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  • August 5, 2020 at 4:58 pm in reply to: my Bf of 16 years is being forced to get an arranged marriage #363936
    Nita
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    Hi Anita.  Ok I reread my post I wrote it very late so forgot. So here’s what happened. I don’t go to his mom’s house in general  he too had moved out and was keeping separate. He ended up going there on his own alone that’s when he suddenly started acting this way.

    You’re right, I did go as I was looking for him after that sudden change. I still don’t think however that it’s because of that because in the time he mentioned it his reasoning was so there would be zero contact.  I do feel his mom is behind it as she’s always telling him to get one against me so she can get him married elsewhere.

    I just don’t get what’s happening here. I’m just thinking he’s not like this.

    But looking at stories on here I’m trying to find similarities on these things regarding arranged marriages.

    For now, I’m in a distorted mindset  not even sure what is going on to even know what to do. Any advice?

    August 5, 2020 at 10:38 am in reply to: my Bf of 16 years is being forced to get an arranged marriage #363907
    Nita
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    Anita, no, I wrote when He (my bf) went to his mothers house.   I dont go to her house however she did say for me not to go there. There was never any forceful going to his mom’s or aggression in any way. His purpose forgetting it is so I stay away from him and never contact him.

    As I said before, his whole demeanor changed within 3 days it’s sort of unusual and creepy. I also know him for 16 years and he is not anything like this. He’s really kind and doesn’t do anyone wrong.

    I didn’t want the Wiki details on Fiji. I wanted to see if anyone knows about such people to see if this type of behavior seems odd or if parents have this much influence. To be quiet honest, I’m really feeling a 6th sense something doesn’t seem right and I’m not sure what to do given he’s filed and is like a zombie that you cannot do communication with.

    August 5, 2020 at 6:06 am in reply to: Losing my boyfriend to an arranged marriage. #363849
    Nita
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    Nevermind guys I created a new thread!!

    If u guys can follow n advise it will b good.

     

    Link:

    my Bf of 16 years is being forced to get an arranged marriage

    August 5, 2020 at 5:17 am in reply to: Losing my boyfriend to an arranged marriage. #363847
    Nita
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    Hi guys, how do I create a new thread?

     

    I want to share my story and gain input.  I will like to make a new thread.

     

    But to make it very brief, my situation is very similar to you guys’ except there are some unusual occurrences.  In you guys cases the guy doesn’t want to go against his parents. But in mine, his parents were against it but he fought for me. he was discussing court marriage with me, invited his friends and told them about our plans then all of a sudden within a matter of 3 days after going to his mom’s house turned extremely 180 and ends up meeting an arrange marriage girl for the first time (a girl whom he told me he didn’t like earlier). Since then he’s gotten aggressive strange weird. Right now he’s trying to threaten me with a legal case.  Remember this is a guy who moved out of his parents house to be with me and changed to extreme level in 3 days ?!?

    I’m trying to talk to him but there is no communication possible. Things are too strange right now. He’s trying to put a restraining order on me.  And it 3 days ago he was discussing our marriage plans and future with his friends and me.

    I’m just not sure what to think or do.

     

    If admin can pls open up a new thread for me with this post I would appreciate it.

     

     

    January 29, 2019 at 12:11 am in reply to: He Left me after 7 years together for Conservative Parents.. Help me Please! #277513
    Nita
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    Anjum do u have WhatsApp? If u can share with me that’s best pls

    January 24, 2019 at 6:10 pm in reply to: He Left me after 7 years together for Conservative Parents.. Help me Please! #276713
    Nita
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    Hi anjum. How many years were u with him?

    I am glad someone wrote on this forum bcuz I m going through severe depression and need to chat with someone going through same thing.

     

    January 23, 2019 at 10:27 pm in reply to: He Left me after 7 years together for Conservative Parents.. Help me Please! #276535
    Nita
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    ‘bubba’, what culture are u from?

    from ur story it seems to be that his parents already didn’t want the wedding because they did not even take the invitations that’s a red flag.

    What did ur parents say about this matter?

    January 23, 2019 at 8:17 pm in reply to: He Left me after 7 years together for Conservative Parents.. Help me Please! #276525
    Nita
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    Hi Nikki, can you update us with how things are going now?  I just read all the ladies posts and

    I myself am going through this hell you ladies went through.  If anyone wants to talk pls let me know. I am just trying to heal reading stories and realizing I’m not the only one this happened to. I’m in the phase of keeping hope.

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