Thanks Jenna.

Hi Network7

These words from Susan Jeffers come to mind as I read your post. See if the words resonate with your heart and provide you with the answers that you seek.

Follow your heart – Shoulds or shouldn’ts are signs of our need to conform. They come from the lower self. They make us worry. They make us do too much, think too much, plan too much. They make us lose sight of who we really are. Remember that from a Higher self perspective, our enjoyment and contribution to life come from following our own heart…..and everyone’s heart is different.

Be your own person – tune into the wisdom within. The Higher self holds wisdom beyond our wildest dreams that can lead us to exactly where we need to go for our highest good. Simply ask your Higher self what is right for you to do relative to your purpose here on earth, listen for the loving response, then act accordingly. This is being your own person. This is being the best that you can be.

Sending you loads of positive energy,

J

Hi Dimple

I am so sorry for your immense loss. Nothing I say or anyone says will comfort your heart in this difficult time. Sending you loads of love and healing. May your heart find some peace and answers that you seek.

Your daughter’s soul will not be able to rest in peace if you continue to be traumatised. For your daughter’s sake, rest your heart and cherish the good moments you had with her and send her your best wishes.

There is no way to justify the loss you have suffered in terms of this physical existence. However, if you still need the answers to move on from this grief, you may be able to find the answers in the karmic philosophy. The ancient wisdom tells us that every soul comes into our life to either teach us a life lesson or learn from us. Nothing is permanent in this world. Everyone comes on their own and lives on their own. You may ask as to who determines as to which soul will take birth in a certain situation ? Who decides if a parent will have a physically handicap child or loose a healthy child at a young age ? Who decides our parents for us, which race is right for us etc ? According to the ancient karmic wisdom, we ourselves decide our fate before we descend on this planet. We do this to learn certain life lessons (such as forgiveness, accepting self and others as they are etc) and the ultimate life lesson – unconditional love. Love, which is beyond physical existence and boundaries.

Your daughter’s soul is somewhere around you. When you are able to rest your grieving heart, you will feel her everlasting presence and you will be able to move on in your life with love and higher awareness.

Lots of love,

J

Thanks Matt. Completely agree with your advice. I learnt this lesson the hard way few years ago and am glad that I am over this life lesson atleast for now 🙂

Hi Vivek008

It is a little difficult to understand your writing but from what I can gather, your sister-like-friend owes you money. You have been brave enough to ask her back for the money that she owes you but she hasnt and instead she calls you, “psychomaniac” ? You obviously dont like this “label” or her behaviour towards you. Is this correct ?

If I were you, I would leave the emotions out of this transaction. On one hand, you love your friend like a sister and on the other hand, you feel sour as she is calling you names and not returning the money she owes you. If your love is sincere, leave the money out of it and hopefully, one day she will realise her mistake and return the money she owes. If the money is more important than this relationship for whatever reasons, then go through the right channels to get your money back.

Remember, as money is important for survival, it can create rifts between loved ones and friends alike.

In my experience, you cant have it both ways when it comes to money dealings with most people unless the transaction is a business deal or based on strong personal values or understanding (ie I take money from you for a personal need and I will return it ASAP ). If people could get away without paying their debts, I think many of us would avail that opportunity as it is an easier path to follow. A conscious person will not take this path, however, developing this mindset requires self awareness and spiritual growth.

Perhaps, this experience has been put in your life so that you can grow and evolve from it. Dont be sad or go mental over it. Money can be earned but the moments that you have lost crying over it will never be earned back. So think about it. What is more important for you – your mental peace or lack of it ?

Sending you loads of positive energy and hope you find whatever you are seeking,

J

Hi Anyone

Whether we like it or not but Everything is temporary in this world from the moment we are born into this world to the moment we depart from this planet.

Do not let material things bind you down to a person whom you do not love or want to share a happy existence with. You can always accumulate the stuff you have left behind in her house. If i were you, I would let her do whatever she wants to do with the stuff. I only want my peace of mind and it is obviously not with her.

Let her and everything, which is keeping you down GO once and for all.

