Hi Sofia,

This problem seemed to start when you were approaching puberty and you are still going through the process of change that has to happen for you to become an adult.  Your sexuality is just one aspect of that and, believe it or not, another aspect is that we rebel against our parents, their teachings, their rituals, their rules.

You say that a word can provoke a sexual response.  I am going to suggest that the way you relate to a word provokes the sexual response.  If you think of your favorite food, your mouth may begin to salivate.  It’s a normal response.

Why are you focusing so much on trying ‘not’ to have a response.  Of course you will get more of it.  Your mental energies are being directed to that area so you are getting a response in that area.

I do hope that you can talk this through with a responsible adult as you seem to be feeling so guilty over what harm you may or may not have done and this problem is being exaggerated in your head beyond all proportion.

Peggy

Hi Katie,

Your friend is having a bad effect on you because you are not resonating with her.  Every time she criticizes the way someone else looks, it reminds you that she has criticized the way you look and there is no justification in it.  Try not to get involved in the conversations.  Tell her that you think it’s shallow to judge people on their looks alone.  If you can’t change the conversation, think of something good to say about the person she is criticizing.  If all else fails, cease to be her friend.

You’ve taken your friend’s words so seriously that you’ve gone out and checked for yourself.  The results do not support your friend’s words yet still you look in the mirror sometimes and revert to thinking and believing that your nose is too big and your friend was right all along.

You ‘inherited’ your nose from someone in your family, as Inky pointed out, and it didn’t stop them from finding suitable relationships and procreating.  It’s just a nose.  It breathes in air.  It breathes in smells.  It keeps you alive.  Who cares what shape it is?

Stop focusing on how your nose looks and start focusing on all the wonderful functions it performs in keeping you alive.

Peggy

Dear Anita,

Thank you for all the kind comments you have made about me and your appreciation.  You have given so much over the years to people who have posted using your own wisdom and experiences to draw upon and now you have been able to receive someone else’s wisdom in return.  The right person at the right time has appeared.  As much as I might have given to you, I have also received back.  Most people don’t ask the challenging questions that you have asked and your questioning has given me the opportunity to re-read material that has already been integrated into me but is not often in my conscious mind.

I have just referred to my Course Lessons and came across a paragraph on how the balance is maintained between oxygen and carbon dioxide (I knew it was there somewhere).  “The ultimate factor in controlling respiration is chemical, and dependent upon a critical level of blood alkalinity being maintained.  As soon as the presence of acid, resulting from a build up of carbon dioxide in the body, threatens the alkaline reserve of blood, there is stimulation of the respiratory center in the Medulla Oblongata (upper part of the spinal cord) which sends out nerve impulses to the respiratory muscles, and inhalation occurs, followed by exhalation and expulsion of carbon dioxide.”

If only we could all learn to let go and let our bodies do the amazing job for which they were designed and which we all take so much for granted and don’t even think about very often.

I also came across this text from my favorite secret mentor, William Lee Rand, which is relevant to what we discussed somewhere.  “In the 1920’s and 1930’s, a distinguished researcher at Yale University School of Medicine, Harold Saxon Burr, suggested that diseases could be detected in the energy field of the body before physical symptoms appear.  Moreover, Burr was convinced that diseases could be prevented by altering the energy field.

These concepts were ahead of their time, but are now being confirmed in medical research laboratories around the world.  Scientists are using SQUID instruments to map the ways diseases alter biomagnetic fields around the body.  Others are applying pulsating magnetic fields to stimulate healing.  Again, sensitive individuals have been describing these phenomena for a long time but there was no logical explanation of how it could happen.”

SQUID stands for Superconducting Quantum Interference Device.

I hope the breathing exercises will bring you a more peaceful existence.

Kylin has been very quiet so I don’t know if she’s been reading these posts but if she is I would like to send her a note of appreciation for her post which has facilitated these discussions and reassure her that sometimes, even if she is not aware of it, she might just be saying the right things.

I will look for any future discussions on my new topic.

Take care.

Peggy

Hello Anita,

I am sorry that you had such a disastrous start to life.  It’s a wonder you survived at all.  You must have a really strong, fighting spirit.  I wish someone had told me before I had my children that every child that is ever born is a miracle.  I didn’t come to appreciate that until they were grown.  It should be taught everywhere.  I think the world would improve 10,000 fold if we all felt valued in that way.

It sounds as if you have basically understood my posts.  With regard to the diaphragm, we were taught that this is such a large muscle that when the diaphragm relaxes, then generally the whole body relaxes.  The diaphragm relaxing really refers to breathing out.  You may have noticed me advocating once or twice that people place one hand at the base of their rib cage on the soft area (solar plexus) and breathe into it.  This is how you can check and modify your breathing.  You need to be able to feel this area expanding and then you will be able to tell that the breath is being taken down into the base of the lungs.  I don’t know why you would want more than this (belly breathing?) as oxygen is distributed via the lungs and veins to every cell in the body.  You can also put your other hand on the center of your chest roughly level with the top of your bosom or slanting upwards to check where the most movement is.  There should be greater movement in the lower hand than the upper hand.  This might take some practice if you are used to permanently shallow breathing.

