Kaya77 @kaya77

I am sorry to hear about your suffering. Are you holding a lot of anger or resentment within you by any chance ?

Have you tried chakra healing ? Can I recommend the you tube below for 7 days for 11 mins a day. See if it makes a difference. All you need to do is close your eyes and listen to the sounds.

Thanks

J

Thanks everyone.

Hi Steve @guitardude

I am sorry for what has happened. I know you have developed feelings for the lady but can you just let it be ? Do you really have to go out of your way to win someone’s love ?

I will repeat again – what is yours, none can take it away and whats not yours, you can keep slogging away and keep proving yourself, it aint coming to you. You made a sincere effort and just leave it at that. The moment you have to justify your actions or you feel the need to justify yourself to others, you are walking away from your path. You will get hurt unnecessarily.

Just be you and trust me, a lovely woman, close to your surrounds will accept you the way you are. Give yourself more credit than you have been giving. There is no other steve in this world. Remember that.

Sending you strength and positive wishes

J