Cheers

J

Thanks Chad. CD is an interesting concept in the scientific world.

Hi Wilson

There is no harm in learning from your adventures ( either bad or good ) as long as your adventures are not causing an issue for anyone else.

According to the Karmic philosophy in the wide world of spirituality, there is no such thing as a “free lunch”. Every action leads to a consequence. if you cheat someone of $1, you will have to return that $1 in some form or the other. According to the law of attraction and vibration, like attracts like. If you give out positivity, you attract more of the same. If you give out negativity, you attract more of the same. These positive or negative emotions all culminate from our thoughts and hence, the famous saying, “you become what you think about the most”. In order to understand as to why things dont tick for you until you experience it yourself is to check your thoughts. What sort of thoughts do you indulge in ? Is there a pattern to it ? if yes, then change the thought pattern to bring about a positive change in your life. One way of changing thought pattern is to practice positive affirmations. Louise Hay provides an excellent resource on that.

Once your mind accepts that there are no free things in this world except for love and smiles (and everything else that the nature provides), you wont feel the need to engage in activities,which will lead to remorse. It will also become easier for you to reason with your “ego” when you are about to engage in such activities.

Lots of positive energy coming you way,

J

Hi Lilly

Just have a heart to heart chat with your partner and explain how you feel. Share your fears with him. If he is meant for you, he will understand and support you and your relationship will grow. If he doesnt, that is his loss. Either way, you will be doing yourself a favour.

It is sometimes natural to feel insecure when life is great and you have an amazing partner. However, dont let this insecurity create a bridge of doubt between the 2 of you.

Feel grateful for what you have and appreciate it even more. Love breeds love.

Lots of positive energy your way,

J

Hi Ainka

It is ok to feel that you have lost all the desire to live until now. However, pls count your blessings before you say such things again in the future.

– There are so many kids born with all sorts of life threatening conditions in this world and who loose their fight even before they can make a choice about anything. They dont even get to feel any love. What wrong have they done ?

– there are so many kids who do not even get one proper meal a day. What wrong have they done ?

– there are many spiritual and non-spiritual families who have lost their loved ones to tragic circumstances. What wrong have they done ?

– there are thousands of people living in this world who are handicap (either physically or mentally), who still go on to make a life for themselves. What wrong have they done to deserve what they got in life in the first place ?

I can go on and on about the people who are not as blessed as yourself and yet they are doing something special with their lives and moving on lovingly despite all their unfair or unwanted circumstances.

So making a mockery out of your life. Take the first step to turn your life around today. Start doing little things that make you feel good and show it to the world that you deserve your place in this world. You deserve every breath that you are inhaling, which your so called sinner ex partner is inhaling as well.

Life is not fair for most people in the world today but we always think the grass is greener on the other side. Why dont you go and swap a life of a 34 year woman living in a low socioeconomic condition, who has no job, has 5 kids but has no money to feed them or educate them and has a devoted husband for the name sake. Will your life be worthwhile living then ?

Blessings to you and this will be my last post to you. Only you can turn your life around. Me or other TB forum members can only provide our best wishes but we cant live your life.

J

Hi Ainka

The let go is not happening maybe because you feel in your heart strongly that you have made a mistake in letting him go. You feel personally responsible for his abusive behaviour towards you as he is not that way with his wife. You feel that something is wrong with you as he was happy to have a son with his wife but talked about abortion if you had a child together.

You do not love yourself. This is where things are going wrong. If you loved yourself, you would not have any issues letting go of anything in this world. When you love yourself, you develop an innate trust in the Universal power to look after you and your needs. If you love yourself, you will go with the flow of life. If you love yourself, you know that everything is happening for the best and everything will work out in the big scheme of things (be it kids, husband, career, friendships etc)

Could you pls try practicing this for the next week or so ? If you do it with sincerity and open-mind, you will see a marked improvement in your feelings.

I love myself unconditionally
I accept myself the way I am
I forgive myself for all the pain I have caused intentionally or unintentionally.

Sending you heaps of positive energy and acceptance.

J