On the subject of safety, this again comes from the Root Center and our first experience of safety should be within the home (our family, our roots).  Of course, you never really had that so you need to create that for yourself in the sense that you belong on Earth to which you are magnetically attached.  When I feel the need to earth myself, I either visualize magnets on the base of my feet or roots growing down through the Earth’s crust.  I know it sounds weird but it does work.

‘Surrendering’  just means giving yourself over as you would for any other treatment such as your MRI scan.

Please let me know how your tests go.

Peggy

Dear Anita,

For most people, the majority of tension is held in the neck, shoulders, head – furrowed brow, grinding teeth, jaw may be jutting out, constricted blood vessels leading to headaches.  Some people may begin with tension predominantly in their abdomen but eventually, if left unattended, a chain reaction is set up in the body and to a greater or lesser degree, any and all areas of the body can be affected once the areas of tension have become established.  Shoulders frequently carry emotional burdens which weigh us down and possibly originates in the individual not having been supported very well emotionally.  The closing in of the shoulders can also be a way of protecting the heart (not very efficiently) but our body does the best it can at the time.

Negative thoughts create negative emotions.  Positive thoughts create positive emotions.  I am sure that we have abstract thoughts which can come and go without having any significant impact on the body because they are neutral.  Ultimately, we need to be aiming for balance so wherever we are on the positive/negative swing, it is relatively easy for us to return to the state of equilibrium.

Thoughts (Brow Center) vibrate at a higher rate than emotions (Sacral Center) and if action taken refers to physical action then I’m guessing that the Root Center (lowest vibration) would be involved.

Healing is far easier to carry out than discuss as it is such a vast subject and our bodies have such an amazing capacity to self heal.  Healers are really just facilitators of the self healing process and whatever healing energy is received by the client will be distributed and prioritized by the intelligent force operating within.

I will respond to your question on how can healing impact on thoughts/neurological pathways later.  I think the most probable answer lies in a scientific explanation which I will do some research on.

I wasn’t expecting to enter into this kind of communication either but it’s good for me to refresh my memory in this way and even though I know what healing can achieve, I still find it awesome.

Peggy

Hi Midnightsun,

You say that your boyfriend has always flirted in your company around other women which chips away at your self confidence.  He is now flirting in your place of work with another woman making you feel uncomfortable and arousing feelings of anger and hatred which you are working to overcome through meditation.  The boundaries between working and personal life will be crossed if your boyfriend takes this person up on her offer and socializes with her.

Being passive in this situation is a choice that you are making.  I think you need to discuss this with your boyfriend in a calm way by making “I” statements.  For instance, “I feel uncomfortable when you flirt with other women in my company” or “I feel disrespected when ….. ” or “I feel angry/hurt/upset when………..”

I think you will know by his reaction whether or not he cares that you are upset.  If he doesn’t give you some kind of assurance that he will modify his behavior,  then take that as a sign to move on.

Peggy

Hi Anita,

Depending on how Reiki is taught, the system allows for the placement of several hand positions on the body which would run from the top of the head to the bottom of the feet, both front and back, whilst the client is fully clothed.  As a healer becomes more experienced they may chose to select which hand positions they believe would have the optimum effect.  The client, however, may prefer not to be touched and all healers should respect that and work with their hands away from the body.  Also, I find that if the hands are placed directly on the body, there is less awareness of what is happening in the auric field where the seven different levels are present.  Disease (ill at ease) can happen in the auric field long before it reaches the physical level and becomes a medical condition.  I would normally commence a treatment by putting my hands on the client’s shoulders for a couple of minutes to attune myself to their energy field and work from there, sometimes with my hands on the person and sometimes away.

Every body is different and every energy field is different so I was giving a general indication of where the emotional body may exist in relation to the physical body and how I would detect and treat imbalances on that particular level.  I would look to treat my clients on all levels, physical, mental, emotional and spiritual as everything that happens to us has an impact on all levels even if we are not aware of it.

Healers have a code of conduct to abide by and they are not allowed to diagnose conditions or promise cures.  If medical evidence is presented then the healer would have a clear indication of main areas to be treated but would not necessarily only treat those areas as there could be other weaknesses that have not been detected.

I need to come back to you on the subject of emotional energy when I’ve had some time to put this into some form of logical context.

Peggy

Hi Rod,

The spirit never dies.  It just leaves the body when death comes and unites with other spirit that have already passed.  ‘They’ being loved ones wait for you on the other side to greet you.  There are countless anecdotes from people who have had near death experiences who can verify this and testify to it not having been the right time for them to leave their earthly existence.

That heavy pack will be made lighter by sharing the load.  Taking time to express your thoughts in writing them down is time well spent.  Even if you don’t want to share them with this forum, there is always someone willing to listen.  Shine a light on your darkest thoughts and see them for what they are – just thoughts.  Shadows are not created without the sun.  The sun is there whether you choose to see it or not.

One last thought – just because someone else has placed burdens upon you, it doesn’t mean you have to carry them forever.  The road to health and well being lays in letting go of all the mental/emotional issues that are not serving you very well and living in the present.  Ramble away with a backpack full of healthy, nutritious food and drink and perhaps a compass to guide you to a safe haven of light and love.

Peggy